A.L.
My Birth-Sister is married to a pediatrition. They use a point system and started as each child became three years old. Of course as the children become older you have to change it to fit your needs.
Just to describe it -- but keep it simple:
Each child starts with a certain amount of points. Each offense deducts points -- each good thing (picking up after self, doing your assigned chores (including helping w/their laundry), adds points. Where ever you are in the point system determines what you are allowed to do... tv time, computer time, anything fun that they like to do... but if the points are too low then they are limited and eventually punished by spending time in room etc.
I thought, when she started this, that there would be no way this would work. Well it did - even with her 3 year old. She has now 6 kids at home ages 5, 10, 14, 16, 19, 21. It works for all the kids. Of course the main punishment for the 19 & 21 year old is no car.
She and her husband's point system was on the internet at one time. I'll ask her the next time I talk w/her if it's still floating out there somewhere.
A. Lynn