T.S.
A., I was in the somewhat same situation with my sons father. The only time that he realized that he really loved me for me and not just because I was the mother of his son is when I told him that I was going to move on with my life. I had started dating someone else and everything. When I started that I guess that was an eye opener for him. He saw that I was not going to wait around for him to make up his mind. He was willing to wait on me for me to make up my mind whether I wanted to be with him or with the other person that I was dating. It has been 4 months now and our relationship is so strong right now.
A., if you would have gotten married just because you were going to have his child, I really do not think it would have worked out the way that he wanted. I have two close friends, that are men, that got married because "it was the right thing to do" and they are both going through a divorce.
I think you want to make sure that you guys feel the same about each other and are not just getting married for the child.
Just something to think about
T.