Toddler in My Bed!!

I am the father of a 1 yr old and a 3 yr old. We had the same problem. We got my daughter a little sleeping bag that she picked out. ( had puppies on it) We let her sleep in it on our bed a few times then moved it to the floor in our room. After a week we moved it to the floor in her room. Then onto her bed. After time, she was thinking more about what she slept in then it's location. Good luck!

well I know this is so common so with my kids we moved alot to the point that my son was 2 1/2 and daughter 14 mos before we finally moved where they each had their own bed. I transitioned my son first into a toddler bed. I just kept putting him back everytime he got up and the first few nights are horrible. I simply stayed calm and consistant. Now the first night we allowed him back in our bed after a few hours then made him stay longer and longer. Everytime he got up I would explain to him that this is where he sleeps. He had night lights and toys that he chose in his bed. Two weeks he was doing much better. He would wake at like 5A and want in our bed but now he is 3 and sleeps there no problems! In fact sometimes for naps I have him sleep in my bed so his sister can sleep without him distracting her and he wants to sleep in his bed and gets mad at me. I tried other ways like where you slowly transition them but that didn't work with either kids so this way is not easy on you cause it makes you feel bad but it worked for us. But I was in tears myself but at some point you need sleep yourself! I have two kids 16mos apart and I was like its time for them both to sleep on thier own. I was exhausted from such lack of sleep. Well good luck.
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The more I talk to people about this - the more common I find it is- I thought we were the only "bad" parents that let our kids do this- and then we realized- like 80% of "bad" parents do this too- we're not bad- we just want our peaceful sleep, and if that means letting our toddler sleep with us- then we do it. And one day we finally get our kids out of our bed and then we learn what its really like to sleep well at night because we are not being kicked all night long- and we stop and think- Hey, why didn't I do this sooner. Every kid is different, but this is what worked for our 3 year old. Every night we established a pre-bedtime routine (this is probably NOT what helped the most though- but did contribute,) then we would go to his room and he would pick out two books. We would read those. We would lie in his bed together and sometimes he fell asleep to me reading to him and sometimes he would have to fall asleep afterwards. After about 2 weeks of me lying in HIS bed with him until he fell asleep, I would read to him and then I told him Mommy hurt her neck and it hurts to sleep in his bed, so I am going to sleep on the floor, but I would be right there. I would lay there for about 10 minutes, wait to hear his change in respirations, then sneak out of the room. If he woke up and came into our bed, we carried him back to his own room, and put him back to sleep. Then after about a week of this- I would read 2 books, and then say I am going to work in my office, right next to your room, I will be right here if you need me. He is now almost 5 and still sleeps in his own bed, no night light anymore and no more coming into our bed. Everything is better, including sleep, sex, and all of the other things that you lose with co-sleeping. I am sure you will find success at the end of this road- but it won't be quick- we tried the quick tricks and easy fixes but no luck. Every kid is different, but this is what worked for us. Good Luck!!!!

I have a 2 year old daughter and what worked for me was to put her bed at the foot of mine. She was in her bed but she was still near me. It worked!! Pretty soon she didn't want to sleep with me and my husband, she wanted her bed. After about 6 months, I moved her bed into her room and she has been in there ever since.