Second Child - Kalispell,MT

M.,
I have 3 kids and all three were different as babies, the first was a breeze and I was thankful, my second had colic and was great through the day but at night I would walk the floors with him, and the third was fine as long as I was in the same room. My youngest is now 3 and is a wonderful yet stubborn little man, my middle son is a very sweet outgoing 7 year old while my oldest 9 is timid and a little on the shy side.
Every baby is different and once they are here you love them no matter what.

NO, that is not true. I would have to think that you get what you get, but I have had three kids and none of them where like that. They were all very good babies and slept all night early on.... but they are all very different children. :)

This doesn't really answer your question, but my son was born on feb 14 and is just the mose awesome baby ever. Not a crier, always smiling:) and I am with you...I am so scared to have another one because I just feel like the next one will be a holy terror. There is actually no fact to that, I don't think. I have been told however that the child is relaxed and happy if the parents are. Meaning if you don't freak out about every little thing and keep them locked in a closet away from every germ and everybody then they will be calm and relaxed and not freak out either. So I personally think that parenting has a lot to do with it. Good luck with your decision.

M.,
That is just an old wives tale. I have 4 children and each one is more laid back than the first and none of them were criers. It is wonderful that you have such a good natured baby. Good luck with your family.
A.

I don't think that is true. My first child is now 28 mo and is a great little boy. He was always a happy baby and is generally well behaved. Everyone told me "oh, look out when you have the second one". We had our second baby in September, they are 20 mo. apart and he is just as well behaved as the first, he isn't fussy he's very happy. Also my 1st is a great sleeper and everyone told me I wouldn't be so lucky with the 2cd but my 2cd is also a great sleeper (once we got out of the newborn phase of course). Anyway, my point is that each child is different, but not necessarily in the way that people are telling you. :)

Who really knows if that is true or not? It might be for one family and not another. My kids were pretty much the same, with only a few small differences. My daughter was a wonderful baby so everyone told me that my son would be bad. He was easier than her!! All kids are different, don't let what people say discourage you from having another. You know there's nothing like a baby in the house :)

M.-
I am sure that is not always true, but it was true for me. Except it was the opposite I got the fussy high-need baby first and then my second was much more easy going. I think it would be quite lucky to get another easy going child, not to mention 2 kids are a lot more work anyways. Having 1 child is so easy compared to 2 whether they are easy going or not. Whatever kind of child you get it does all work out in the end. My 2 kid's personalities seem to compliment each other (most of the time lol).
Brekka

People don't know what they are talking about. My son was a very happy baby. A little colicky at first, but not bad. Slept through the night, all that goood stuff. My daughter is even happier. She hardly complains unless there is something wrong. She had a brief fussy bit that only lasted about 3 weeks. She took longer to sleep through the night and she is more of an early riser than my son is, but other than that I had two wonderful, happy babies. If you are happy, calm, relaxed parents, you will have happy, calm, relaxed babies. Alot, I believe, is environmental. Some kids are higher maintenance no matter what, but I think the odds are in your favor you will have another happy baby.

I think you will enjoy having another baby when your son is 2. My kids really love playing with each other. In some ways it's easier to have two than one.

Hi M.! You can never predict the personality of any of your babies. My two boys are complete opposites now that they are 4 and 2 but as infants they were very similar. Don't let the fear of a little crying worry you. Even if your next one is a handful you'll love them for being who they are and maybe even respect their strong need to be heard and reckoned with. Two years apart has worked out wonderfully for our family because Jake had just turned two, two days before Ryan was born. So it was nice that he still liked to sit in my lap, read books, and do more quiet activities verses now with all the crazy boy energy that has taken over the house:) Anyways, I guess what I'm saying is don't get ahead of yourself. Your baby will be two in a blink of an eye, so hold on to him tight and cherish every step because it goes by really fast.

I heard the same rumor. Your second child is always the worst! Well I have a son who is 5 and a daughter who is 2 1/2. They are totally different characters! We thought my son was a great baby! Never any big fusses at all. My daughter came along and she was an even better baby than Jonah. I do find that as my daughter gets older she is easily upset by the littlest things which my son never did. I say go for it, it took my awhile to get pregnant with my daughter.
Good luck

It's true every child is different but you love them anyway. I would consider all the problems that can occur. If you don't like fussy babies maybe you shouldn't have another one. Two can be more work but I have one who was real easy going and one that fussed and it wasn't really all that different. You learn as you go. Good luck.

I have 3 children and they all have different personalities. All three of my children were good babies, but each their own little person. Your second will be different than your first, but not necessarily a fussy baby. The 2nd may have more of a tendancy to cry than the first, but you'll just have to see what kind of little person he/she is and find what works for you. Honestly, my second was much easier than my first because I knew a little more and what to expect. Congratulations on your first little boy!

The running joke in our family is the our first one was soo good, that the second would be the poster child for birth control, and somedays I think she IS!! But over all, all my kids are good kids, yes the personalities will be different, but as long as you treat everyone the same and keep being consistant with them, you will have no big problems! Good Luck!

I have 2 boys who are 19 months apart and neither of them is a crier or was a fussy baby. I think there is always that possibility but I would have to disagree with people who say that the second one will be the opposite because mine aren't. There are some ways my boys are different but neither of them were fussy as infants or cry alot when they got a little older.

Don't let people scare you like that. No matter what the child is like, you will love them dearly :) I think, more than their personalities (which will be differnt, because they are 2 different people) The sooner you have your second, labor will be easier, your oldest won't get as bored with a play mate, they'll have more in common, and you won't get out of the hang of things yet. My oldest is 4 1/2, and my youngest is 6 months. I was used my son feeding himself, being potty trained, sleeping regularly....I even had time to myself cause he was in preschool. Now I am staring ALL over :)~ I did try for them to be closer, but it took me a year to get pregnante the second time around.

Youy know, everyone told my hubby and I the exact same thing. Our daughter, our oldest, was an excellent baby. She only ever fussed when she was not feeling well. She was happy and content and slept completely through the night at 4 months and before that only woke up once a night to eat. We were petrified that our second would be the polar opposite. Suprise!!! He is even more laid back than she was. He wakes up once a night to nurse. He is not a fussy baby. He is very content and alert, like his sister was. You may get lucky and be blessed with two happy babies.

No it isnt true. All babies are different and you have a 50/50 chance of getting one like your son or not. Anyhow, your son is still very young and I dont mean to sound negative but babies go through different phases and tomorrow he may become fussy and a crier. I have twins and one of them was fussier as an infant but the other was MUCH harder to handle as a toddler. My advise to you is to not get caught up too much in listening to other peoples advise and have another one when you are ready.

You never know what kind of personality your baby will have, but no matter what you will love them!! If you are in doubt or unsure you should probally wait until you are both 100% positive that you want another baby.

hi M.: I have only 1 natural child, and 1 step-daughter. My child was also wonderful. My siblings do however have 2 each and there second child was happy also. Do not let other people scare you in to what they had. Having a baby is a decision for a couple only not for out siders to sway your choices. mine are 2 years apart. My siblings are also 2 years apart. I am the middle child and my parents have always said I was a good baby also.
The best of luck for you.

That is not true. Both of my babies were very good. They rarely cried and were almost always happy. People can't tell you your next baby will be bad. Nobody knows. I honestly think its all in how you raise them.

i wouldn't believe everything you hear my first 2 boys are 17 months apart and they both slept thru the night from the day i brought them home .... they are the best of friends now and its hard to keep them apart..