Advice on How to Deal with Headbutting and Biting 10 Month Old

Updated on May 14, 2008
A.F. asks from Milford, CT
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Ok...so this is really crazy to me. I have 10 month old b/g twins. Within the past 2 weeks my daughter started headbutting my son! She is deliberately doing it and will sometimes even try to bite him. Good thing she only has 2 teeth. Initially I thought I was crazy but others have seen it too and can't believe that at this age she is doing this. She is definately the boss in their relationship but also loves him. They hold hands and talk to eachother. She can't sleep if he isnt in the room with her. However, she also pushes him, takes his toys, wants everythign he has and is even jealous if he is being held and she isn't. My son is just so passive and will either crawl away or burst into tears. I don't know how to address this. I usually tell her no and move her away from him. She is so young but I don't want this to continue and am not sure how to "discipline" her. Any suggestions would be really helpful. Thanks in advance!

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D.R.

answers from New York on

hi danielle, i havent had the same exact experience, but i have "disciplined" all my kids around this age for things like biting me while nursing or banging their heads, they seem to try both those things around this age. what i find really works is to give a quick stern "NO." with an angry face and then turn completely away for a minute or 2, or walk away if you can do so safely. in your situation, i would do the stern no, and then pick up her brother and walk away, leaving her all alone for a couple of minutes. i think if you do this right away, it should work pretty quickly, it always did for me. i would want to get rid of the biting thing asap. good luck, D.

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A.J.

answers from Albany on

Give a disapproving look as you calmly say "no no no don't hurt, give hugs." Then pick up your son, show her how to give hugs and give her a chance. this will take a while. Her behavior is perfectly normal. Just use simple language, be consistant, & give her alternatives.

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A.F.

answers from Albany on

HI Danielle

I agree with A. on this one. This is really normal behavior. My daughter did the same thing with her brother. We calmly told her know and that it hurt him then we had them both hug. It did take awhile, but eventually she stopped the biting. Good Luck, I know how frustrating this can be.

D.D.

answers from New York on

B/G twins are so interesting to watch in action. My daughter use to do the same thing to her brother at that age. I actually bought doubles of the most favorite toys so they would each have one. It's a phase and it'll pass so the only thing you can do it to grab her every time she hurts her brother and remind her that 'people don't hit other people or people don't bite other people or people don't poke in the eye, pull ears, scratch, try to smother, etc'

All this will be rewarded soon because twins play together sharing things much earlier than a single child. It's a joy to watch them grow up. Mine are now almost 19 yrs old and they still talk in short hand that their older sisters can't figure out.

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