Wow! That's odd. My husband couldn't get enough of my boobs after I had our baby. He was only upset because the baby took so much of my time because I breastfed. He was slightly jealous because the baby spent more time with my breasts than he got to. however, he thought it was funny that every time he touched me before and after we were given the go ahead on sex that my milk would let down. I think it was more his sly way of knowing he was causing excitement in me because 2 things caused my milk to let down - the baby crying from being hungry and when I was sexually aroused.
That's just plain odd. I expected my husband to be squeamish but he was just the opposite. Our youngest is 13 years old now and even now, he misses my having the breasts I had after she was born through the time when I weaned her off the breast and onto a cup.
Your husband needs some major talking to and it needs to be soon. Please feel free to tell him about my situation and how my husband enjoyed the time we had together when I was nursing after our baby was born. He even used to tease me when we ran out of milk for coffee. (I'm not going to go into my response of where I told him to step but you probably get the idea... LOL@!)
Maybe men are different. I thought with my husband's views that most men were like that because he seems to be so different in other aspects when compared to husbands of my other friends. This was one time when he actually followed the same path as my friends' husbands after they gave birth and began nursing.
I'd start by letting him know that your breasts were put there to serve a purpose and it wasn't for him although he's had the opportunity to do so until now. If he can't handle the milk then he doesn't get sex or anything else. He needs to grow up and be a man and stop acting like a little boy who had someone take his candy away from him. Your child, the child you made together needs your milk to become strong and healthy and if he doesn't want that then he doesn't deserve to see you naked or anything else....
Personally, I'd be pissed off if my husband acted that way. The house roof would literally blow right off the top before I got done b*tching. BTW, the reason you gained weight was to ensure your child was protected within your body as well as well-nourished while in there too. If he can't handle this part of parenting, I'd seriously wonder if he can handle the rest.
I'd suggest that he go to a family/parental counselor until he can get his head on straight and not come back until he can be kinder and more understanding. I'd have tossed my husband out of our bedroom for acting that childish. MOF, I HAVE tossed my husband out of our bedroom and even out of our house for acting childish!!!! He always come back with his I'm sorry and please forgive me and thankfully, he never acted the fool again - at least over the situation that got him put in the doghouse.
He truly does need a major taking to about this and I'm afraid it will take a therapist or another understanding husband with a child whose gone through what you have to get through to him.
I really hate that your husband doesn't think you are at your sexiest right now because that is exactly what my husband told me. He said that he thought I was at my sexiest while pregnant but somehow, after our child was born and he watched as I nursed her, I became even more sexy in his eyes. Now, he says something as similar because we are middle-aged. Our oldest is 23 and within months of getting married; our youngest is a teenager and if she holds her grades and everything else she does she will have a shot at a scholarship to a college of her choosing by senior year yet he still finds me beautiful even though I have a bit more weight than I would like, I'm not as young as I was 20+ years ago, and our health isn't great at all yet he still thinks I'm beautiful even through all the fights and arguments and making up and talking to hold our marriage together, which we have managed to do all these years.
I wish I could put just a bit of the sweetness in my husband inside yours. I'm not saying that my husband can't be a turd because he can be and I am the first one to call him on it. Over the years, he's got used to be calling him on it so it's no surprise He usually knows he's been a turd long before I have to tell him but I tell him anyhow. We have this brutal honesty between us that has grown over the last 2+ decades. I hope you get there but I'm afraid you may not until you learn to use your voice and let him know just how badly he makes you feel when he makes comments like he is making. Tell him and then tell him if he can't accept the way you look to put a freaking blindfold on and sleep on the freaking couch until he can muster up a true and heart-felt apology that you will believe and he actually means!
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PS: If you're still leaking, I'd breastfeed at least for 6 weeks. That way the baby gets all the antibodies from your milk to make the baby healthier. I'd personally breastfeed longer but if you are set on not doing it, at least go 6 weeks. Le Leche League can help you with the latching on part. It's easy once you get the hang of it and you can get the entire areola into the baby's mouth. once they latch on, the baby goes to town on the milk supply and they literally fall asleep full and content. I had to burp mine while she was asleep because she was out of it by the time she was fed. LOL! It was great. I slept better and felt better and it helped me lose weight, contracted my uterus to its former size, and I all around felt better about me. Plus, the baby got all the nutrients and the antibodies her big sister didn't get and she didn't get sick like her older sister did - nowhere even close to as sick. She was sick 1x a year if even that while her older sister stayed sick. I had a problem with my milk, which is why I couldn't breastfed the first time. I regret not buying from the breast-milk bank. It would have helped my oldest considerably if I had. She was sick all the time.