Hello, My 3 Yr Old Is Biting People

Well try putting him in time out and explain to him you dont bite people, and you stay consistant and he will learn its called tough love.

My initial thought is that your son is biting out of frustration at not being able to express himself (typically, kids start talking at 2 and can form simple sentences by 3). I recommend that you have his speech evaluated (for FREE) through either your school district OR Early On of MI (1-800-earlyon). Either place will do an Individual Education Plan (IEP) that evaluates his development and any shortfalls....if necessary, your son can get speech therapy for FREE. Addtionally, I recommend the use of sign language. We had a similar situation and my son's attitude improved dramatically once he was able to communicate (we taught him words like: drink, eat, more, cookie, candy, go potty, etc.). Please be agressive in getting any help your child may need to get him talking. It will make a world of difference.

ist off you child should be speaking by now at hte age 3
my child didnt mutter a word at age 2 and qualified for a program called Early On in Michigan...look for your local chapter it is FREE help and they do FREE evaluation....

as for the bititng it is because he cant communicate and is frusterated.....

I definitely think he is frustrated because he can't communicate. Have you talked to your doctor about this? He is definitely behind with speech. Have you thought about teaching him a few words in sign language...enough to get by until he can use words? You should definitely get him some speech help.

Even though he can't talk, you need to let him know that biting is not acceptable behavior using whatever discipline means you choose.

By the way, nice name. I was confused to see a message from A. A. since my name is A. A.

Good luck with your son.

Most kids bite because they are frustrated that they can't communciate. You said your son is 3 and not talking? I would put him in speech therapy. He is probably biting out of frustration that he cannot communicate. Does he have any learning disabilities that you are aware of?

Hi there. I have a son that turned 3 in August. He's not speaking very well either. I find that it frustrates him because he cannot communicate what he needs to his siblings. (He and I seem to understand each other pretty well.) My son is the youngest of 4.
What I've done to deal with his frustration is to look to the local school district for help with his speech. There are many early intervention services around... but you have to search them out. The one that happened to work for us this year was the local school district... there are also services out there that aren't within the school district... and the public school system sometimes doesn't know they exist either! I'd ask your pediatrician as well.
Since beginning school (he goes M-F half-days) he's progressing well. Whether he's talking now because he's been attending school or just because he's getting older - I'll never know. I, however, feel that I'm doing all I can to help my son.
I do know that he's starting to talk more, and there are less outbursts when he can't get his point across. And he's very proud of himself when he puts 3-4 words together and others can actually understand him. He smiles more now.

My son had went through the same stages of growing up, however this may be hard on you, but the way we had taught our son. His father had biten him back, please not that hard, but where it made our son realize the effect it has.

Does he see what you do at work. Maybe trying to pick up some of there actions? Biting is rough, i just think he would be biting himself if it is frustration, biting others now, he just might be mad as heck,Is he the middle child?

Hi A.,
I've read some of the other responses you've received. They do sound helpful but no one mentioned your son may have a small hearing problem. I once had a friend with a daughter that had some hearing loss but not total and her speech was slow to develop. Nothing that I can remember was done about her hearing. She does speak well now after speech therapy.
See about getting his hearing checked and don't lose heart he will stop biting when he's able to communicate more.

Hello A.

We are also from Gaines. I have two sons. One is in first grade and the other is 4. My 6 year old never gave us any problems. My 4 year old however, was atrociuos. We had him in daycare and every day I would pick him up he would be quarantined for biting other children. Needless to say I was mortified. I pulled him out of daycare for the safety of the other children. We tried everything, I bit him, I let other children bit him(so he would know how it felt), I would put him in time out, we tried a little soap on our finger and then put it in his mouth, I tried spanking. None of these things worked for us. Finally, we gave up any of the discipline and concentrated on getting our little one to talk. Once he began talking, he stopped biting. It was like a miracle. He was showing his frustration with not being able to communicate with everyone by biting them. I wish you all the luck.

D.

My daughter (who is now 6) went through that biting phase when she was 3. The way I got her to stop biting me is to bite her back. Now some people may not agree because we all raise our children differently. But once I bit her and she realized it didn't feel so well she stopped biting me and others. I'm not saying bite him so he'll bleed. Just enough for him to realize how it feels.

They have something that they use for people that bite there nails its real bitter everytime he bites someone dip it on the end of your finger and on the tip of his tounge he will not want it to happen please believe

Hi A., I had the same bitting problem with all three of my children what worked for us was bitting them gently but with enough force so they would know what it felt like to the other person. As for the speaking I have a friend whoes son has what is called a type of Palsy it is where his brain doesn't send messages to the mouth fast enough for the words to form, I would talk to your Ped about it and get it taken care of ASAP because there are also other problems that could be associated with it. My oldest didn't start talking till he was almost three ( he is my fiance's from a previouse relationship) when we got custody we had to teach him how to talk and communicate with us. His bio mother never let him speak so he would grunt and point to whatever he wanted and she would give it to him, he was her last child and she wanted to keep him a baby. He now has problems in school with comprehending stuff he's in third grade and has repeated the first already. Hope this helps you.
J. G

My 3 year old is biting occasionally. It is mostly his older sister. Once in a while he will bite me. I have never tried the bite him back method, and may possibly do it. However, I was told by someone, that they tend to bite (not too hard) as a way of showing affection. While I do not tolerate this behavior, I find that my son does it mostly in playful situations and not out of anger. When he does do it, I use the old vinegar on the lip method. Guess it isn't working, seeing he hasn't stopped. lol

My son just turned 3 and is speaking in sentences. I would definately have your child checked, both speech and hearing. It may be nothing. Not sure what the ages of your other children are, but if they are younger this could be why he isn't speaking yet. One other thing, let him ask for something - don't always ask him. If he is thirsty, let him ask, if he can't use the words you could say - oh Joey, are you thirsty? Do you want juice? Can you say juice? etc. Always doing the talking for him may be hindering him in a way.

I hope I have helped in some way. Hang in there. You are not alone.

My daughter who is now 21 months old was biting people when she was 12 month's old! And the more I let her get away with it, the more she'd do it! She was biting me, her GRanparents and her great Grandparents! So finally I just bit her back, on her finger! But not to hard! Just hard enough to let her know, that yes it hurts bad!She started to cry, and so I told her it's ok and I hugged and kissed her and told her that, that's why you can't do that to people! Cause it hurts, doesn't it? And I was told by my Grandma to do that, and I wouldn't cause I thought it was mean! But I tried everything else and evry sice I did that! She hasn't done it since! LOL!