Hi Moms! I am looking for input on those of you who have 4 kids. We currently have 3, and are contemplating a 4th. I have heard from friends and family that once you have 3 you might as well have 6 because the transition from 2 to 3 was the hardest and adding another isn't that tough. Well...thoughts? We are curious also about what changed in the family dynamics? Our oldest, our only daughter, is begging for another baby...she is at the stage where she understands and wants to help take care of the baby, but we have explained to her that another baby in the house means less time for her because there will be another child to care for. My husband and I love our kids to pieces and love children and are certainly not against the idea...we always said before we started that we hoped to have 4 kids. But that was before we had 3 in 5 years and realized how tough it is!! Our youngest will be 2 this week and we want our children to be close together in age, which brings up the question now because we are really thinking about it.
Any thoughts or input from those of you who made this transition from 3 to 4 would really be appreciated! And God Bless all of you moms out there - you're all doing the hardest job on earth!!
I have said it over and over again....after 3 its just the noise level that goes up....if you can handle 3 than 4 is not to much harder.
Hope all goes well.
BTW I have 6 kids ages 14,11,8,8,7,2
I am a mom of 4 (ages 7, 5, 3 and 7 months) and it's great! Going from 2 to 3 WAS harder. The only bummer is trying to spend quality time with ALL four of them. My oldest son gets the least amount of my time...probably because he is the most independent (and easygoing) but I try to set aside time with him as much as possible. I almost have to "schedule" it in my mind because the other 3 just demand it. My advice is have #4! You will never say "I wish I didn't have 4 kids" but you might say "I wish I had a 4th kid." Good luck!
I say: go for it! Going from one to two was the hardest for me, however. Having a toddler and a newborn was a challenge because of how needy they are at that age. Because your oldest will only be about 6 when your 4th is born, there will be some challenges with logistics. Adjusting to my 4th was very difficult, and she had some developmental challenges as well. I adore her, though, and was glad my husband really pushed for our 5th baby. Actually, LOL, I'm expecting my 6th baby now! I think it's beautiful that your oldest wants another sibling. You might spend a little less time with her than you think she needs, but you're giving her a little built-in friend for life! One of the greatest things parents can give their kids is siblings. Good luck and God bless you!
I would have to agree...going from 2 to 3 was difficult. However when we had baby #4 it really wasn't that much more work. Mmmmmm... maybe I WILL have another one!
Yup, no diffrence with 2 to 3 and from 3 to 4. I have 4 kids, and going from 1 to 2 was hardest. My oldest was 6 1/2 when we had our 2nd, so that was very hard. My son had to be at school by 8, and had to be picked up at 1pm. I couldn't be running late because the baby was fussy, or needed to eat. You do need to keep that in mind. Plus with sports activities and such lugging all the kids to, that is hard. But honestly when my 2 and 3 year old root for my oldest when he is up to bat truely melts my heart. My 4th baby was born with some heart and kidney issues, so that was especially hard when she was born. We had to ship the other ones off to relatives so that we could stay at the hospital with the baby, but now that everyone is home, after adjusting to her med schedule, its easy with the 4. (yup I said it, the 4 is easy...) Honestly you will notice no diffrence at all from 3 to 4 after the first few weeks when you break into a routine. Make sure you have a good car to hold all the carseats, and enjoy the ride called motherhood!
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