My daughter turned 4 in Feb. Lately she has been ignoring me, talking over me, and not listening. She has been doing this at her daycare also. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do or say that will bring her back down to earth?
I'm with Sara. They need to learn how to talk to adults and their parents. You can try other ways, but I've tried them all and let me save you the time and frustration. A quick pop on the mouth or bottom will get their attention and then you have your opportunity for teaching. That should be the goal of spanking....get their attention so they will listen to you intently so you can TEACH them. Good luck!
I know what you mean I have 4 year old twin boys and they say its the terrible twos I think fours are worse sometimes! LOL I just started spanking them I know it sounds bad but when they talked back I would pop them in the mouth of course not really hard just enough that it hurt their feelings sounds like a harsh approach but it worked! Even their teacher said something yesterday how she was so proud of how well they are doing with behavior and everything! Tough love I guess you could say Good luck it won't be easy but she will be thankful later!
My Throttle Em Three year old daughter is soon to be in the Furious Four's. My Six year old never did any of this. So this makes it difficult for me and my husband. I send my 3 year old to her room when she does this or take away her favorite toy at the moment. When she says excuse me then I will listen to her. When she ignores me I go over to her and make her look me in the eye while I explain it again to her. It's just a phase that they need to outgrow.
OMG I was just telling somebody yesterday that it's like my sons ears are broken. Sometimes I am guilty of not giving my son my full attention when he's trying to tell me something that is important to him. So I keep trying to remind myself that when he wants to talk to me I get down to his level and make eye contact and really listen to him. When he interrupts I try to be patient and remind him that he needs to say excuse me and let so and so finish what they were saying. I also noticed that my husband was interrupting our son and I said the same thing to my husband. "Honey you just interrupted Jared". Trying to let Jared know that we all have to be mindful when others are talking not just him! I really do think that at this age their imaginations are full blown and they can totally tune us out. When I want him to do something or to listen to me I have to remind myself to get down on his level as much as possible and make eye contact and then talk to him. I hope this helps, I'm glad you asked this question because it reminded me what works for us and if I can stop rushing around it makes life much easier in our house!! :) Good luck!!
I can say that it isn't easily over come. My 4 1/2 year old is getting better, but started doing the same thing when he turned 4. I started telling him that I will not say things more than 2 times - if I have to say something a third time he would be sent to his room. So, if I told him to get his pajamas on once I would just tell him, "go get your pajamas on." If I had to say it again I would tell him, "go get your pajamas on - this is the second time I have told you." If I had to say it a third time, I would tell him, "this is the thrid time I have said to go get your pajamas on - now you can go to your room and put them on." I only use the pajama thing as an example. I used it for everything - picking up toys, doing any task, etc. He was in his room quite a bit the first few weeks, but now he is doing better. It seems he is paying a little more attention when someone talks.
Good luck - you are going to need it! :-)
Ha! Can't wait to see what everyone has to say. My 4 1/2 year old is the same way! Drives me crazy!! He started taddling too and feels that he needs to tell me what to do with his sister. He tries to act like the parent. Everyday, I am reminding him I am the parent and to mind his own business. Nothing is working for me either. I guess it's a 4 year old thing and they will grow out of it only to grow into some thing else! Can't wait to see what's next :) LOL Good Luck! I hope you get some good advice.
Be firm, as she is old enough now to understand. Set the rules and consequence for proper behavior. Then follow through everytime this happens, it will exhaust you more than her, but she will eventually get it! Now, I am a firm believer that when it comes discipline, every child is different. Find what she loves most and take it away, no second chances. She can earn it back after significant time has passed, but the consquence has to sting, something she loves to do, etc. for this work. I have 3 boys and it has worked for the first two. The baby just turned 2 this month, so we are not there yet with him. Good luck!
