well, my sarcastic response is that you could pay the wages I'd lose by taking a day, unpaid, off work to help for a couple hours at a party that isn't directly impacting the academic success of the youth of America (which pales in comparison globally).
I'm having *that* kind of day.
I can't be at parties. I tell the teachers and PTA that up front. My job right now is not flexible like that.
What I CAN do is provide the drinks or whatever. But I absolutely don't have any time during the school day to help out. So that means I even have to be able to bring the *whatever* to someone else who can even take it during the school hour (or it has to be something that my daughter can carry with her on the bus).
I actually had the PTA of my daughter's current middle school tell me "no thanks" when I email responded last year that I couldn't physically help, but offered $50 toward supplies. She emailed back that what she really needed was parents who were available during school hours to provide "elbow love" (which I assume is some ridiculous play on "elbow grease" which, I guess, meant if I can't show up then I'm not valuable).
I would say that they need to expand their PTO. I was the treasurer of the PTO at my daughter's school where we last lived and we just established a network that TALKED to all the parents about what they COULD do. And then we organized so that we could use each parent's strength. No daytime hours but access to a color printer for free? Great - check by your name for providing copies. Broke, but available every day from 7:30-9 - you could help with before school playground help. etc etc etc.
Then we had a whole spreadsheet of who to call for what.
But it goes beyond that. That school had a culture of parental involvement. Parents WANTED to be involved. I've seen other schools where there are just a few parents who do everything.... but it's hard to get involved in that because it's a clique or you don't have a say or whatever. So I would look at what the culture is at that school.
One of the ways we made it easier to increase participation is that parties/rallies/ceremonies/concerts etc were first thing in the morning. We found that most parents (at that particular school) could go into work a couple hours later without having to take the whole day off. Also - PTO meetings etc were video conferenced so people could join in from wherever they were if they had either a phone or computer. That way you could assign duties to parents who physically couldn't be present, but could tell you what they were willing to do via phone.
Also - it MAY be lack of information. If they're sending home a flyer with all the other million flyers kids get at the beginning of school - I can't always read through all that and lots of parents don't have a way to organize *all* the information they get. We did a website where parents could go and we had a "pick list" where parents could provide input on what they were willing to do. It would automatically shoot the officers an email and they could contact the parent to follow up.
I think in the world of busy 2 working parent households or even if there is a sahp when there isn't childcare available for the other kid(s) while the sahp is helping it gets tough. This world is not set up to help parents be involved, in my opinion. And then the message that *we* need to make it fun for the kids is a turn off. Like I'm not doing enough already.
I like the setup of the room mom. Each class has one or two parents who CAN be there - and then those who can't provide the "stuff". That is even and everyone provides to what they can.