10 Month Old Would Rather Be with Mommy.

I see testing issues written all over this situation! Not testing boundaries, but testing to see who his parents are! And it is coinciding with a natural separation anxiety stage of development. Up till now, you have been the "parents" - what's up with this other guy thinking he's just like Mommy? I think it's absolutely wonderful that Dad wants to bond with his son, but he is going to have to do it on the child's timetable, not his. From the storming off, I can see that he is frustrated. Encourage him to take small steps with his son, and try not to get his feelings hurt when baby wants you instead. I think it would help for Dad to take the baby by himself regularly. Keep it short at first with no feedings or bedtimes required, and let them just play and keep it fun. Then one Saturday, you go grocery shopping during breakfast time. Slowly add in things like that, and it will happen. And tell your husband THANK YOU for me for serving our country!!

J.
Christian homeschool mom to three beautiful grown girls, one wonderful son-in-law, two terrific teens, and one rambunctious, first-class boy

Have dad do activities that are just them two activities. Try to make it so that they spend some alone time getting to know each other. Take an afternoon off and go to a movie and let them bond. With out you around he won't have a choice. Good luck.

We have a 2 year old and a 5 month old. It may have a little to do with your being pregnant also and he has only been with mommy while daddy was away. We don't tolerate this. My husband makes sure to spend ample enough time reading to, loving, watching tv etc with our 2 year old to nip it in the bud.

If he tries to prefer one of us over the other where we see it being a lack of balance, we don't let him. He has no choice. He may cry sometimes and i want to step in, but i dontBecause my husband works and I am sahm, he needs more time with him when he gets home and on the weekends. At the store of mall, we separate sometimes so dad can get that quality time.

I don't take my son with me when i go out while daddy is home, he helps daddy wash the car, feed the dog, whatever it takes daddy tries to get as much time with him as possible. I am not sure if your husband was there when he was born or seen him even?

I dont believe we should ever allow our children to have a preference in parents. You have to help the process. Sometimes that preference makes us feel so loved and warm by our children; but what about daddy? Please dont be selfish, push him on daddy sometimes. Ignore the crying and console him sometimes.

Gosh, tell him that is SO normal. He will go through phases where he only wants dad. Tell dad to leave the mommying up to you and he can do the play/fun/daddy stuff until baby starts to see daddy's role in his life again. He definitely cannot see daddy get upset and storm off. That just reiterates his behavior. Tell dad to approach him with toys and fun things and not take it personally. When my daughter was born, from birth, she wanted no one but me. You wouldn't think a newborn would know the difference, but she did. I would wait until she was asleep and then put her on daddy's chest to sleep so she would get used to him, too. It worked. But, the phases will come and go and come and go. Good luck!

All of my kids prefer me over dad. He's the mean one!! Lol!! Not really at all. He is a push over. They are with me all day long and i am what is familiar to them. Their dad works out of town alot and works another job when he is at home, so they don't see him very much. When he is around he is tired. But i try to push him to spend more quality time with the kids. I think moms just hold special spots in kids lives. Dads are different. I don't think it is bad that he favors you, but i wish you lots of luck.

D. mattern-muck
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