That is the ultimate question! Yes, it's important to take care of your kids and be there for your family, but if you don't care of yourself first, who will be there for your family if you're unable to be? I learned this the hard way and have since done things that make ME feel good. My kids (4.5 and 18mo) actually enjoy doing many of the things I enjoy, so that's a plus.
Here are some things I do and have done:
- Joined a gym. Their child care has a 2 hour limit, so I get 2 hours to work out, sit in the jacuzzi, take a class, or just sit in the lobby and read if I want.
- Signed my son up for camp. I'm a SAHM, so no, I don't need the care, but he enjoys it, and it gives me one-on-one time with my daughter.
- I cook what *I* want to eat, not necessarily what everyone else may want. I do family recipes, new recipes, or just something thrown together that sounds good to me. I'm actually surprised at the dishes my kids enjoy!
- I take time for me during the day. My kids are good at playing by themselves, so I "reward" myself with computer time.
- I played volleyball in a league (before they had to fold due to the economy) every Monday night.
- I'm a peer breastfeeding counselor with Nursing Mothers Counsel. I'm also the Assignments Chair, a Speaker, and am on the publicity and recruitment committees, as well as helping out with Orientation and whatever else I may want to be involved with. It requires my time, but I don't mind. I actually LOVE my "job!!"
- I like to have my hair colored, and my sister does it (saves time and money).
- We get out of the house EVERY day! Something big, something small, we get out every day.
Hope some of this helps! One of the biggest factors in being more able to take care of myself is the support of my husband. I didn't have it until our 1st (son) was almost 3, and now that I have it, I'm runnin' with it!!! :) Doing even small things for yourself will make you a better person, better mother, better wife, etc!!