I need recommendations for a divorce lawyer that isn't going to cost a ton, but yet can get the job done. A few months ago I found out my husband had an affair and thought we were going to get back together...turns out it is A LOT worse than I thought.
My sister went through a messy divorce and my parents wiped out their retirement funds to help pay for it. That is not something I want to do.
Thanks
I am going to call a lawyer on monday....but I just wanted to say...
Susan, just so YOU know....the non custodial parent is required by law to pay for health insurance of the minor children. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone thinks I'm stupid...this is supposed to be a site that offers support, not to put someone down. I have thought this through and I am seeking advice from family and friends...so thanks so much for ruining my day. I really appreciate you adding to my misery.
I do not know anyone, but I was reading some of your responses and I happy you got some good recommendations. I am very sorry that you had to deal with someone like "Susan". You are doing a very brave thing. There is no reason you should stay in an unhealthy relationship, it is harmful to you and to your children. Stay strong and good luck!
J.-
I saw your post and just wanted to let you know I was sending a little prayer your way. I can't imagine having to go through what you are going through and I just wanted to say that I admire you for having the strength to show yourself love and respect by getting out of the marriage. I could not believe that someone had responded by pointing out things in a very negative way. I know I am not in your situation and it may be easier to say but I don't think you should stay in a marriage so you don't have to worry about how to split the house, cars, etc. You are an amazing hard working woman who is a mom of 2 girls. My sister went through a tough divorce-they had 3 kids and she has since found a man who loves her and respects her. I will ask around to see if anyone knows of a good lawyer but I just had to respond to let you know that people here support you!
L.
J.,
Sorry to hear that you are getting a divorce. I have a name for you but I don't know how much their fees are. Emily Carrara at Sullivan Taylor & Gumina 1749 S. Naperville Rd Ste 106 Wheaton, Il ###-###-####. I have never used them, but have had a couple of clients use them. I wish you a peaceful divorce.
The trick to a divorce not costing an arm and a leg is whether your husband and you can agree on things and not take up billable hours. My ex and I used the same attorney, although he had another attorney just review all the papers. We had a very amicable divorce and we didn't want the lawyer to get rich off of us. Unfortunately, if you can't get along it is going to cost some. And at that point, you want someone who will fight like a bulldog for your rights. My attorney was very kind, understanding and good at keeping things smooth. His name is Tom Newman and he is with Peregrine, Stime and Fitzgerald in Wheaton, Tom came highly recommended to me and I would highly recommend him. This is their website:
http://www.psnrb.com/
Jen - I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going thru, and with two small children. Interesting, I am going to recommend the same firm as the first person - I went thru Maureen Sullivan Taylor ###-###-####, and it all went as smoothly and inexpensively as I think is possible.
My first husband was an a-hole, cheated on me, etc., but we didn't have any kids. I have a great husband of almost 6 years now, and we have beautiful twins, too. Life is short, and you should be happy. You're young, and there's much ahead for you. It will be hard to be on your own with children, but if it's the right thing to do, then don't feel bad. You're not the one that did the cheating, and if you can't make it work, then move ahead to better things.
Also, if you haven't already, make sure that you belong to a twins' club. The members should be a great support to you along the way. There are numerous clubs in the area, one of which is www.wcmotc.com.
Good luck!
J. - I am beyond sorry that you are going through this. I too am going through a divorce right now and it sucks. If you need anything, please contact me directly. I am sure you have a great support system but the one thing I needed that I couldn't get from them was someone who has or is going through it. No one truly understands the pain and emotional turmoil unless they have done it. I can give you my thoughts on how I am keeping costs reasonable with my attorney as well as some coping/strategy stuff. I wish you the best.
Attorney's are not cheap. You can go through this cheaper if it is amicable but if it doesn't turn out to be amicable you will want someone who is damn good at their job. I haven't finalized my divorce but as of this point I would recommend them (and I was referred to them through a friend who went through this.) Their retainer is really high but you will probably spend them money either way whether up front or in the future. The name is John (Jack) Provenzale and the number is ###-###-####. Good luck.
Good luck trying to find a divorce lawyer that won't cost a ton. Good luck also trying to support 2 children on your own. Who will have health insurance on the children. Who will watch them while you work? Who gets the house, who gets the cars etc.. Before you divorce the loser think things all the way thru. Have a plan for your children and yourself.There is alot more involved in getting divorced than just the actual divorce itself. Good luck
