Coping W 2 Miscarriages/feedback for Ttc

I just want to give you a virtual hug. I have been there. I am 37 and just had my third, yes third, failed IVF treatment. Actually, if you count the two frozen transfers, it has been 5 failures. One of them was an early miscarriage. So I totally understand the feeling of being blessed and grateful with two, wanting a third, and not being able to make that happen. I am so sorry. All I can say is, if you are determined and want to try again, do it knowing that you could have a positive or negative outcome. Don't be afraid to get testing done for you and your husband - every little piece of information gives you an answer of some sort. Even no "answer" is a kind of conclusion for why this might be happening, if you know what I mean. At 35, you still have time! It is very, very difficult to cope with letting go of a want and a dream, that much I know. I wish I had a way to make the wounds heal. (((hugs)))

Many women have multiple miscarriages and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy. This is a blog which I've been reading for quite a long time and one of the recent posts deals with how pregnancy is just as likely, even after multiple miscarriages:
http://www.miscarriage-recurrentmiscarriage.blogspot.com/

We lost our very first child at 5 months in the womb in 1997. He will always have a birthday in our home. I am 34 and we have three children now.
I never once gave up on thinking I was going to have more children. If you truely want another child do not give up!!
My heart does go out to you. I know how hard it is to lose a child. <<hugs>>

I haven't been in your exact shoes exactly. When I was relatively young I had an early ____@____.com 6 weeks along. I then later on went on to have a little girl. A few years later I had another miscarriage at around 3.5 months. I never had to do a D&C as both passed naturally. I went on after that miscarriage to have another healthy little boy. For my own sanity I did have my tubes tied after my 2nd and have decided that when the time is right I will adopt because I still very much would like a 3rd.

I'm sorry for your losses, especially your most recent one. Have you considered visiting with a fertility specialist?

I had two early miscarriages, and my third pregnancy is now my 9 year-old daughter. I was 39 and 40 with the miscarriages and my daughter was born 4 days before my 41st birthday. I did not do any testing, or any treatments, as I know that miscarriages like this are very common.

I have not had any experiences with miscarriage, but a good friend of mine had 3.....

Her first ended in a miscarriage, she had two sons, and I think her second miscarriage was after the second son.... then she had a daughter, and a son...

a 3rd miscarriage (at about 16 weeks, I think?) and then a final son... so 8 pregnancies, with 3 miscarriages and 5 successful births.

The best thing to do is to just follow what the doctor suggests, if they aren't finding any reason for repeated miscarriages.

I'm sorry you are going through this.