OK my son is court ordered to go stay with his father during the summer but what I see on fb is drunk pictures of my ex and his friends my son is no where to be found he doesn't use his time with my son and when he does have him he had pictures of a beer in his hand on the side of the high way waiting to go to birthday bash and my son was in the car with my exs mom and next to her pic is says WASTED by my bf is our DD and u can see my son in the back seat I am furious cause I 12hours from where they are so I cant check it out my self the birthday bash is a drunk naked fest and a 3 year old shouldn't go to but all the stuff I see lately on fb is them getting drunk or having partys and I knew the grandma smokes weed but I can prove anything what can I do to get his visitations token away cause after this summer my daughter will have to go with him for the summer when my 3 year old called me he begged me to come get him and said he wants to come home my hands are tied until the court gets back to me I have proof of the partyin pictures on fb I printed out what else can I do I know they party every weekend but I am scared if I call the cops and tell them they wont catch it in time or they will give my son to cps until I go get him please help I am so scared for my son who knows what else is going on in that house another thing to add my ex was arrested with his brother and mothers bf a couple days ago cause of being drunk and fighting my son was at his house with his mom but they were on there way back home when they got pulled over...HELPPP
I have no idea.. but I think that was the longest sentence I've ever read.
Call the police in that town and have them do a welfare check on your son. If ex is drunk or there is suspicious activity going on they can take your son and call child welfare. THIS IS A GOOD THING!
If the state takes your child away from him visitation ceases except under their direct supervision. You will be able to have a representative come to court and testify as to why they are involved in your child's visitation. You will win hands down. He will have supervised visitation until he meets each and every one of their requirements which will likely be that he completes a rehab program and takes some parenting classes.
If you fear for your son's safety you need to call the police and have them do a welfare check. Right now.
If you want to modify custody based on his lifestyle, get ready to have your life put under a microscope and also to spend every penny you can possibly scrimp up on a custody battle. In that case you would want to call a lawyer, some are probably working on Friday.
I'm sorry that you had a son with a loser. You are going to have get your sh*t together in order to un-do as much damage as possible. I would start with counseling so that you can learn some tools and techniques to help YOU understand how best to help your son. You can call them on Monday and get an appt set up.
Good Luck.
Talk to your attorney IMMEDIATELY and ensure you and the attorney both get good screen captures of these FB images now, now, now. If your ex realizes you could use them against him, he is going to delete them so you need screen captures as evidence! Do not wait.
Then tell your attorney you want to pursue a new court order, instantly, to prevent your children from going to your ex this summer, due to this evidence.
The fact your ex was arrested for drunken fighting while your son was in his custody (does not matter than son was with his mom -- your son was legally in his dad's custody) -- that alone should be enough to get a court to at least delay any further visits with your dad. Your attorney needs to know that too and should already have been told! An arrest provides a perfect piece of legal evidence. You may not be able to prove grandma smokes weed etc. but you now can use a formal arrest record to show that dad is a drunken lout.
Why are you posting here instead of contacting your attorney? It sounds as if you have some excellent evidence but don't have a clue that it actually IS evidence against him. You really need legal help immediately. If you do not have an attorney you absolutely must get one, because you are not using the evidence that is sitting there available to you. If you think you can't afford one, please check into whatever legal aid there is in your area, or ask at a "women's center" in your town or city.
We can't help you here. You need a lawyer and you need to get to court for an emergency order before your kids are back in your ex's custody. One of your kids will end up hurt or worse when with your ex or his mother. Don't waste time here -- go get legal help as soon as offices open tomorrow morning. And get those FB screen captures, with an attorney's help.
You also need legal help because your post is rambling and doesn't contain a single finished sentence -- you can't talk in court like that and be understood. Emotion and blurting out everything at once will get you nowhere with a judge. Being organized, communicating clearly and staying cool are what you need here. I am not saying this to insult you! I'm saying it because for your kids' sake, if you can't communicate clearly to the court you are not helping them, or yourself. Get legal help -- now.
If your Ex is so trashed, naked, and drunk all the time it should be fairly easy to print copies of these FB pictures as proof.
Thne, don't send your son as ordered, as I seriously doubt someone like this has the wits or ability to file contempt of court charges. Use the excuse that your Ex's life style speaks for itself and you were too worried to send your son into harm's way.
I would hope that the pictures of him w/the kid by a vehicle & the caption 'wasted' would do something, if you take him back to court?
Other than that, I got nothing for you!
~Totally don't mean to be snarky...but...what do you really expect US here to do to help you? This is all stuff you are supposed to think about BEFORE you have (Not 1 but 2?) kids with someone!!!
ErinL=MEAN...c'mon, was that really necessary. This mom is clearly having troubles and simply wants to confide in other mothers.
M., good luck to you...it sounds like you have a good case to prevent future unsupervised visitation. Print it all out and put it in a safe place for your attorney.
It must be heart-wrenching to not be able to go get your son when he is begging :( I couldn't imagine! Hang in there, you're on to something with all of the evidence you have.
You have to notify the court right away-and your best hope is that the child will be removed from the father's custody until you get there-it sounds like your son would be better off with a pack of wolves-who by the way are very protective of their offspring-quite the opposite of many parents. I'm praying for your children and you.
