J.B.
I don't! My house is always a mess. I'm currently between housecleaners, but it's always scattered. We get the kids to clean up after themselves, but that doesn't take away from the fact that the floor still needs sweeping 3 or 4 times a day! I'm hoping that, starting Monday, with both kids going to preschool and PreK, and no longer being at home with a nanny, that the house will stay a little more in order. It's almost impossible to find time to exercise! Whenever I can, I take the boys in the double stroller and walk a long time, but that doesn't happen every day. We're about to rejoin the Y near us, but then I have guilt over picking up the boys and depositing them in yet another childcare playroom while I go exercise!
I have an at-home editorial job that I do at night when they're in bed, and I like it, but I think I'm going to have to drop it. I also work full time M-F outside the home, and I've cooked 2 meals since February. My husband cooks if we cook. I don't have time to do anything (or the energy) to the house after the kids are in bed. I sit down and work more.
I may get slammed for this, but it's the honest truth -you can't do it all, and you can't do it all well. If you want to or have to work while being a parent, then something (many things) have to slide or you'll never take up the time with the kids you need to and put in the work hours you need to. A lot more women than will admit it park their kids in front of the tv for hours, and therefore they have beautiful and immaculate homes! I'm talking about work-outside-the home moms (and some SAHMs too). IF you can find a part--time job that will pay enough to justify childcare -my hat's off to you! That is the perfect scenario, and one where you could do a lot! As far as balancing -if someone works full time, has a perfect home that's clean all the time, cooks, exercises AND spends truly quality time with their kids every day -they're lying! SOMETHING in that equation is going lacking, and you can probably guess which thing it is.