After much research I bought a T&C. I got a 2008 with only 25k miles and purchased an extended bumper to bumper warranty. It's okay, I like all the bells and whistles we could afford to get - we got dual DVD screens, leather, a built in hard drive for music storage, rear view camera, remote doors and tailgate.. and that's just the start. It has lots of space for groceries, luggage, etc and an insane amount of drink holders.
That said, it does feel 'cheaper'... it doesn't seem as quiet when I am driving or as smooth as our Crossover. We have the Hyundai Vera Cruz. It also will NOT fit three car seats across the back row. It's physically impossible even with the narrowest car seats.
I got the T&C because of the bang for my buck, I knew going in that it had potential service issues which is why I got a huge warranty. I don't regret the choice, getting the Honda would have been nice but for all the features I wanted it would have easily been another 10k.
Good luck :)