Almost 5 Yr Old Wetting Pants Bc "Baby Sister Does". Discipline?

I would not think that discipline would really work here, if she is just wanting attention then she will be getting your attention even if it is in a negative manner, it sounds as though she is getting plenty of positive attention. I think what you should try is that every time she has an accident she cleans and changes herself all by herself, if you make it completely her responsibility she will stop receiving attention from you when she does it. Then when she goes on the potty praise her and give her lots of attention, stop whatever you are doing and spend some one on one with her!

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i would try to tell her that she has to teach her baby sister how to be a big girl. if she continues to go in potty then little sister will want to be like big sister & go in potty as well. try to let her be an example & teach baby sister what to do in other areas like play. she can take a toy & show sister how to use it. also tell her she will be in school in a couple of months & she will have to go & all the other kids will use the potty like big girls & boys.

I have no experience with this, but my first thought was what does her baby sister do or have to have that your 5 year old WOULDN'T want - like diapers, baby food, stuff like that - and replace her "big girl" stuff with the not-so-attractive baby stuff... if this is a rediculous suggestion, feel free to ignore me cause I only have one toddler (LOL) :)

Hi C., First of all, Don't make your little girl feel guilty for doing this or try to reason with her. I say this because my daughter did the same thing and come to find out she didn't have total control over her bladder.

We thought it was a matter of discipline but it wasn't, it was a medical issue. So before you decide how to deal with it, make sure there isn't a medical reason for it.

My daughter had surgery for it and it helped. She still had those little accidents once in a while, but as she grow older she was able to control it better. Making a child feel bad or guilty for doing something we don't like will only make matters worse. Even if it's not a medical condition, there is a underlining problem and that needs to be address before you can help her.

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