P.K.
That's not something you can plan. Might take you a month to get pregnant maybe six months. What will be will be. Pros n cons for both.
Hello fellow mamas and papas! So me and hubby are ready for another baby. We have a 3/12 yr old son that was born in July. My husband wants to start trying now because he thinks he is getting old (hes 33) lol He doesnt want to have a baby past 35 yrs old. If we start trying now we could have a winter baby. Can you please give me some pros and cons for a Fall/Winter baby?? I feel its better to have a baby in warmer weather for out door parties! what do you think? Thanks!
That's not something you can plan. Might take you a month to get pregnant maybe six months. What will be will be. Pros n cons for both.
we didn't plan to this degree, but i will say that my autumn baby was much easier to carry than my spring baby. i got to spend the huge months with lighter clothes on. sweaters and winter coats, not to mention maternity pants, were much more cumbersome and obnoxious.
the babies didn't care one bit.
:) khairete
S.
My boys were both born late June/early July. I didn't have to take my tiny newborns out into 40 below weather. They can have outdoor birthday parties. They are the same age for the entire school year. Their birthdays are six months after Christmas, so gifts are equally spaced out, and they get winter stuff for Xmas and summer stuff for birthdays. I had them at the beginning of summer, so I wasn't pregnant and uncomfotable for the height of summer heat. Because their b-days are at the beginning of summer we can have parties before everyone leaves for the cottage.
Haven't read any of the other responses but just wanted to say that despite your best planning, conception may not happen as easily and quickly as you'd like, so if you really want another baby, you have to be prepared for having a baby at any time.
For me, anytime a healthy baby is born is a great time. I never thought about it in terms of having a baby in a particular season.
Sorry I'm not more help with this. By the way, 35 is not old! My husband was 45 when our little guy was born!
Good luck!
J. F.
I have one of each, a Dec and an Aug. baby. Its pretty much no brainer that summer babies make for better birthday party timing. I even canceled a winter party the day of due to a storm. Even so, timing a baby around the best time for birthday parties is really shortsighted. After three miscarriages (which are shockingly common), and not getting pregnant without at least 3 or 4 months of trying, let me tell you, timing means nothing. A miscarriage can set you back by a year easily. Take what you can get when you can get it. You can plan away, but I'd be surprised if it all went according to your design.
I personally can't see planning a child's birth around parties. Life is so full and complex, and who knows how long it'll take you to conceive. Just take what you get and make it work.
That said, I've got a summer baby (July), and here's my pro and con. (I realize you were asking about winter, but you can easily reverse it.)
SUMMER BABY PROS
* It's better to be a tiny, skinny, vulnerable newborn in warm weather. By the time winter rolls around, you've got strong lungs and plenty of fat on you.
* Speaking of fat, a summer maternity wardrobe is much more affordable and less of a pain in the butt than a winter one.
* Birthday is as far away from the winter holidays are you're going to get, which is nice for kids.
SUMMER BABY CONS
* Birthday is in the middle of summer vacation. School friends inevitably can't come.
* Being 9+ months pregnant in July is No Fun At All.
* The way they work school cutoffs now, summer kids are on the young side for their classes. Your kid either has to deal with being young, or you have to obsessively wonder whether to let him/her wait a year.
Really, though, these are minor considerations. They're among the most trivial things in life. Every kid loves having a birthday. I just wouldn't make decisions around this.
Ha! This would presume that we have any control over this!!!
My daughter was born in March (in Minnesota), which was great, since I hate heat and I didn't have to be hot & pregnant, and I went a whole winter hardly ever wearing an extra sweater! The first month or so of her life, it was still cold and snowy, but we wouldn't have gone out much anyway. Then by the time we had to deal with snowsuits and cold-season, she was a little bigger.
(My husband was 48, and I was 41, when our daughter was born. Tell your husband that life DOES exist after 35...)
The benefit of having a warm weather baby vs a cold weather baby is that your baby will have a additional time to build their lung strength before having to worry about such things are flu, whooping cough, etc.
I have two summer babies.. I like the fact that we don't have to bundle up a newborn for the winter. But, my girlfriend had her daughter in winter, and by summer she could put sunblock on her.. I had to wait until the next summer to put it on my kids. sometimes it is hard to keep them out of the sun.
I think with that, I would say winter, that way you are not limiting you 3 year old from out door time during the sumer.
Good luck
My babies are in March, April, and June. You never know what weather you'll get honestly. Even my June baby. Last year it was the week before her birthday (the 14th) and we were sitting outside of her dance studio wrapped in blankets it was so cold!
March and April are so hit or miss in Maryland too...it could be winter still or spring, there is just no telling.
So basically, my advice is to have a baby when your body gets pregnant no matter what time of year it is and celebrate however the weather allows - you'll find creative ways for whatever weather.
I have Feb & Nov babies - it really makes no difference w/the parties b/c we do what we can either way. My youngest though is right around Thanksgiving so she does a charity harvest festival a month early which works out well (weather permitting, we had 18" of the white stuff the middle of Oct 2 years ago). The oldest has always had something big so we just make due w/what we can & improvise. (Yes, we're the house w/all of the furniture on the front lawn so we can fit the bouncy house & all the kids inside for the party)!
Well, I always tried to not have a baby with a birthday too close to Christmas. I thought it would be hard to have your birthday and Christmas and then no more presents for a whole year! I have an early April and late August baby.
We live in FL so weather wasn't much of an issue. I did have a nicer maternity leave with my early April baby since the weather was nice:) We spent a lot of it walking as I tried to push the stroller towards weight loss:)
I will say that with my late August baby, the fall holidays became an issue for travel. Our pediatrician recommended not taking an airplane before baby had his 6 month shots. Since he wasn't yet 4 months for Christmas, we drove on our trip to my in-laws. Not a big deal, baby was great in the carseat so no problems but if we had wanted to fly it would have meant saying no to travel that Christmas.
Tell your husband that whether HE is 34 or 35 or 36 will make virtually no difference:) He probably will have a similiar pregnancy experience regardless.
Also, keep in mind that some couples experience secondary infertility. Maybe just let God decide?
C.
PS You might want to read the info on folic acid and autism links that came out today. You probably want 2-3 months of prenatal vitamins before you begin to try. So that would seem like an early spring baby?
Both of my babies are fall babies...one in Nov the other in Oct. There are pros and cons to both, I suppose. THe cons? I was pregnant during the Texas summer. Over 100 degrees and baby growing are not a good combo! Pros...lots of extra snuggle time with a baby during those colder months. Daddy also got extra time with the wee babies, because there are so many holidays following the births. He took off a week when they were born. Then he got Thanksgiving off and from CHristmas to New Years off for baby bonding. There is NO way he could take that time off in the summer. Plus, when summer rolls around, nothin' cuter that chubbie baby legs in summer clothes. The babies are more mobile and you can go out and "do" more. I wouldn't stress. It will be a happy blessing no matter when the next one comes along!
Well none of my kids was planned - I had two in March and one in January. I also had twins for another couple who were born in October. I find the idea of picking the best time of year to have a baby a little funny because of our lack of planning but I'll play along anyway...
A January birthday is a bit of a pain - it's right after Christmas and people are burnt out from the holidays. If I were the planning type, I would avoid November - January because those are busy times of the year for us and because you're more likely to have to deal with illnesses during the winter. I would also never want to be in the last trimester during the summer. Third trimester is challenging enough without having to battle 100 degree weather. Plus with summer babies you have to decide whether or not to send them to Kindergarten the first year they're old enough (youngest in the class) or wait a year, then they're the oldest. I think it's easiest to have kids in the spring, followed by fall, then summer, then winter.
Well, with a fall/winter baby, you don't have to worry as much about sweating to death toward the end of your pregnancy... I have one of each. I just figure it happens when it happens.
I had January and May babies, and they were both easy at the 9 month mark. Now I for sure wouldn't want to be 9 months in the dead of summer with temps at 100+ and 100% humidity. THAT would be miserable.
I didn't try to plan when mine would come, I didn't care because conceiving was difficult enough on it's own.
Good luck!
I have a sept baby. Born a week late for the cut off date for entering school. It was a positive for him. You only have so much control in when you conceive or deliver.
I had a late winter early spring baby - March. I was pregnant in the summer but little and we moved to Canada and it was COLD like -32 below which was fine with me. When spring rolled around again baby was born and the winter clothes and baby fat were all gone. So I was flat in the early pregancy and flat again the next summer.
Just enjoy the fun and have a baby. Tell your hubby that sometimes babies come after the age of 35. Example Brad Pitt.
The other S.
Good luck! We conceived our first within three months of going off bc. I was 38. The second took 3+ years, with no bc. I used to swear that the only time I wouldn't have a baby was in December - but guess what? Little miracle baby showed up right around Christmas. I was 42.
So please, consider yourself truly blessed *whenever* you have a healthy baby, and don't worry too much about the calendar (as tempting as it is).
=)
I say just have fun trying to get pregnant and not worry about when etc because you can sike your body out. Mine was born end of May and it was already starting to get hot. I think I'd rather be pregnant when its cool out than when its hot out. I was born in October and my mom said it was a horrible pregnancy
I had two June babies (11 months apart), one in July, two in August (one day apart, but years apart), one in March, and two in October.
I like summer babies best, a lot less stuff to worry about and a lot less clothes needed.
I just had my son in August and it has been horrible. Not only was the summer miserable ending your pregnancy - but he this cold and flu season has been brutal on him. He's not even 6 months old and has had 3 ear infections and placed on a steriod for a cough - and now he's sick again with a bad cold/cough. My first was born in March - and it was a lot better and he didn't have nearly as many problems when cold and flu season rolled around when he was 6 months old.
I did NOT want a holiday baby...way too much going on and my cousin was born on Christmas Day and HATES it to this day. My kids are 19 days apart (3 years), one end of Sept and one Mid Oct. I'm glad my kids bdays are during school because they like to have a party with their classmates and take in cupcakes or something. I don't know what, if anything, the summer bday kids get to do? Well, that's my 2 cents. lol Good luck!
Both of mine are fall/winter babies.
I watched my mom be HUGE pregnant in the summer in TX and she was miserable I would HATE to be that big in the summer.