S.H.
Wow... you sound so strong and wise...my heart goes out to you and your dear son.
Perhaps, ask your counselor about that?
I know my friend, a single Parent, used the "Big Brothers/Big Sisters" organization for her kids, so they could have a "male" role model in their lives. She really loved the program. Here is their website:
http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJvH/b.1539751/k.BDB6/H...
Or, do you have any CLOSE family/relatives/in-laws in your town? Any of them who you would trust completely and be a good "male" influence in your son's life? Does he have a godfather or legal guardian who would love to be a presence in your son's life?
One thing though...and I don't mean to sound trite or "cold." But being that your son is so young, and recently lost his Dad... please DO watch your son carefully (which I know you obviously do), and make sure he is NOT taken advantage of in any way, by any 'Adult' pretending to 'care." A child is so vulnerable at a time like this. ie: you don't want some adult figure victimizing him or something. You know how things are nowadays. But that is also something I would watch out for... especially since you are now just you and your son. Keep an eagle eye about you...
Bravo to you for having had grief counseling... for you and your son. That is a triumph and so important. My family too, endured that when my Dad passed away several years ago. It is a great thing to do.
Lots of hugs to you.... and all my best, may you & your son always be blessed,
Susan