JFF--For those of you who have been married for 10+ years, do you find that sex with your husband is pretty much the same every time you have sex--like pretty routined? Do you kiss or skip right to the actual intercourse?
It's never the same. I do go for quickie's more now then ever. Morning works best for us. By the end of the day we are both too tired. I think it gets better as we get older. That's just me though.
We make out for a few minutes then get right down too it. Basically the same 2 or 3 positions that are our favorite. And we're all about the quickie. Things just start hurting if you are having marathon love making sessions. I'm not in great shape. lol Luckily, my husband and I are VERY sexually compatible, and although it's quick, its VERY good so I'm happy. lol Not like my ex who was like an 18 yo who wanted it 10 times a day. And my bff's husband wants sex 3 times per day every single day. She was ok with it at first but now she's in her late 50's and is on oxygen 24/7 and is finally putting her foot down (or her clothes on lol) and telling him that she is not happy with that and physically she cant keep up with him and it isn't fun for her any longer. And HE does not want a quickie but full on hours and hours. I think he has some kind of sex addiction or something. It's just too much and I feel bad for her. Anyway, this is probably too much info but you asked. lol
It used to be the same all the time. About 3 years ago I decided that I was going to give it some life, and it was my job to do it since I wanted it.
So we tried new things (anal, toys, etc..), and upped the frequency big time.
And I have found that the more sex we have, the more I want it.
And if we go through a time where we can't get at it as much, I want it less.
So I'm trying to make sure that we keep up the frequency. Because I've found that it has a very positive impact on ME. I make more effort for him, and I feel sexier and younger.
All that said, we don't do much with foreplay. Never have though, that's just not us.
well, he DOES have the combination to my safe<G>. so we both know the tried-and-true methods of turning each other on. but no skipping steps. my engine revs slowly.
;) khairete
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Anyway, after all these years it's pretty routine. We know what works and don't need to waste a lot of time...
We hit 16 years this May and, while we have had years where things were less then exciting, we are having more fun now then a couple of newlyweds. We had some off years when the kids were little, but now that they are older and we have more time for each other we have really reconnected. We try to keep things interesting and fun, and even have make out sessions sometimes like when we were young. It has brought a new spark back into our relationship to feel again sexually for each other the way we used to before kids and life got in the way.
We have been married 12 years, have 3 children.
Sex isn't "routine." It has changed since we were first married (all the time!) to when he is not tired (NOT all the time) from working late hours.
We know the tried and true things to turn each other on, but every once in a while one of us will throw something new in the mix. Which is always great....and then I'm all "how did you come up with THAT idea?"
I like to kiss, but for some reason my husband thinks that means that he has to shove his tongue in my mouth, drool, and breath hard...all major turn offs. So I try not to kiss his mouth. ;)
Actual intercourse isn't what usually gets me to the grand finale...so there is usually foreplay.
I find that it's a bit harder to get to sex since the kids can't seem to settle down for bed until about 10, even though we put them to bed at 9-9:30. Half the time they are finally asleep and my husband or I is sleeping on the couch. bleh.
Depends on the day - somedays we go right to what we know works every time. Other times when we both just came out of the shower we do more interesting things. But it really depends on the day, our energy, our drive that day, where the kids are, etc. After 20 years together and now on my way to 60 our bodies dont easily do the things they used to - or they do but everything hurts after a few minutes. So we have adjusted. But it's much better now that we know what we both like.
It has evolved and continues to evolve. I think that is normal. Sometimes we go with tried and true things we know we like...then other times we experiment to see if something else would be just as fun.
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