Sleep Problems - Shawnee,KS

Have you tried maybe having something for him to sleep with like a stuffed animal or blanket? Myabe does he need a nightlight?

Hi M.. Try using a night light. what we did is use a small touch lamp they are brighter and my boy could turn it on by himself. works for us. as well as leaving a light on in the kitchen that way he can come to our room if he gets scared.

My son did the same thing. He always slept in his own bed, loved his toddler bed, then suddenly at about 23 months, refused to sleep in it at all. He would only go to sleep in our bed with us (we have king bed so its not a big deal). Being an attachment parent, I won't let him cry and scream, because it really does no good. He's at an age now that he simply gets out of bed and finds me or my dh. I wish I could do more than say I'm in the same situation, but all I know is mine started doing it when he gave up the bottle finally. We had a hard time getting him off the bottle, and when he finally gave it up, he refused to sleep in his own bed. So it may be an attachment issue. He's so attached to our bed at this point, my trick that worked when he was younger of taking him to his own bed after he falls asleep doesn't work because he wakes up within a couple hours of hitting his bed (if I even get in there with him) and comes back to our bed.

However, you may try transferring him after he's asleep and see if it works for you.

The doc said that its whatever we want to do but he's probably just going through a phase and will eventually want his own bed again.

A lot of people say if you co sleep they'll never leave your bed but that's just not true. I know many parents who have done it and most kids are out of their bed between 2 and about 3 and a half. Most kids decide on their own (with a little parental influence) that the big kid bed is better. I'm an attachment parent though, so I believe in co-sleeping if possible. The truth is we don't mind him in our bed because if we'd had a king size instead of full size when he was smallwer we would have probably already been co-sleeping anyway.

Good luck.

I have to disagree with the cosleepers. It has been proven that that is a terrible idea, and these parents often find themselves struggling with getting these now ten year old children OUT of their beds.

Instead, understand what prompted the change. At 19mos, babies get their molars, and this very often results in sleep pattern changes. It is imperative that they learn to put themselves back to sleep at this age, or they will not learn it. Instead of reacting, you should leave them be to cry it out. Look up CIO techniques online, there is alot of info about them. We have raised six children and this is experience talking. My 21mo went through it recently, and is now back to sleeping through in his own bed, not mine. Good luck.

Hi M.,

Well when he wakes up in the middle of the night, just tell him to go back to his room and go back to bed. It will be a fight but that is the only way you are gonna get it solved. I think everyone goes through this at some point.
I know one of my daycare kids did, she just turned 2 in June.

My son went through that phase, as well. I would not give into the co-sleeping, or it will become a habit that you wished you would not have started! He may be having bad dreams, or a fear of some type or another. Try to assess what is bothering him. Walk him back to his room and sit with him a few minutes, providing assurance. It is probably just a phase.

A.

I have loved having my boys in bed with me. My 3 3/4 year old has been in his own bed for the past year. He started on a mat in our bedroom, and then we moved him to his own room. We still have our 2 year old in bed with us. I plan on starting his transition in a few months. My point is, that if you want to let your son sleep with you, it is o.k.

You could start him off in his room (this gives you alone time), and then welcome him into your bed when he cries. I think it would be best to give him the love and comfort he is asking for at night time. Put yourself in his place and try to understand what he needs. He is still a baby and a lot of things happen in a day when you are 19 months. It seems all he wants is love and comfort during the night. Anyway, I have said too much.

I am always suggesting the following website, but it has really helped me many, many times. www.askdrsears.com
Dr. Sears, his wife and his sons, all promote attachment parenting. Co-sleeping is just a part of this parenting style as there are many other topics you can read about on the website. Please give it a quick visit before you decide what to do. Good luck.

L.

I don't know how much I can help but I give my 4 yr old a toy we call the magic baby bunny that sleeps with her to keep away the bad dreams.My 18 month old has had a problem lately in her bed and I have sat next to her for a couple nights till she fell asleep and repeated it for the middle of the night wake ups.One of those many nanny shows says to keep moving a little bit away from the bed every night till your out the door.It might help even if it is 3am.My girls had to share a room for a while and they always slept with out a night light and with the door closed.My youngest now has her own room and if I close the door she will get up a couple times but will put herself back in bed.I have a moniter I can watch her on so I know she is in no trouble and if she is staying up to long I will go in and tell her its time to lay your head down.Give her another kiss and tell her goodnight.She eventually goes to sleep.Niether one of my children slept with me once they were past six months so its a part of routine to not.If you stick to one routine they will catch on.If he sleeps with his door open maybe you and put up a gate to let him know mommy's room is not an option.This way you also have control of where he can go and you can come to him instead of him to you,he should give in and sleep in his own bed.I hope something here helps and I wish you the best of luck:)