My now 4 year old hates his sitters house. I know it is different for him, she is older and has grown children living and helping with the little ones, but he is not the only child there. He would scream from school to the house about how he didn't want to go. Over the summer he stayed at a friends house a few times, she also babysitts, and there was no problem. Now that school is starting again and he will need to go back, I am trying to find a new place for him. His friends mom is practicly full and can only have him on 2 out of the 4 days I need.
Should I take him to both? Wouldn't that be hard on him?
Any ideas of what to do?
Thank you for all the advice. Your words helped me convince my husband to look around. I found a mom who is in scouting like us and does child care for the same price as what I was paying. My son is loving it there. It is so nice to be able to drop him off and head to work knowing he is having fun and doing well. I feel more productive at work and ready to face the day each mornig. Again thank you!!!!!
HE"S TRYING TO TELL YOU SOMETHING AS LOUDLY AS HE CAN!! Are you listening? (rhetorical)
If he screams about going to one sitter and doesn't make a peep about going to the other, then what happened to him at the one sitter's house? Find out. And no, don't make him go back to the first sitter's house; find someplace else pronto. GL!!
I completely agree with the other ladies. If he screams about one and has no problem with the other, do not take him back there. You need to find another place. I know it is difficult and I wish you good luck. But please, children know an uncomfortable place when they are in it, and it sound like that place is not a good place for him.
I would say that something has happened over there for him not to want to go back. I would definately find another sitter ASAP. I have been through many sitters over the years and this is one of the first signs that the situation has gone bad. The last sitter we found we thought was great. When we first started taking our kids there it was fine. My 1 year old (at the time) took to her very well. I would drop him off and he would go play and be fine. Then one day he started to cry on the way there when he realized where we were going. Once inside he would then proceed to cry harder as I left to go to work. When I got there to pick him up he wouldn't let me put him down at all. I quit my job a couple of months ago to stay home and it wasn't until then that my older kids started to tell me that they hated it there too. I felt so bad! I thought that it was just a stage with him but now I know it wasn't. As hard as it is to find someone to care for your kids you really should find someone else right away!
Listen to your gut on this one. Do not take him back there. Has he ever told you why he didn't like going, maybe try asking? Your child should be happy, and put on a smile when they see someone they like and have fun with. That was the whole reason I decieded to stay at home with my children. I know its not the best option for everyone, but it worked for us. There is even a daycare section on craigslist. I'm not saying everyone on that site is perfect, but do your judgement in the interview for that. Best of luck!
I'd go ahead and try someone new. Not because there is anything wrong with your current care, but just to see if he thrives better in a new environment or is just suffering from a fresh bout of separation anxiety. Try to choose just one provider, the consistency is good for kids.
Good luck!
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This is a mother intuition . Only you can answer to yourself if you feel guilty . But some children run their parents lives and manipulate for no good reason. What does dad say. Have him drop off or pick up . If you chose to take him back ,do surprise visits and come when your not expected to. Good luck and god bless
Try and get him out of that place as soon as possible! I went to child care places my whole childhood and my parents never listened when I disliked a place. It isn't worth your child being unhappy.
