Help Me Triage My Party Prep So I Don't Have an Anxiety Attack (Please!)

Updated on May 01, 2012
J.B. asks from Boston, MA
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OK I am now so overwhelmed with my son's upcoming First Communion party that it wakes me up in the middle of the night. The party is a week from this Sunday at my house. My house is very small so I'm praying for good weather. I am borrowing a couple of small canopies but wonder if I should just rent a large tent? There will be anywhere from 20-35 people here. So the weather is my first concern. My second concern is my schedule for the next week:

Saturday - busy/out of the house from 8 AM - 7 PM; Sunday - open
Monday-Thursday: work day job and night job. Basically, work 7-9AM while kids get ready for school. Two days I'll be working from home until 5 and then going to teach at night, returning home at 9 or 10 PM. On the two other days, I'll go into the office, teach after and get home at 9 or 10. Then I log back into my day job and work until midnight. Can't take vacation days because we're behind on quarter-end reporting and I have no back up.
Friday - take a vacation day but will still have 3 hours of work that has to be done that day
Saturday - open all day
Sunday - First Communion in morning, home at 12, party at 2.

So...this Sunday and next Saturday (with a little time on Friday) are my days to get everything done. What can I do a week in advance that will actually hold for a week? I'm thinking deep cleaning and de-cluttering the common areas in case we end up inside, then it will just be a quick pick up the following Saturday. Outside is mostly ready, we just need to clean the lawn furniture. Would you shop for paper goods and dry staples this week and then just get produce and other fresh items next Saturday or wait and do all the shopping at once? I'm cooking a ham (picked one up when they were on sale after Easter) and making coleslaw and salad but everything else I'm ordering from a place so I don't have to worry too much about cooking.

How would you handle this? I'm used to hosting a few parties a year but can usually take a true vacation day or two to prep and/or have time at night the week before. This is the first time I've had to do this while working 70 hours as well. Thank you!

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

Wow - what a schedule! Renting a tent is expensive and you have to be around waiting for them to come and set up, and it seems like a big expense for 25 people. However, the larger tents do have rain shields - but you still have the problem of wet grass and people wanting to be out in it.

Yes, buy the paper goods ahead of time. What I do is set the table ahead of time, and I put out the platters or chafing dishes with a sticky note saying what goes on it. I put the serving spoon next to it, labeled. I put the pitcher out labeled "water" or "lemonade" - you get the picture. Then I cover the whole thing with a clean sheet or even a $1 thin plastic drop cloth from the hardware store. It can sit there all week and not get dusty. Not sure what your space looks like, but I usually set up a separate table for drinks and desserts - again, things can be put out ahead of time in many cases. If you have people coming in to help you (relatives, friends), then the sticky notes tell them what needs to be done. I post a checklist on the refrigerator (put ham in to heat, pour water, fill ice bucket) to help me and any helpers.

When you make things like cole slaw and salad, either make them right in their serving bowls and refrigerate (but leave a sticky note on the table where they're going to go), or refrigerate them in plasticware and leave the serving dish on the table - then you or someone else can quickly dump the food into the serving bowl at the last minute.

I make a list on my computer so it can be edited - I even put the times on it that stuff should be done, or at least put things in order. On Thanksgiving, for example, it says when the turkey goes in and when it comes out (that will work for your ham), it says when to put stuff in the oven (potatoes, squash) and when to heat the gravy and when to start steaming the vegetables. Sounds babyish but you'd be surprised how easy it is to overlook something. Take a half hour of your free day and make a relaxed and sensible list - once stuff is written down, you'll feel less stressed about remembering it. That's the stuff that wakes me up at night!

And remember, this day is about your son's communion and not about whether you remembered to make deviled eggs! It's a religious event and should be kept in perspective by everyone who cares about you and your child!

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J.L.

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I just had my son's first birthday party and I feel your anxiety. Anything you can do ahead of time, like buying the paper products/dry staples, do it! Better yet, get cash and ask a family member to do it. Don't worry about deep cleaning too much since people are too busy to notice. Save yourself a little time by waiting to sweep and vacuum until the day of. I'm not saying leave it a disaster, but if it's bad on Friday, then what's another day and it'll be perfect for guests. Get the lawn furniture cleaned asap, I'd not going to get that dirty before the party. Grab a couple laundry baskets on Saturday night and declutter like crazy. My home is also small and we had about 20 people, so just having the counters clear instead of cluttered makes it feel less cluttered. I tucked all the excess into our closed bedroom. Having all Saturday open will be enough time to get ready, especially if you're organized and know exactly what needs to be happen and prepare the family for a day of helping out. Don't rely on people who have let you down before. My in-laws offered 3 people to help for 3 hours but didn't show until the party started. I busted my pregnant butt off, but the anger towards them gave me energy :P Make lists!!!

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D.F.

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Make a list of everything that needs to get done. ASSIGN chores to other family members. You do not have to do it ALL.
Yes, clean this week, deep clean then touch up next Saturday.
Yes, buy everything this week that is not food or at least food that will expire in a week.
The more you can get done ahead of time, the better. Saturday before the party will be for food shopping and preparation. Make sure you have the family on board with your plans, they can help you.That way you won't be so stressed out.
Keep it simple, make it fun.
Blessings!
D.

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F.B.

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When we have a largely outdoor get together, my aunt sets up a card table with a table cloth. On it are all the utensils in a cady, and the paper goods turned upside down with a painted stone over top. Everyone grabs their own place setting, and serves themselves from a buffet. weighted table cloths are put over the tables in advance, and it makes everything that much easier.

Make sure to ready trash cans as well. People can "bus" their own plates and cups. and discard their recyclables, too.

Lastly, if you have the equipment and the space for it, set out beverages in ice outdoors. That way everyone can help themselves.

Don't forget the condiments, salt and peper.

Lastly, if you are tapping people for help. ID someone who is responsible for helping you with the coffee/ dessert service. They would have to swap out the paper goods, put on the coffee pot, bring out hot cups, milk, and sugar (already prepped in a caddy by you), and bus out the cakes cookies, and serving utensils.

Congrats.
F. B..

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☆.A.

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My suggestions.
Assign the "cleaning lawn furniture" to your husband and forget about that.
This Sunday--pseudo deep clean and shop for dry goods. (The real cleaning will be after party!)

On Saturday morning go and buy your produce for coleslaw & salad.
Use the canopies. Have hubs set them up next Saturday, if he can. Even if the weather is nice, there will be shade.
Then go and pick up ordered items (unless caterer is delivering hot Sunday?)
Later in the day Saturday --or evening--prepare salads.
Do a quick pick up/bathroom clean, etc. Saturday evening.
Prepare everyone's wardrobes Sat night. (Or even this weekend.)
Attend communion Sunday morning.
Send someone for ice--if you need it. (I always forget ice!)
When you get home Sunday--put the ham in the oven.
Done!
Good luck!

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A.E.

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I would try to just let go of your anxieties- you have a good "excuse" for not having a picture perfect clutter free home. Yes there are super judgemental people out there ( I know quite a few- one has offered to "show" me how to wash my cabinets...REALLY?????!!!) but I have learned that the best way to get prepared for a party is to try not to freak out about doing everything perfectly. I usually do buy as much as I can ahead of time, so that when I go to grocery store on a Saturday, I can just grab a few parishables -get in and get out- You don't want to have the added stress and time of dealing with weekend lines while you are trying to clean up for the party. Better yet, do you have someone who could get those items for you? HTH~

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