M.,
As has been stated before, YOU deserve 'me time'. Your hubby sounds a little hypocrital and selfish to some degree. Instead of your marraige being a partnership, it sounds more like boss and employee. (I'm sure he's not a bad guy but,... come on ,really? ) It's great he wants you at his games, but, your child needs the support more than hubby does. And why on earth would ya need to go to his practices,maybe he he gives you a little room, and once in a while the schedules work out where you can go to both games as a family. Work out some give and take with him, switch nights doing dinner and/or the dishes, bathing the kids, etc. Being a Dad wasn't just a convenience and I would hope that he doesn't want your children to grow up thinking that of him. This is his chance to shine and have great one on one time w/ the kids. Ask him what's so scary about that .
Maybe he feels inadequate about seeing after the kids by himself, but, there's no time like the present to learn and kids don't come with instructions. He might just have to wing it for a while,but, you do deserve a break, learn to say NO and mean it . As women ,it's hard for the nuture instinct to be ignored , but, you can't be there for everyone all the time and if you don't take care of you ,no one can do it for you. And, if you're feeling this way now, imagine 5 yrs from now, your relationship will suffer immensely and you'll be bitter . Make allowances, if he 's gone for 3 hrs you should be entitled to the same amt of time (might even curb his time away, if you get my drift) fair is fair. His time is no more important than yours is. And his kids need him as much as they need you. Being a parent is a full time commitment ,not just when it's convenient for you . Hope all works out well, (and hubby may find a happier wife, as in YOU, IF HE'LL JUST WORK WITH YOU), C. S.