Augmentation

I would recommend that if you want to do it, just don't show them off and keep them covered up when in the presence of people you are concerned will pass judgement on you. I also wouldn't tell that many people about it and just see if anyone notices anything different. Chances are, they won't unless you are making a drastic change. Good luck!

The problem that I have heard over and over again is that the doctor puts HIS two cents in and convinces the woman to do a cup size bigger than they should. I think of long term affects as well. What is it going to be like when your body changes through menopause - it will be very obvious in most situations. Then the fact of putting something foreign in your body, on purpose, just doesn't sit right. So for cosmetic reasons, I would really think three times about it.

Hi Sheri,
After having 2 kids I had 2 uneven, flat, saggy size b breasts and decided to have the implants. I went for a smaller C cup which I am very happy with. Although I am tall, I am small boned so I wanted them to look more natural. Plus I was in my early 40's and nothing screams boob job more than a "mature" woman" with large, perky breasts! I have never been a "look at me" type of woman, so even that small increase was more than enough for me. Clothes fit well, and I do have cleavage if I want it. I had saline implants which I was happy with until the right one deflated a couple of years later. I had it fixed, then about 3 years later it did it again. I had the saline taken out and the "gummy bear" ones put in. Very happy now, they look very natural, and over the years they now are "aging" with me.

M.

After going through pregnancy, and nursing(?)I think you owe it to yourself to feel good about your body. An augmentation doesn't have to mean that you are sporting huge boobs, you can go up a cup size, regain your prepregnancy size (things tend to flatten out and sag after kids)or simply get rid of the excess from the under arm area. I think that negative attitudes regarding cosmetic surgery are based on those cases in which it is obvious that the woman (or man) had something done and they are flaunting it. It's the same as teeth bleaching or dyeing your hair - go out of your natural range, and you will look ridiculous. Go with something that fits your body shape, size and frame and you will look fine.

I would think that if you go with a size where
it Is obvious or noticeable then yeah you might
get looked at differently. I've seen many women
where it is obvious and it just looks ridiculous
I don't even think they look good I think they
look worse. It sometimes comes off as pathetic
but I think it all depends like you said on how
you act how you dress and how obvious they
are in the first place they should be in proportion
to your body if you do it.

I don't look at surgery that way. I am always happy for someone who thinks enough of herself to DO it for herself. IF you want to do it, then do it. Do what make you happy. Stop worrying about anyone else. Life is too short to NOT make the improvements you want to.
FIND A REPUTABLE DOCTOR.
Good Luck!

That depends - are you thinking of adding a cup size to help you feel better about yourself? Or do you just want huge breasts? I have no judgement toward anyone who has breast implants - I think if it will help you feel good, then go for it and don't worry about others. If they are that petty they would eventually find something else about you to bad-mouth anyway.

To be honest, there is always a negative association with a boob job because it is about vanity.

My sister got it done 10 years ago and when she dresses conservatively, no one is the wiser. She got a size that fits her frame. So if you're going to do it, don't go too big or unnatural. Also realize you'll have to get it done again and again the more you age and your skin sags.

I had mine done as well as a tummy tuck. As long as you don't drastically change your manner of dress and haven't gone unnaturally large. Meaning the size isn't too big for your frame. You'll have no problems. I love my results.

I haven't read all the responses you have received, so I hope I don't sound redundant. I felt compelled to respond to you because I recently had my breasts augmented and I NEVER EVER thought that I would. Well, it's very easy to say that when you in your twenties and haven't been through pregnancies and nursing. All I knew of breast augmentation where the girls that would parade around with ridiculously huge, fake looking breasts, showing them off, using them just to get attention. Well, now I know it's not about that.
I was very happy with my breasts before I had kids. Howver, after nursing twins and then my son, I lost everything I once had. I couldn't stand to look at them and they even felt deflated. I wasn't being superficial. I don't define myself by my looks. My husband never gave the slightest indication that he was disappointed with them, but they still REALLY bugged me.

I had them done by a surgeon that was recommended by a long time friend. I was very saggy and thought I needed a lift with all the scars that that would include, but the doctor suggested I just go bigger and I also had an areolar reduction. This gives the illusion of a lift without the scars. The idea of going bigger might put you off. My first comment to him was that my girls attend a christian preschool where I like to help out. I didn't want to look ridiculous or cheap. Well, the assistants in his office pretty much explained to me that you hide them when you want to and show them off when you want. It's actually possible to hide them under clothes and still show them off to your husband at home! In fact, I had lunch with some former co-workers of mine and they didn't notice a thing.

Anyway, I know that I've rambled on, but I struggled with this decision, too, so I just wanted to help you. I hope that I have. Good luck. If you would like my doctor's info, let me know.

I think most of your responses are good... but do realize there is a lot of gossip that surrounds those who go through the surgery. For whatever reason... (jealously, etc)... it happens. I think a lot of people do not understand why someone would want to alter themselves in any way especially such drastic means as surgery. I think some women think women who go through it have a low self esteem. Of course there are MEDICAL reasons for the surgery or those who need breast reduction. Just thought I would be honest with you since I think that is what you were asking for. I am by no means judging you.

If you are this concerned about what the dowdy crowd is going to think of you, then you should not do it. It won't be worth it. There is a lot of pain involved with breast aug. It's almost as bad as a c-section. Plus, likely you will never be able to sleep on your stomach again. Implants are heavy and the back pain they cause is tremendous and unrelenting. Alternatively, if some of these uppity yet drab people have a problem with your new boobs, then you should seriously consider finding a better clique to hang out with. People who would forget about all the service you have done in light of a breast aug, are not worth your time. Seriously, anyone who has a problem with your new boobs is just going to jealous that they cannot do that too and look good because they are too old, too fat, too ugly, too far gone, too uptight in their dogmatic beliefs, or got too unlucky in the genetic lottery.

I think, that if it is a huge difference in size, then it will be more of a talk amongst others, or if you then change your style of dress and personality because of it.
I think women are more understanding of it, unless of course, the woman is flaunting it.

For men and how they view it, well they do notice. They know what is real or not. Some don't care, some do. But they always know if it is a good "natural" looking job, or just plain "fake" looking.

There is a woman at my daughter's school, who has that... but, well, she dresses like um, a "slut." So, well, of course people get stereotypes about her. But she is a nice person.

I think if it is well done and natural looking, and not obviously "fake" and not looking like a huge difference... its not a problem.
Its a real personal decision... but just make sure you do it for yourself and it is your own decision.

All the best,
Susan

I have no problem with augmentation. many of my friends and family members have done it with success. I do agree with the others who say to keep it natural and to not go too big. There is one thing you should think about that no one has brought up and that is what having an augmentation is telling your kids. Do you have a daughter? One of my very close friends had it done when her daughter was little and now that her daughter is a teen and sees that she is not growing "like mom" she questions it. My friend told her that her breasts were fake and her daughter was crushed by that! Her daughter tells her to get rid of them! The daughter realized how hypicritical it is to have mom tell her to be happy with what she has when mom couldnt do that herself. Food for thought...Good luck.

Hi Sheri,

I am a member of the club :) I had my girls redone Oct. 2008.

I was a small A previously, no breast volume, all sag :(

I was VERY self conscious. My body was way out of proportion. I had to buy training bras!

Anyhow, one day I asked my husband and he said "Go for it!" I had always wanted to get it done, but never thought I really would.

Sorry, enough of my story!

As fas a people having an opinion on your decision, I find that unless you tell people, they don't even notice! They WILL notice you look better, but it's not pin-pointed to your breasts.

The people I told - most of the women just say "I WANT SOME TOO!" There are a few who go into the whole "you should be happy with what God gave you" and "natural is beautiful" and I'm sure that goes with anything - but I decided I wanted "upgrade" my body and am very, VERY happy with my decision, it has changed my life - for the better!

They will change the way you carry yourself, for me at least I have much more confidence. I feel "womanly" for the first time in my life.

Some of the drawbacks: 1. recovery sucks! 2. The sensation .. there are "things" inside you without nerves .. so you are definitely aware of the implants in your body. 3. I don't have any trouble lying on my stomach, again though, you can feel them "in there" .. and (not to be too graphic) when my husband puts all his weight on me, it's a weird feeling, not bad, but weird. 4. You MAY lose some sensation in your breasts/ nipples. I have a spot about the size of a half dollar that is not as touch sensitive as the rest of the breast. It's slowly coming back, so I'm not too worried.

I hope all my rambling was helpful. I just can't say enough as to the posisitve attributes of this surgery.

BTW, I went 'gummy bear' as well. Everyone is amazed at how "real" they feel.

Best of luck in whatever choice you make!!

if u want to enhance your breasts then do it..not for anyone else but u..i had it done and love them..no one really cares anymore and if they do they're just jealous..i say live your life for u..and not how others may view you..but don't go overboard..lol!...get a tasteful boobjob and no one will care..get silicon...they're way softer...if u get saline u may run the risk of them being hard unless u go under the muscle..but silicon is easier for docs to work with...and feels more real..good luck!

My mother got breast implants years ago, and except for a mind-blowingly painful recovery, has been quite happy with them ever since. My friend got them, hated them, got them removed and then got a breast reduction to remove the excess skin which the implants created. She was also not happy with the results of that surgery. She is quite scarred both physically & emotionally from the experience. She no longer has any sensation in her breasts and that has also diminished her sexual joy. She will not be able to breast feed when she has children. I know many women are really pleased with the results of breast augmentation, but there are no guarantees.

Well I can't speak about it from experience directly. But I don't view the woman as being slutty or anything I just question her esteem level that would make her go under the knife to do something as dangerous and drastic as that.

I used to want them.. thought I wanted big ole chi chi bo bos .... until I nursed and I jumped from a C to DD... I'm down to a D and PRAYING I go back down although he doesn't nurse that much and I haven't budged. I cant' stand being this large and I'm glad that I didn't go under the knife for this. Why do I hate them????? Buying shirts is much harder... and the clothing styles that are so cute right now are made for C cups and down.... don't know where you are but it's something to consider. I also notice the men staring, especially at the gym. It's not a good stare... it's that creepy "should I get someone to escort me to the car" stare. Also, I have to wear 2 sports bras to get any form of support. I hate it.

I'd vote no... learn to love your beautiful breasts as you were created! Plus no toxic chemicals being leaked in to your body! Bonus!

If you just do it one size up, that's probably not too bad. But I (as probably most people) have altered views of people who have huge boobs, that are obviously augmented, and other women seem to stay away from them as friends. I don't know what it is, but I've noticed that. There's this one lady (a mom at school) that flaunts it with boobs overflowing out of her tops, and I've never seen her talk to anyone. I think people are just intimidated of her. Women with naturally huge breasts seem to cover up a little more, and once we're moms, I think it's embarrassing (at least I'm embarrassed for the other mom) that is walking with her kid and she has these massive fake boobs hanging out. But I think you're safe with maybe going one size up.

If you want to do it for yourself, and noone else, then go for it. I have always been extremely flat and my dr said she was actually treating me like a mastamectomy patient. However, I did not go large, so no one really notices or tries to determine if they are real or not. It does feel good to look like a female and actually wear a bra, I love shopping at Victoria Secret and getting all their cute styles, before, they didn't have any that fit me I had to buy from the little girls dept. Many people are tempted to go as large as your body can hold and then you may get more of a respose from others with the stairs and such. Really check into options and good doctors, don't jump the gun and just go for the first or cheapest. Good luck, J.

I personally want to get a reduction. Jennifer is right when she says that shirts are taylored for those C cup and smaller. Shopping is a terrible experience for me. Also, men do stare - a lot. I don't wear anything revealing because I don't like to draw attention to my breasts, but men still stare.

With that said, I don't think people will judge you for doing it, especially if you don't change your wardrobe or personality too drastically. Think carefully about what size you want to move up to. From my friends that have had either augmentation or reductions done - they are all happy with their decisions. So far none of them have any regrets. I've heard that it makes them feel good about themselves.

This is a very personal choice you have to make, but don't worry about what others think. Do what makes you happy - it's your body!

Hi Sheri. Just wanted to give my two cents. I haven't read the other responses, but I just want to say that I believe whatever makes you feel good about you, DO IT! And don't care about what anyone else thinks. I'm sure your beautiful right now inside and out, but it this is going to give you a confidence boost then go for it. It's your life and no one else (we'll maybe with the exception of the hubby) has anything to say about it. And if they judge you then there not worth your time. Enjoy your life the way you want to for you and no one else! Good luck to you!