Put your program in your SWH, I'd love to hear it! Congrats!
I can relate to the looks thing. Three pregnancies in a row on a tight wardrobe budget (to say the least with no health insurance-all our money was paying the hospital and I must have worn the same two Target maternity outfits for six years straight!!!) took a toll. I did manage to stay faithful to the gym and lose the weight each time and eventually pieced together enough flattering garments to actually show up to all the birthday parties, drop offs, etc.(usually just two pairs of jeans and a few tops and seasonal shoes can rotate enough-but in our area, forget groovy hair cut-it's been a STRUGGLE to adjust style-wise after city life) I know how you feel. It would have been easy to bow out and get lost if I wasn't the only parent home. I got through the light at the end of the tunnel and feel like I'm "back" now, but it was tough.
Keep your vow and get back into life, It is fun, and for the record: No one cares how you look but you. I certainly like all the different moms at all the different events no matter what they look like. One of the moms I see at one of my kid's classes is super obese, she's always in hospital scrubs and no make up. She has five kids with her-three in classes, and two waiting with her. The first time I saw her I thought, "Wow, she must be totally exhausted coming her straight from work! She is awesome!" She's so nice and she's always there supporting her kids and good for a fun conversation. My youngest plays with her youngest while we wait, and all the moms get along great. I'm sad when she's not there! Luckily we live in a very unsuperficial area, it could be tough if all the moms look and act like barbies, but I bet you'll feel a lot more accepted than you think. And if any of the "mean girl moms" ignore you-PHEW! Who cares about them anyway. You're right-do it for your kids, they want to see you feeling happy in your skin.
Post your "me program" Good work!
**Ps One and Done is SOO right-a few good wardrobe pieces will make you feel like a million bucks while the wrong clothes-will make you feel suicidal. Purge ALL the cheap ill fitting stuff even if it leaves you only two or three thing in your closet. Hair, make-up, nails are worth their weight in gold. ( my nails don't stay painted, but they need to be clean and filed well)