Attachment

OH my goodness, she is six!! I was always a daddy's girl and prefer the company of males. I was normal, and still am. Chill. Just chill.

"Someone once told me that she does that because her relationship with her dad must not be solid."

Simply put: that's a big steaming pile of stinking dinosaur poop. ::rolls eyes at the idiocy of the person who told you that::

People. I assume they meant they are very guarded WHEN SHE IS AROUND the male students, and there has not been inappropriate affection with the male students (not guarded with mom and dad) Maybe she is very happy to be around the male students BECAUSE she enjoys her time with dad so much and such a great relationship with him that she feels comfortable with men.

As a girl I enjoyed the company of boys more than girls. Boys had more fun. They did things I enjoyed like climbing trees and catching bugs, snakes and frogs. Boys were more even tempered. Girls wanted to do boring stuff like colour pictures and play with dolls. They always had some sort of drama going on, crying and carrying on. As for teens, I have always found teenage boys to be better babysitters than girls. Boys spend more time playing with the kids, whereas teenage girls often seem to be put out by having to be with the kids, rolling their eyes and acting bored. I am not saying that all girls are like this, but in my experience it was very common.

Please don't believe everything "someone once" told you, that's just not helpful.
I always liked boys/men too. Part of it I am sure was just a natural attraction, but I think it also has to do with the fact that guys are usually more fun to be around, more relaxed and easy going. Girls and women tend to be more controlling, more tuned into rules and structure, you know, the boring stuff :-)
My youngest tends to be the same, and she is VERY close to her dad. I had NO father growing up, so you see, it just doesn't have to "mean" anything, sometimes it's just the way we're wired!

I think it's wonderful! I have no idea why someone would tell you that it indicates she has a poor relationship with her father! After all, a lot of kids are attached to their moms and still bond well with preschool and elementary school teachers who are almost exclusively female! So why is that not a reflection on the mother?

I think the opposite might be true - kids with a poor relationship with their father or whose father is either absent or loud/bullying/abusive may be frightened of other men and tend to shrink back behind the mother. But no, what your daughter is doing shows that she is confident. It also may be that the boys are engaged in play activities which interest her more.

I think a teenager who is seeking out male attention or exhibiting sexualized behavior is entirely different from a 6 year old! Your daughter is fine and I think it's probably good for the youths to have a younger child they can mentor and relate to.

Kind of confused here. How old are the kids that she is around?
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I ask about their ages because you will find a lot of girls, women, have friends that are more guys than gals. Perfectly normal considering guys tend to be straight forward and easier to understand. But if you are forcing your daughter to be around kids that are not her age, not her peer group, she is probably going to have issues relating to her own friends when summer is over.

I have always preferred the company of boys/men, even as a child I found it easier to be friends with guys. I would really not worry, it sounds like you have your eye on the ball and like your husband is doing a fine job.

I think this sounds fine.
When I was young, when we went to visit the grandparents, ALL I wanted to do was hang out with my uncle and a very nice friend of his. They were buddies and drove stock cars and I thought they were just as cool and fun as could be. No problems with attachment at home, just that Uncle Mike and his buddy were more fun than sitting around and listening to mom and Grandma talking.

One young person (female teen) I know said that she that more of her friends were boys than girls. "Girls want to talk and talk about stuff and don't do anything. Boys will make a plan and actually do stuff." She is a young woman of action, maybe your daughter appreciates this about the young men she is around as well.

I think you are worrying to much. This is totally normal. I'm not sure why you would think it is not. I think this means she has a great relationship with her dad...so she is drawn to these nice young men. My son has always been like this with females. He gets crushes easily too. I think it's cute. I don't think there is anything you need to do.

I really don't think it is a big deal or alarming.
My son who is 6, had a classmate in 1st grade (he is going to 2nd grade now), that liked to play with the boys. It is just the way she is. The parents know that about her too. They have no problem with it and the Teacher or school staff has no problem with it. She can hold her own. She is very girly but just likes to play with the boys, too. And has both girl and boy, pals. In fact, my son was her favorite playmate. And my son liked her as a friend, too. She's a great girl. And her parents are great. Normal. All very normal.

Growing up, and even in college, MOST of my pals, were, guys. I just found them to be better friends. There was never anything else besides friendship. And it was always very platonic.
But many of the girls in my grade level, would get jealous. Because, I got along with the guys. And they didn't. And many of my buddies were, guys.
And yes, I was close to my Dad. He was a very good parent. He understood, his daughters.

I have a daughter and a son.
My daughter and Husband have a very good bond. It is GOOD. She can tell him anything. She is 10 now. And I am glad, she has that type of rapport, with my Husband as a daughter. Because, she will need him, for a guys point of view, in life, too. Not only my, views.
And my daughter has guy friends too. She can play with guys just as well as with her girlfriends. Many of my friends in fact, compliment her on that aspect.
My Husband spends a lot of time with my daughter, too. He even takes her to get her hair cut, and he was the one in fact, that took her to get her ears pierced. Which was fine with me. I think, it was a GREAT memory, for my daughter, of her Dad. My Husband, can adjust to having a girl and a son. He does different things with each of them.
It is all very balanced. And positive.

But with each gender of my kids, they are full aware of social boundaries.

That is a silly assumption. Some girls just tend to gravitate to the same sex and some to the opposite sex as do boys. It's a personality & preference thing not a lack of affection issue.

What someone told you about her not having a solid relationship is not necessarily true, and not in your case, with your husband being very much a part of her life. Your little girl most likely easily has crushes on the fellows.

Like our other poster, it would be good to know the age of the boys and girls involved. It could be that the girls are so interested in themselves that they snub your 6 year old. She really can feel that, even if you don't notice it.

I would say that if she is ALWAYS around older kids and not with kids her own age, you should change your arrangements. Not being able to identify with kids her own age could hurt her ability to deal well with relationships at school. Then you could end up with behavioral problems, which you don't want.

Good luck.