T.,
It's not easy being a single mom. Everything seems to fall in your lap, and you feel alone. It sounds like your guilt is driving your decisions and actions right now. Please don't make the mistake of trying to be your daughters' friend. That is not your job right now. Your job is to set boundaries and expectations, and to hold the girls accountable if they don't meet the expectations. You are teaching them how to be successful contributing adults.
Arguments are two-sided. When your daughter starts to argue, stop talking and walk away. If she follows, tell her that you are not speaking to her until she controls her voice. And stick to it! (It's hard at first. I know.) Once she settles down, speak to her again. If she begins arguing or yelling again, walk away. It sounds like she wants attention, so she will settle down if that's her only way to speak with you.
Set a schedule for chores, and set a schedule for bedtime. Set consequences for them. I was a working mom, and didn't have time to clean house, cook meals, do laundry, check homework, and love on the children. Therefore, we had a chore schedule. My kids knew that if they wanted to have family time in the evenings, their chores and homework had to be done when I came home.
I taught my children to do their own laundry when they were old enough to see over the top of the washing machine. I took a Sharpie marker and put arrows on "Warm" water and "Start". I did the same for the dryer. They began by washing their sheets. By the time they were in about third grade, they were responsible for keeping their own clothes washed. (I did their whites until they were much older, since I didn't want them to misuse the bleach!)
We had rooms assigned to each child. Each of your daughters can be responsible for keeping a room clean. (Based of course on their age and ability.) Their jobs can be as easy as making sure all toys are picked up before bedtime. Maybe on the weekends, you can have cleaning time when you vacuum, dust, and do the big cleaning together.
If you continue to feel frustrated or concerned, by all means seek family counseling. Sometimes, your daughters will not listen to you, but will heed the same words when spoken by someone else. I know that in Grand Prairie, we have a wonderful organization called Children First, which offers counseling on a sliding fee scale if needed.
Good luck.