Discussion on Having a Tubal

Hey S.! I had my tubul almost a year ago when I had my last child. I had it done when I had her because I had a c-session. I have four kids and I am 28yr old. Me and my husband knew we where done we have 2 boys 7and 8 and 2 girls 4 and 1. My husband works 16 hours a day 6 days a week and I am a stay at home mom. Money is still tight. We love all are kids that why we decided to stop. It is not easy rasing kids ( it is hard work, it is not cheap) it also drains you I only have two hands and 4 kids who need something.My worse nightmare would to find out that I would become a mother a 40 yr and all my other kids are grown and there about to have there own kids and now the would also have a new sibling. I know every child is a blessing but for myself I was happy with my wonderful kids that god gave me. I know when I hold a newborn I might say Oh I want one more. But the sleep less nights the diaper and all that great stuff. That stuff is done for me. But you have to make sure it is what you want and not anyone else. Like you said it a very major decision.Take your time and think about. Oh on the weight thing my weight went back to what it was before. Good luck

Hi S.,
Congratulations on the new baby & welcome to the Big Apple! I had my tubal ligation done immediately after my third c-section in 2004 when I was 36. We had a very good and open relationship with my ob/gyn, and she suggested it months before I gave birth, so we had ample to time to discuss it. Risking the possibility of a subsequent pregnancy would put my health in great jeopardy. We don't regret the decision. Speaking truthfully, though I don't regret the decision, shortly afterwards I grappled with the mere thought of my inability to reproduce. That was probably just the hormones going haywire after birth, too, as I quickly got over that. The procedure was quick & painless, and the recovery was short (a few days). I have one boy and two girls that I absolutely love, and we're a happy family of five--no more, no less. This is a personal decision that only you and your spouse have to be completely on board with. Good luck,

Hi S.
You are right about this being a major decision, it is also a very personal one. I had my tubes tied at the birth of my 2nd child. I had a c-section and I thought it would be best to take care of the tubes while the doctor was already in there. I recovered of both c-section and tubes all in one. I made this decision based on I had my boy and now I had my girl. I also have a wonderful step daughter who spends time with us frequently, therefore giving me 3 children altogether. Quite frankly in today's economy, this was all I could afford. I chose not to have anymore children. The decision was right for me. As women, we all know what we can handle and what we can't and deep down inside, we know what we want, but are often swayed by peoples opinions or comments. I was also 31 when my daughter was born and the pregnancy was a rough one. I didn't see myself having the strength to go through that again, whether the pregnancy would be good or bad. This decision is really a choice that needs to be made BY you, FOR you. What does your gut tell you? Always go with your instinct, it never lies.
The procedure ityself is minor and you should be home quickly.
That is the simple part of it. But as I said, it's a very personal choice and you are the only one who knows best for you. Good Luck.

Hi S.,
I had a tubal in 2000, six months after the birth of my third child. I was 34 at the time. I developed bad varicose veins with each pregnancy which were not mere spider veins and caused alot of discomfort to say the least. I wondered how it would affect my health if I kept having children. I also knew I was blessed with 3 healthy children and what more could I ask for? No regrets or reservations going in to it, is a must. Complete recovery,back to my self in about a week. The only thing I recall was severe nausea after I woke up. I believe you can ask for something to combat that if I am not mistaken prior to going under. Compazine?? Not sure. I knew I was "done". God forbid something happened to myself or my husband I knew I would not have any more children. A trusted and supportive obgyn is a must. Best of luck to you.

S., I had mine done in 2000. I was 36yrs old, my decision was based on divorce. My daughter was 8yrs old at the time. The procedure was quite easy less than 20 minutes, in hospital less then 4 hours. I did have pain and lite bleeding for a day but that was it. I gained weight and so have a couple of my girlfriends that had it done.

Hi S.,

I had my tubal done last year after giving birth to my daughter by c-section. I recovered from the tubal and c-section at the same time and it wasn't any worse than my other two c-section recoveries. I am 34 years old and in addition to my youngest (11 mos), I also have another daughter who will be turning five shortly, and a son who will be turning 3 soon. My husband and I knew we were finished having children, so the decision was pretty easy for us. Please be absolutely sure this is the case for you as well. I can tell you that every now and then I do feel a bit sad knowing that I will never be able to have another child, which is weird because I don't want one! I guess its the feeling of permanancy when I see someone pregnant. Anyway, when discussing the options with my OB/GYN, she did mention that having the man/husband have a vasectomy is always easier and safer as the process has less risk factors and is less invasive, so you may want to consider that and discuss it with your OB/GYN. For me, it was a little less of an issue since I would already be open for the c-section. One other thing I've noticed is that I bleed more when I have my period, I don't know if this is due to the tubal or just my body changing with age. Either way, it hasn't been bad enough to motivate me to go to the doctor, just more of an inconvenience.

Good luck with everything and definitely take the time to think it through.

Sincerely,
K.
(34 yr old SAHM of 3 - I love being home, but do miss work too!)