Father in Law Wants to Come Visit in a Few Weeks

Updated on June 09, 2008
K.N. asks from Conroe, TX
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My FIL wants to cfome visit in a few weeks. He is going to a conference in Florida then is going to drive here to Texas for a few days. I am NOT happy about this.

BACKGROUND

He drove down from Wisconsin for our wedding in May 2006. He was on his way somewhere then called my husband and my husband had the stupid idea of telling him to come to visit for a minute. So he came and later my mom said he could stay 1 night well he stayed 4. We live with my parents and my husband, mom and dad were all at work so I was left with him by myself. He tried to tell me how to run my life, dug through our trash, didn't take a bath, didn't brush his teeth, slept naked with the door open, ate all the leftovers from our fridge, didn't offer to pay for his food when we went out to dinner, he went around and asked our neighbors for money and told one of our neighbors that he was a professional bum. After a few days I've had it so I told him he had no right to do the things he did, cussed him and threw him out all while my husband just sat there. He spent the night in his car and thankfully left the next day.

NOW

He has told my husband that I am a spoiled brat and he needs to get a job at mcdonalds and we can live in a traler so I can learn to appreciate things.

Would you want someone like that around your son?

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So What Happened?

FIL was rude as usual. Stayed in a room for 3 hours working the complained we didn''t do anything like go anywhere or anything.

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S.G.

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K.,
You need to have a serious talk with your Husband. Since you are living with your parents I would just let both your husband and FIL know that he can't stay there. Go to a hotel or where ever but not there. He has already disrespected you and your parents home so the line has to be drawn. I would not like this type of person around my child teaching him it is ok to disrespect people. Hopefully your husband will understand and stand up to his father for you.

Good Luck

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G.F.

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Wow. I thought my MIL was bad. You need to have a serious talk with your husband since it is his father. He needs to stand up for you. I had to do that about my MIL and my hubby finally talked to her about how she treated me as a mother and things are much better now. Her feelings were hurt for a while, but it opened her eyes to what she was doing.

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S.K.

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tell him you don't have your own home for him to visit...should solve everything!

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B.M.

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Dear Kim.

Sounds like your husband should step up and tell him he will have to stay in a hotel if he wants to visit. Give him a limit of days and keep him away from your friends. You may have to tell the neighbors ahead of time and appologize in advance. I had a FIL who lived with my X and I 8 mos. out of the year. He came from Switz. We are divorced, need I say more? Let your husband know straight up how you feel and what he must do. Otherwise, perhaps your husband should make it clear he will go see his father in his home. Don't let anyone push you over in your home. I have 3 step kids who can't stand me. Aged 26, 25, 20, all are parents. Unfortunatly, they are so disrespecful, they are not welcome in our home. It took me 6 years to make my husband see what they were doing to our relaionship. He has to go to Jasper to visit them now. Keep your head up hun. It will get easier over time.
B.
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