J.D.
Hi,
I hope all is going a little better. On the "plan" have they tried reinforcing good behavior rather than taking away when he is bad. He may just need to be shown what happens when he is good--like spending one on one time is great--but also right away reinforcement. Hey son, you are doing a great job at ..... here is a sticker, tootsie, new book.....whatever might work. And how are you to get him "under control" when you are not there? Be specific in your plan and maybe include your son in the plan, too. Accountability sometimes helps even at a young age.
I would check in with your peds doc too. Although, our first told us we were just over protective and worry too much for first time parents. We have since had our oldest diagnosed with high functioning autism (6 years ago)--so the moral of the story is if the Dr. brushes it off, don't let them get away with it or especially let them make you feel bad--find one who will sympathize and then help you!!!!
Take a breath and keep reading for ideas. Being informed will be you ally.
J.--mom of 3 boys and a great hubby