Body Image - Abita Springs,LA

Same problem here but finally at age 42 I am like "whatever". There is nothing I can do about it so I might as well let it go. I am also 5'7 and weigh in the 130s. Before BFing 3 of my kids I was a flat AA. I had gel inserts, wore padded bras etc. Now I am a deflated A. Because of BFing I feel like there is no breast tissue left. I don't even fill out the formed cups of the smallest bra. I have to search out bralets (which thankfully are more comfortable).

What also sucks is that I have a pooch from having 3 kids that I think is more noticeable because I don't have breasts to be more proportionate.

The crazy thing is that I don't care anymore. I am comfortable with my breast size finally. Maybe it's because I am so upset about my tummy pooch. I would get a tummy tuck before a boob job anyday.

Oh and my sister was a nice sized B and after having 2 kids got the boob job to a small C. Her boobs look great but she says it's her biggest regret. Grass is not always greener.

While, I'm not small, after kids, weight loss, breast feeing, they are so saggy and have absolutely no mass on top. I wear Frederick's bras with push up padding, so at least with clothes on they look good/decent. You could try that - at least it will give you more confidence in public.

The creams and pills don't work. My ex bought several for me, insisting that I wasn't big enough.

Save up your money and get that augmentation in a few years. In the meantime, use those padded bras.

Just know this: There is not one woman out there who has a "perfect" body. And that is what makes us lovely. So, save up that money...but during that time, also work on feeling good about yourself as you are. Work out at the gym. Eat right. Read your religious text. Get right in your spirit and realize that you are a child of God.

And who knows...in 3 years when you've saved enough to get your boobs done, you might find that you have a different opinion. And then you can blow that money on a trip to Cancun. ;-)

ETA: Oh, and I never got my boobs done, even though my ex wanted me to. Somehow, when I turned 30, I jumped up a cup size. Even if I hadn't, I still wouldn't have gotten them done. ♥

ETA2: Sweetie, if it will make you feel good, and will please your hubby, go for it! I'm not saying that breast augmentation isn't fabulous for SOME. It just wasn't what *I* needed. Just be sure, okay?

You know what?
As the big busted women age, gravity does a job on the skin and elasticity and those big bouncy breasts end up dangling way down there.
You have to wear heavy duty support / minimizer bras, and some really big busted women need breast reduction surgery so they can get some relief from back problems from holding up so much weight so high on their chests.
Having big breasts is no fun AT ALL when it comes to mammograms.
You just have that much more to squeeze into the boob masher as they are squashed as flat as possible so they can get some clear pictures of what's going on in there.
Small breasted women age BEAUTIFULLY.
My advice is to really look hard at the positives of being small breasted (there are many) and learn to love yourself as you are.
And for heavens sake - stop looking at other womens boobs.
Try looking them in the eyes (eyes up here - not down there) instead of looking at them chest level.

In the end, you either can accept the way you look, or not. "No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent." Many sizes, shapes, body types, and colors are beautiful. In the end, it isn't about bust size, it's about attitude. Walk, talk, and act like you believe you're beautiful, and that is what people (including your husband) will see, a beautiful, mature woman.

Your husband says he like you the way you are, and I believe him. But just because he likes you the way you are does not mean he doesn't see anything else as attractive too.

A friend of mine had hers lifted after her babies.

Let me just say that I have always been on the other side of this and have cried, cried, cried. I wanted to wear those cute spaghetti strap tops/dresses and the backless dresses. I always had the body for form-fitting clothes, and I wanted to go the extra sexy mile of going braless on occasion. I had to come to terms with MY body and wear clothes that worked for me. You can look absolutely amazing in tops that will fit you all over. I have to get extra large tops. Here's the trade-off: You can go backless, and I can (theoretically) wear darts. Give and take. The same arguments can be made for hair textures and lengths, skin colors, etc. Find your femininity in other aspects of your womanhood, because I assure you that you are no less a woman than any other woman in the world. You have to find a way to love all of you just as you are. If you are mud ugly, then spring for the surgery. Otherwise, work the hell out of those dresses that cut the front all the way down to the belly button!

PS. See, now you've got me getting sad all over again. I had a sleeveless denim dress that snapped all the way down the front. I wanted to surprise my boyfriend at work with nothing on underneath, but I had to wear a bra. On a lighter note, I just heard a story of someone who was so distracted that she went to her office job without a bra. She just forgot to put one on. If that happened to me, they would send me home for two days and comp me the vacation time.

ETA: 34H/I, by the way, and I love them. Not because they are big, but because they are MINE! My bras are utilitarian, none of them strapless.

Oh, yeah, and I can't wear halter tops. For one, my boobs are too full to wrangle into a halter top. I cannot breathe. Secondly...have you ever walked around carrying 20 pounds around your neck?? If so, I doubt that you did it for long.

You honestly don't want to be big!!! They give you back problems. There are ways you can make yourself apear bigger. They make incertes that you can use or just get a padded pushup bra. It's all in the bra as to how you look!

I can relate a bit and have a friend who sounds exactly like you. I know it bugs her too. But - she also wears inserts sometimes and looks great. And in general without them she looks good. Much better than really overweight etc. Also, I love Kate Hudson. She seems to have gotten a bit bigger but look at all the years she had tiny boobs and still looked super feminine and hot. It's partly how she carries herself. She thinks she's hot and of course she is beautiful but bc she thinks it, she looks it. And I also know lots of women who have kind of lost their boobs after kids. You're not alone... Wear some inserts until you get a boob job. Then when you do, it won't be so obvious to people you jsut had one!

Awe... chin up mamma!

I think we all have body image issues.

When it comes to breast, I say if they are HEALTHY and fed your son than they are beautiful!!

I would not mess with creams not knowing what chemicals are in them.

While this may seem to trivialize your discontent, I would try and concentrate on something not related to your appearance. For real, I have body image issues and have found that the best antidote is to have outside interests like a hobby or socialization.

I suggest that your not liking your breasts is an indication of a broader self-esteem issue. I suggest talking about this with a counselor. Counseling will teach you skills so that you accept your body as it is.

Later: You don't give your age. I was a AA in my twenties, a B in my thirties and then sometime along the way when I wasn't thinking about it I became a D. Trust nature to take care of you.

You are the size you should be. Change the way you're thinking and you'll be happier. Women should have breasts? Yes, you have breasts that work. You fed a baby. So why do you think you don't have breasts?

When you start to think that your breasts aren't large enough remind yourself that they worked for what they were intended. Instead of saying over and over, "I'm too small," say over and over, "I'm the size I should be." How we think and what we say to ourselves determines how we feel. You are in charge of how you feel.

I'm smaller than an A cup and honestly, I'm perfectly ok with it. It makes it much easier to go for a run and exercise! I do wear lightly padded bras so I don't look totally flat in my clothes. :) I think you need to learn to just love yourself the way you are. I used to obsess about how I looked when I was young and hate my body...but over time I just accepted and love myself as much as I can. I am almost 42. Now my main goal is to just keep my body healthy and strong. If I'm strong I'm feeling great about myself!

Awww Mama, your negative thoughts are too over powering. Yes, everyone has something they don't like about their appearance or wish they could change. The trick is to keep it as a passing thought and not a focus. Don't feed these thoughts and ideas that somehow you are not good enough because of your bra size. You deserve better than that Sweetheart! Are you spiritual at all? If so, I would start praying for greater peace inside. Boobs won't bring that kind of peace. You have to dig deeper and find it. life is too short to not love yourself and appreciate your
true beauty. Go hug that sweet baby boy and tell yourself that you are done beating yourself up. When the thoughts come tell yourself that "I refuse to define myself by my body. I will not rob myself of joy and peace anymore."

Ditto all the huge boob votes and advice ...I'm a 36/38 G or H....my neck hurts all the time, I have tensions headaches, etc.

Now, my best friend, is exactly like you...34 Nothing. And she purchases these wonderful gel inserts available at nice department stores. And they are so real feeling when I hug her, and real looking in everything she wears, I cannot tell a difference.

And M., as a big busted gal, I still check out big busted women when I'm out and about. I look at their posture, how they dress themselves. It's human nature to look at others. Gosh, we're not blind. Cut your husband some slack and believe him when he tells you he loves you the way you are.

I'm an A, too. I remember as a teenager wondering, gee, when will *my* boobs come in?? But now I'm at peace with it. No way in hell I'm getting a boob job, that's just not me. If you're healthy, you're doing better than a lot of people. Stop focusing on your perceived negatives and focus on the positives. We all have something we don't like about our bodies. And if your husband says he loves you the way you are, BELIEVE HIM. Cheer up, M.!

I think the key to a healthy body image is accepting the fact that yes, there are certain things you don't like (and probably never will) but focusing on the things you DO like.
I am white, very white, and I am thick in the middle. As a "California girl" this has always been mildly depressing. I have always wanted to be darker and have an actual waist.
BUT, I have really nice legs, good hair and nice arms and shoulders.
So when I look in the mirror, get dressed, go shopping, I play up and focus on THOSE features.
None of us has the body we would choose (well maybe some people do but I've never met them.)
I am not against cosmetic procedures, as a matter of fact I had some lipo done a few years ago to remove some stubborn fat from around my midsection. But augmentation is expensive and risky, and it may or may NOT make you feel better in the end.
There are plenty of hot women out there with nothing on top (Kate Hudson and Cameron Diaz come to mind.) Maybe looking at pictures of these women will help you see that beauty comes in a shapes and sizes, literally!!!

My daughter is the opposite she is naturally a 38E. She has SO much trouble finding clothes. So be thankful u can find tons of clothes in ur size. With that being said there are bras out there that help like at victorias secret but im gonna tell u what I tell my daughter. Love urself first. I believe if implants is what will make u feel better about urself then do it! Save up and go for it.....either way know u are beautiful! Good luck

This device isn't cheap, but it's cheaper than implants, and the results are natural. It's called Brava. Check out this link:

http://journals.lww.com/plasreconsurg/Abstract/2007/11000...

p.s. I disagree with the others, other than Doris Day. Get the implants if you want them. Life's short, and having a little fun with your body is o.k., IMO. We spend all this money on clothes, and hair, and nails, and makeup; we whiten our teeth and get braces and facials and hair extensions and hire personal trainers, etc. etc. etc., but then when it comes to anything involving surgery we are supposed to be all "natural" and "accepting?" Pshaw. Don't obsess over your breasts, just fix them if it really matters to you. Save up your money. Or try the Brava.

I haven't had implants, but if my boobs were messed up enough, I would. I say go for it.

I see you have had MANY answers but just wanted to add my support to you...what we see on TV, magazines & billboards is NOT the norm and ALOT of those girlz/women HAVE been enhanced in more than one way, they are airbrushed, made up, buffed out and generally made to be what you see...you are a beautiful creation that has produced another beautiful creation...be proud...when the time comes and you still want to enhance your bust then...GO FOR IT...in the interim get a good push up bra...BUT no matter what, DON'T think for a moment that ALL of the girlz you see DON'T have hang ups about their bodies, that is what the age of information has given us...worries about our bodies when we should be happy with who & what we are...moms, grannis, great grannis, sisters, mothers, aunts, friends and the BEST we can be in heart & soul!