I have a little boy who will be a year old on Sept 7, 2007. I stayed home with him until he was about 7 months old. Now I need to go back to work to help financially. I am okay with this. If I could stay home that would be great but right now that is not an option. My husband and I tired one inhome center. It was horrible! So we found another one. I thought things were going great. He has been there four times. Today and this past Monday when I call to check on him, she tells me that all he does it cry! He screams and cries almost all day. She told me that she is try working with him for one more week and if things don't get better, than she doesn't really think he should be there. NOW WHAT!! I have one more year of college and I will have a teaching degree. I just got a job working in a school! I was so excited! But now I feel like I should just quite and stay home! Any ideas would be great! Thanks!
I just wanted to say thank your for all of your comments. I did take him one more time today. She told me today that he cried in the morning and then after a short nap and lunch he was better in the afternoon. Today she made me feel better but I am still not completely happy. There is a women that I work with that takes her son to daycare, she talked to her daycare provider and she has openings there. My husband and I are thinking about looking into her more. I feel so bad for my little man, keep taking him to all of these different strangers! The daycare that I really want him in is full. She is always full!! I live in Farwell, I don't know if anyone knows where that is but there are no centers in this area. Just a bunch of in-home! I have one more year of college left and I will have a Bachelors Degree in elementary teaching! Ever since our son was born I don't know if teaching is what I want to do. I want to be home with him. I was thinking about opening my own center. A friend of mine just did this in Lansing, so I know she would help me get started. Well, my little man just woke up from a nap so I am going to get him some dinner. I will be back on later! Thanks again for all your help!
I love my DC center, Loving Hearts Little Hands, in Robinson Township, on 120th just north of m-45(lake mi Dr)
I had probs with an in home too, I actully had to take my girl to the Doc, she had some weird spots on her face and head, Doc said It could be from exessive crying, he told me to take her out of that ladys house (she wasn't a fussy baby and hardly cried at home-she was only 5months at the time)
K.
My name is N., I am sorry you are having so much trouble with day care...I have been watching kids in my home since 99..I have 3 boys of my own, 13, 7, and 3,,,,I live close to Bishop Airport. If things don't work out with your Day Care lady, I would be more then happy to help you..I have reference's..I am a stay home mom looking for more kids to watch, I have no other kids at the moment. I charge what people can afford..If you would like to get hols of me, my number is ###-###-####. Thank You !! N. Wendling
Every daycare is structured differently, and some kids just don't fit in with the environment of certain daycares. Some kids need more one on one time than the average in home or center can provide. Some kids don't like being around so many other kids and some are frightened by the chaos, especially if they have not had much exposure previously as in your case. I think you should try to find an in home babysitter for your son. Place an ad on here, your local paper, and call the Red Cross. They can provide a list of all sitters who have taken their babysitting safety courses. Also, try your local Bingo Hall. There are tons of older, but not elderly ladies who attend who have nothing to do during the day and somewith no family and they make great caregivers! They also tend to be cheaper and more helpful than the average sitter, too! I hope this helps!
Hi K. -
Pull him now. If she is irritated with him for crying, he can feel it. Children are so astute. Finding a daycare outside the home is such a difficult task, and it may take you 3 or 4 times to find a place where you are all happy. (My son has been in 4 daycares, but we have finally struck gold! We're both in love with Sara.)
I can't tell where you live, but you can call Kent County 4C if you are in this are and they will give you a list of licensed in-home daycares based on the zip codes you provide. Some have 6 a child limit, others have a 12 child limit.
All I can say it, keep looking until you find a place that feels right. Your little boy will know when it's right. My son cried every morning when I left him in daycare at the last place. It's heart breaking!
Good luck!
What area do you live in? I have a fantastic home daycare that I use in the Wixom area.
I think it is probably the daycare provider. He will have a transition period at any new daycare-- usually for a week or two. My son cried at drop off and pick up (an emotional release) and occassionally during the day for the first few weeks around 15 months. Then he was fine. Have you considered a daycare center. I know "in-home" seems better to many people, but the larger centers generally have well trained staff and are able to provide an extra worker to comfort your son while he adjusts.
Good luck.
Dear K.,
I feel for you. I stayed home with both of my kids, and never regreted it!
But, if you are set to work think about in-home child care. I work for CHI Au Pair USA. This is live-in childcare from persons around the world. It is a wonderful exerperience for the whole family.
Let me know if you would like more information, or visit our web site: www.chiaupairusa.org
Good Luck in what ever you choose to do!
Hi K.,
I know how hard it is to hear that your child is miserable in his new daycare and it sounds like the daycare provider isn't devoting the time to help your son adjust. Sometimes children don't click with those that watch them. I had my daughter in both a private home and in a daycare center. My advice to you is if this daycare provider you are currently using doesn't work out, try a daycare center. Daycare centers have trained staff who are trained in child development. Also, most centers have many different teachers who some children may work with better than others. Good luck.
MC
Hi K.~
How miserable for you to know that your guys is crying the whole time! I really think that you have to shop around until you find the best fit for your family. There has got to be a daycare that your son will enjoy going to. I have to wonder if they are taking the time to help him adjust, or are they just letting him cry? The provider should be very experienced with crying kids...it's what they do! I think that if the daycare says he shouldn't be there, then they have already given up on him and may not be giving him the attention he needs. Im not saying they are mistreating him, but to already say she can't handle him makes me question her committment. I think you'll find the right one, it will just take some more time. Good luck!
~L.
Hi,
I agree with lacy too. I think it sounds like the daycare worker is obviously not taking the time to help your son adjust to the situation. He will cry when you drop him off because he's always been with you, but it shouldnt last all day. By that age, he should be easily entertained LOL. Maybe you should check into another place. Is this place overcrowded? If so, maybe try a smaller place.
Good luck with everything:-)
