N.D.
I agree with the other post that you need to sit down with her and have a serious discussion heart to heart.
I also have a nanny that comes in my home daily Mon - Fri since my little girl was 3 mos old:
- Vacation time: I let her know upfront that she needs to give me 2 weeks or more notice so we can find alternate arrangments.
-I keep track of her hours but she is paid a weekly salary based on 55 hours. Some days she goes home a little early or late, I don't make a stink about it and neither does she.
-Do u have an alternate caregiver in the case she gets sick and can't come over to take care of your son?
- Stuff my nanny does that maybe yours could too: laundry and put clothes away, dishes, cleans countertops, cleans bottles, cleans microwave in and out, mops the kitchen floor, vaccuums the family room floor (small), uses the hand-vaccum to clean the stairs, she dusts main furniture in the family room and mirrors, ties up the garbage, waters my plants in the kitchen, etc. She cooks lightly for my daughter and sometimes for us if we ask her to. Luckily my daughter takes 2-3 hour naps during the day that allows her to do things. Again, if she's too busy with my daughter and cannot do some housework I dont' mind; she knows my daughter's care is top priority.
- When she comes after hours or extra hours on the weekend, I pay her at her normal hourly rate. Means her salary divided by 55 hours. I sometimes have her come in on weekends if I have to go somewhere, or in the case of last weekend when I had the terrible flu and she took care of my daughter while I groaned in bed all day.
-Dangle the carrot. I keep her interested in working with us by taking her out occasionally on outings, bringing her take out food, and keeping her in touch with my family. My mom occasionally comes by to have tea with her and takes her and my daughter to a local church for a little outing. We give her yearly bonuses for the new year. I praise her caregiving and compliment her work. I give her tokens of appreciation. Basically, if they feel appreciated and respected, the less likely they will have the urge to take another job, even if it is higher paying.
hope that helped.