My daughter is 18 months old. For teh past several days - we put her to bed.. and she throws he blankets and pillow and pacifier out of the crib-- and then cries because the pacifier is gone.. So we go upstairs and replace the pacifier ... and then she does it again.. any suggestions on how to stop this behavior.??? I know it is a stage and it like all stages will pass in time.. but suggestions are appreciated.
hi my name is C. i went through the same thing the problem is that they want attention they no you will go back upstairs and get it for them.what i did was stop getting it when they throuw it out.after the 2nd night my son didnt do it anymore
If you have the patience for it, you could let her learn to deal with the natural consequences of her actions and spend the night without the pacifier. I'm sure that would come with a lot of screaming and crying and very little sleep, but it may keep her from tossing it out of the crib again once she realizes that no one will come and get it for her.
My 18-month old has pretty much always done this! We wait a designated amount of time (usually somewhere between 10 and 30 minutes depending on when he threw the items and how much he is protesting) and then go into his room, retrieve the items, give them to him, and lay him down. We do not talk to him, or look him in the eye. The number of throwing occurences has decreased dramatically and he no longer protests loudly. He has figured out that he wants those items and if he throws them it does not mean immediate attention from mommy and daddy nor an immediate return of the items! Good luck! Let us know what works! God Bless!
The next time she does this tell her the next time she throws her pacifier out of the crib she will not get it back, and when she does do it, stick with your guns and do not give it back to her. This should stop it within a few days, even if you have to go through hell, she will learn that this is not the way to get you to respond to her.
Hi Lisa,
I agree with everyone else. I have a 17 month old son and he started doing the same thing. It took one night without his blankie and paci and he hasn't done it again. I would go in there once if he threw them out and tell him that mommy won't get them again but I haven't needed too. Good luck.
Chris
My 19 month old does the same thing! She throws everything out of the crib and then cries because her blankie is on the floor! It's just a manipulation tactic, best thing to do is ignore it. I know it's hard to ignore the crying, but once she learns that throwing her pacifier is not going to make you come running, she should hopefully stop doing it. Plus, maybe this is a good time to go "cold turkey" on the pacifier!
The only advice I can give is to not give her her stuff back. She's doing it cuz she knows you'll come back in and get it for her. Bad attention is still attention.
Lisa,
I know taking the paci can be hard ( hearing from others as mine never had one), but the throwing things yea they did... then came the climbing out themselves..... I would get it once and tell her if she throws it again make it for 2 pts... cuz garbage can it goes...lol (hide one for ur own sanity) Maybe she is ready for a "big girl bed in which no paci can go" blankies are ok cuz they keep us warm....and pillow well we need it..... I know it sounds harsh, but my oldest is 17 and youngest is 7 (of 4 in total) and it has worked every time
Good Luck to you
T.
Hello. My daughter is almost 3 now and around that age she did the same thing. This was very difficult, but i would go and put it back the first time and then tell her that if she threw it again i wasn't going to give it to her. of course she threw it and it was hard but she cried herself to sleep. the next night she started only with the blanket and i didn't go in but she wouldn't throw her binky over. Then later when she was finaly asleep i would go back in and cover her up. I don't know if that helped much but thats what i did. Let me know how things go!
