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Is your husband saying the word "spoiled" to you, or are you using the word? You cannot spoil a baby this young, so put that out of your mind. If you feel you need verification, ask the pediatrician and she will tell you the same thing.
Now, if your baby cries every time you put her down, then start using some help in order to get a break. You can try a swing. You can swaddle her. You can put her in a bouncy and sit beside her and put your hand on her tummy and sing or talk to her. You need to be able to go to the bathroom, take a shower, etc. You do need to put her down some so that you can get something done. If you can wear her in a sling some, that's helpful, but not every new mommy can do that (I couldn't - it killed my back.)
She is new to the world still and craves the smallness of your womb. Swaddling helps and holding does too because it feels like before she was born. So, do some things that mimic it. But do understand that sometimes babies cry and that doesn't mean you can always prevent it.