Choosing where to go when you go out? My husband and I take turns choosing which movie/restaurant etc.we'll go to and I really like that. He used to want me to choose all the time and I told him I'd rather take turns--I think that's only right. How about you and your husband??
Well, mine goes out socially more than I do so, he tends to leave it up to me when we both go out together - makes me crazy but I get the fact that he is trying to respect the fact that I do not go out as often as he does. His friends live here, I am trying to make some - but it takes me a lot of time.
my fiance never wants to choose anything.. for exmple dinner.. every night the question is whaat are we eating.. and i say i dont know what do you want?.. and he says i dont know what do u want.. and i say i dont care and start to suggest different things ..none of which he wants to eat ... omg its sooooo annoying
Funny you ask...my husband wants to go to breakfast and I don't want to. I tried to tell him I need to lose weight, so he just picked a different place. No matter what, I am going to eat what is in front of me and it's not like restaurant oatmeal is any good.
We don't go to movies and we enjoy the same restaurants so we pretty much mutually agree on where to go when we head out. Occasionally one of us will have a desire to go someplace out of our norm and wnen that is mentioned we do that instead.
Granted, we've been together 25 yrs so maybe that makes a difference.
My husband absolutely refuses to take tunrs with my boyfriend....hahahha..just kidding....Yes it's right to take turns.
Blessings...
Well, I married "a man with a plan". I like those take charge types. The upside is that he takes care of a lot of decisions I loath, and I feel taken care of. The down side, he always has an opinion about what he wants to do and where he wants to go. And since he usually cares more than I do I usually let him get his way. So no, we don't take turns, but when I feel the need, I interject my agenda. But more often than not, he gets his way. Every once in a while that causes a problem. But I try to remind myself that there are many good things about being married to "a man with a plan." Once I dated a man who wanted me to make all the decisions. Drove me batty and taught me just how much I prefer the opposite personality type.
We tend to have the usuals...the places or things we can agree on. I don't like to try new things...and when I do it's a big deal.
But I am sick and tired of meal planning alone. The other night I said "any ideas for dinner?"
He said "I'll think about it"
And hour later "did you come up with anything?"
Him "Nope"
End of conversation! OMG! Seriously I'm going nuts. So I suggest spaghetti...he says no, I suggest pancakes and bacon for dinner...he says no...three more suggestions later and I said "you know what forget it...you're on your own, the kids are having mac n cheese and I will have a sandwich!
So to answer you're question...no we don't! He does however, get to pick the movies EVERY TIME!
Even worse, each, we let DS get a turn picking also.
My husband and I come to a mutual agreement on where we're going to go or what we're going to see. That is not to say that either of us occasionally will not go with the flow as it were if there's some place one of us really want to go or a movie one of us really wants to see; though we don't frequent movie theaters often.
We almost never get to go out without the kids. When we do, we try to come up with a mutual agreement. Movies are hard. There are very few that aren't either total chick flicks, or total action/adventure movies which I normally don't like.
My SO...standard answer: What ever you want baby.
So after a while of me saying I wanted McDonalds (no I didn't want McDonalds but was sick of having to make the decision) he finally realized that input was not only appreciated, but needed.
It's now a 30/70 thing. Progress, not perfection.
Cheers.
We generally agree on movies, and if there's one one of us really doesn't want to watch, the other one goes with someone else. (Me, generally with some girlfriends or my friend's husband if it's a vampire flick we both want to see, or my husband with his brothers). I don't usually have strong feelings towards what restaurant we eat at, so if I do have one, that's where we usually go since I'm pickier.
