A.E.
Congrats on your 2nd baby.
I will tell you what happened with my shower... I didn't hear from my friends or parents or inlaws about having one... for a long long time. I had friends say tell me when the shower is I would love to come and I felt so dumb as I didn't think that I was having one.
I went to garage sales and 2nd hand stores and talked to people at church that already had a little girl, got clothes and a few things that way. Also craigslist, I got things off of, exersaucer, bassinet, some bigger kid toys and clothes.
I wanted to be somewhat more prepared if I wasn't going to have a shower.
My mil had the wedding shower for me, we got pregnant right away, and I knew that she wouldn't have a shower that is just not what they do, I had a very nice wedding shower, I knew hardly anyone except my maid of honor, mil andmy step mom all of the other people were people I didn;t know. They were VERY generous with wedding stuff.
I finally bucked up and asked my step mom, nicely but directly, I was just wondering if you were going to have a baby shower, there is no pressure I just would like to know. I know not the most tactful but I needed to know. If not I needed to find a crib and other bigger ticket items. She said of course, she was just planning it and she wanted to tell me after she had it planned so all I had to do was get the list of people.
I would register as you probably remember returning a few things with your first one, if people do not want to buy off it they won't and we already know that! It would be nice to have some items that you need, I would be all ranges of price even the want items on there, teethers rattles, smaller toys so it doesn't look like all you want are the pricer items. If you plan on breastfeeding again ask for those types of items that can assist.
If you do not already have a breast pump, our hospitals have hopsital grade ones that you can rent, they are MUCH MUCH more powerful than ones you get from Target or Babies R us. I would register maybe 2 places, what is a place that you have in town, a target walmart or both..? If you have a babies r us or some store similar to it, I would do that. I would find things that are only available online as well, I had people do ordering that way and it was just sent to our house people out of state and that were not able to come. Register for some things for you as well, say at Target like mommy pamper type things. A friend of mine got me some really nice travel lipglosses from Bobby Brown, that was a nice treat and another friend got me some Mary Kay lip treatment and hand lotion!
Also just becuase you do not have a shower doesn't mean that people will not get you gifts, friends of my mil and friends of my husband that I have not met got us gifts.
Let us know what you decide and if you have a baby shower!
A.