Hi M.,
I kind of had the same issue a few years ago when I didn’t want to take a pill every day, certainly didn’t want the shot, and hated the patches, I just wanted to feel free, I asked my DH to get an SA done because he didn’t think he could have kids, I told him I don’t want to be preventing if there is no need and I told him that maybe I should just go get my tubes tied. He kept procrastinating for a few years, and finally I told him I was going to go get Fixed, He freaked out and said he wanted to try for a child, (he's never had one of his own) So I looked into my options and found the Merina IUD, My OB-GYN told me NOT to use the Copper IUD because I already have bad periods and really painful cramps and it would only make it worse, but the Merina actually helps flow and cramps, I got that put in and I only spotted once a month and had very little cramps. I loved it, and now we got the Merina removed we're trying to have a baby. BUT I relate to what your going through, I hit a point for me that I wasn’t sure if I wanted more kids, He wouldn’t get checked so I took a route I could live with, its lasts for 5 years and is sooo simple to have removed, Just make sure you are absolutely sure of what you want for your self before you do anything, and If your ok with having your tubes tied Go for it. If not, I'd suggest maybe alternate methods like the Merina to carry you through until he makes his move. Funny story, lol, I have a friend in your exact same situation, and she made 3 appointments for her husband to go in and have the procedure done and he kept missing them, Well, she got PG again, and wouldn’t you know, Her husband went and made the appointment HIM SELF to get his vasectomy the week after they found out they're having another baby. Kind of funny what motivates men. I think they’re just terrified to have clippers down there, and maybe if you're do all the work, they wont if they don’t have to.