9 Weeks SOOOOO Tired!

I would hire a neighbor girl to be a mommy's helper, she can watch child while you sleep...or pickup kid later on in the day from daycare so you can come home and sleep. If you can't afford things like this and a cleaning lady then rely on friends ask for help....do trade babysitting with a friend ask husband to pitch in more....if you can go to meal service and online shopping for groceries

Well, you are definitely going to be tired anyway, but ease up on the housework, give in and lay around or even sleep next to the 19 month old sometimes (I know there will be someone who will yell at me), do not make gourmet meals and try not to worry about it. And do not let all the people in your life that say 'How can you be so tired? I ran an entire company, did all the laundry, made extraordinary love with my husband five days in a row and feel great!" They have to be lying. I did not check so I do not know your circumstances but if you are tired and can give into it by pulling your other little one with you then take a nap. I do not have a suggestion for a pick me up other than that you have this baby and wait a couple of years anyway!
Congratulations!

I am in complete agreement with the first post and couldn't have said it any better. Take a nap when the 19 month old naps if you can. I now have a 4 month old and an almost 3 year old and I am not nearly as tired as I was when I was pregnant. night and day difference. I am also breastfeeding and that helps with the endorphins. Best wishes to you.

PS. it gets better. The first 12 weeks is miserable. you'll get your energy back. Eat really well, you need the extra nutrients and treat yourself to a coffee or tea when you need a boost. You'll feel better after the first 12 weeks. Then you'll get tired again the last month.

Hey J.,

I found that I was NEVER more tired than in my first trimester. With my first pregnancy, I remember crying on a Monday morning wondering how I would get through the day, much less the whole work week! I just counted down the days this last time. Having a newborn is, of course, totally exhausting too, but somehow I felt like those breastfeeding hormones gave some kind of superhuman strength to get through those early weeks on little sleep. In any case, focus on getting through this part for now! The second trimester will be better.

Remember that the 2nd trimester energy kicks in soon!
My little angels are 17 months apart. It was hard in the begining of the pregnancy but got better. Just take breaks when you can and accept help from thoes who offer. Let a family member take your 19 month old to the park for the afternoon and you sleep. I wish I would have accepted more of the offers for help when I could have. It will get better. You will sleep again! Good Luck. I have been there and I survived! ;-)

J., I am 15 weeks pregnant with #4 and have been very tired lately, too. Like the others said, fatigue is normal with pregnancy, but I urge you to ask your doctor/midwife for a full panel blood screen. I have the problem of extremely low ferretin which is your iron stores. This is not usually tested for with a routine blood draw, especially if you don't show up anemic (that's low hemoglobin and/or hematocrit). You could start on iron if you need it, and you would feel a difference in a week. (IF that is the case, I recommend ordering a brand called Thorne Ferrasorb which is iron capsules that are much more readily absorbed than those black tabs from the drugstore.)

Aside from a health deficiency, just lay low, eat well - baby needs a lot of healthy fats, calcium, and iron - and don't expect too much of yourself. Ask for help now, knowing that you can repay your friends and family in the future when you're doing great again and they need the boost!

I am 9 weeks pregnant and also so tired...I have a 33 month old...and she is on high alert...With my daughter's pregnancy, I was soooo active..never once taking a nap. I work as a policeofficer and would work out and exercise up until 9 months. With this pregnancy...I work early mornings (11p-7a) and am napping like a mad woman.

My wonderful husband has taken into cooking and cleaning the kitchen in the mean time...Plus with my evening morning sickness and heartburn in full swing, i have no energy to do anything. I just returned to the gym today.

take advantage of the help and sleep...I have never slept so much in naps...I know they say by 14 weeks it will go away and I am so looking forward to it.

I am now 17 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. I never felt so tired as I did this time for my first trimester and I thought I might never get over it. It was almost overnight that at 14 weeks I felt a thousand times better. Hopefully just knowing it will probably only be 5 more weeks max for you can help you through it. Until then, all I could do was nap as often as possible and go to bed as early as possible and not do much else. I did the bare minimum around the house, didn't cook much (thanks to my husband for understanding)I didn't make many plans to do much with friends, shop, etc. It ended up being about 7-8 weeks total for me where I just was sick and tired to the point I felt I could barely function. Everyone kept telling me 14 weeks. I did feel guilty letting things go, but knowing it would most likely end soon helped me to just let them go though for that time. I am back at cleaning, cooking, exercising, going all over with the kids, etc and I am glad now I took the break I did when I needed to.

I have been there! It was just before my oldest's first birthday when we found out we were expecting #2! Thank goodness for good friends, they helped me so much. Try not to stress, it will only make it worse, just realize that you can not do it all, so if the dishes don't get done right away, no big deal! And the best part is, with 2 children so close in age, once they get a little older they play with each other and you can get a little break!

When I was pregnant and that TIRED........I was anemic and had to take iron supplements. It might be something to ask your doctor about. S.