S.H.
Its hard to really know what is going on with the Nanny... except that she and you say that your daughter needs a lot of attention and cries a lot.
A baby, to me, can't be "spoiled" at this young an age... but they certainly know patterns to activities and responses. So, this may be what your daughter is "reacting" to. Babies "react." They don't premeditate actions 12 steps ahead of time or try to manipulate.
Okay. So that is what babies do- they cry. Babies get "separation anxiety" at this age. Its normal. Perhaps your baby does not even like the Nanny- thus she cries. (my daughter, from a very young age of a baby....simply did NOT like certain people or the vibe they gave off, some babies/children can tell who is 'nice' or 'not nice.' )
There are lots of "perhaps" and "maybe" this or that.
BUT, the bottom line is... a child needs comfort, they go through developmental changes (ie: separation anxiety), and beyond that they do learn from us and get either anxiety or not.
My daughter as a baby, was very sensory sensitive and very "needy." She ALWAYS had to have someone WITH her and NEXT to her while doing anything. But, she was not a "crier." She communicated it in other ways. But, her "separation" anxiety, was not a big deal for her and she had good "adaption" ability and transition ability. BUT she would cry hard if anyone or anything scared her, even though I was right there. I "knew" that about her.
My son, is tons more easy going. But he will cry if he wants attention or for any reason, as most toddlers can do.
For me, all I know is, a baby/child will get "used to" whatever is the routine/habits in a home or with their Parent. If they feel comfortable and secure... they adjust to changes and transitions better. Then, it may also be partly personality... of the baby/child.
Okay but the thing is: at this young of an age... a baby cries for any reason. They can't "talk" after all... and how else are they going to communicate? And instead of thinking that your daughter is attention-getting... maybe she is just bright and social? Thus, it just SEEMS like she always needs attention. MOST all babies LOVE attention.
MOST babies also love physical interaction... after all THAT is how babies "learn."
AND, a baby at this age is NOT good with "strangers." THIS IS NORMAL DEVELOPMENTAL issues. BOTH my kids were like that too, and I was glad... because fearing strangers is also a survival-ability in a baby... so that they ONLY know "Mommy" and don't just go to others who may harm them. Its an instinct. This is called "Stranger Anxiety" and is a NORMAL developmental phase.
There are and will be MANY developmental phases, coming up.
I would recommend the book "What To Expect The First Year" which is a major good book for any first time parent. You can find it at any bookstore or even on www.amazon.com
All the things you describe.... seem like NORMAL baby stuff to me.
AND, I think, that possibly, your baby just did not "like" the Nanny. I would find one that is more appropriate and nurturing and who KNOWS about child development.
Both my kids, as babies and now, will simply NOT go to anyone.... regardless of who they are... if they have a bad vibe about them. I am proud of that "ability" in my kids. I do not see it as a "negative" trait.
All the best,
Susan