i honestly dont trust him and he wants to take her alone to mexico suposidly to show her off to family and he said he will bring her back he wouldnt be able to cause he is illegal. he comes to see her once in a while he dont seem very interested i know she needs her dad but i have a good man in my life that is her step daddy and he himself has 3 kids and he really loves my daughter and has been there even when i was pregnant but sence i got pregnant and after i had my daughter her real dad only came over 4 times. should i keep her real dad away because of what he might do or try to do?
Thanks for everyone's advise I told him to never come around and he was ok with that he dose not care about her and I was still a little worried so I called imigration and reported him and told them all his info that I knew and never heard from him again. I that can be mean getting him sent back but i am protecting my daughter.
Watch the movie Not Without My Daughter and it will show you that you should NOT let him take her. THat movie was based on a true story about a woman who went to her husbands country only to find that he planned on staying there and the hell she went through to get back to the states. Don't trust him.
Here is the answer- NO NO NO NO NO!!!! Do NOt under any circumstances allow him to take her to Mexico. Even when she is older, he won't be able to bring her back legally. Does she even have a passport yet??? You need to get her one and lock it up in a safety deposit box, that he has no access to.
That is a sticky situation. I would speak to an attorney so that you can have documentation on file. For me, I wouldn't let her go. I feel for you and Isabella. Good luck!
Hi A..
I WOULD NOT, again, WOULD NOT allow him to take your daughter to Mexico since he's illegal and most importantly, that you DON'T TRUST HIM!! Watch "Not Without My Daughter" because that was based on a TRUE STORY and the mother went thru hell and back just to come back to the United States legally with her daughter. DON'T DO IT..........she's got a daddy in her stepdad!! Go see a lawyer and get full custody of your daughter AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!! I wouldn't want you to go thru something that is unnecessary and preventable right now. Besides, he can't be that much of a dad since he's only seen her 4 times since she was born. PLEASE, DON'T ALLOW him to take her because you might never see her again!
I would not allow him to take her, my sister is going trhough somethen like that, but the guy that took her daughter is not her biological father he just signed the birth certifcate, yesterday the guy was only suppose to take my sisters daughter out to eat and come back, he never returned, he never returned phone calls, he had dropped my sister off at work and then probably left from there, so i would not trust it espcially if he is illegal.
go with your gut!!! if you feel something is wrong then you are probably right. I would not let my daughter go in that situation.
A......NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It sounds like a bad story waiting to unfold. Mail, email, and the internet exist for a reason. If they need to/want to see her SEND PICTURES not the BABY!!!!! Stick with your gut feeling (which exists for a reason) of you not trusting him. He can love her all he wants (and that is wonderful) but that does not mean he will not try and do something crazy.
no way! thats crazy my husband is illegal and i would never let him to any of our children to Mexico simply because its way to dangerous for an illegal coming back especially with a child. In your case yuo dont even trust him forget it it. Do not let him take her. Theres a good chance you will never see her again!
Do not let him take her to Mexico. If he is not a legal citizen then he will not be able to get back in without doing it illegally. No, no, & no. If you do this you may never see your little girl again. Personally I would only let him have supervised visits when he comes to see her now. Do not take the chance!
First of all, she is so young! She is less than two months old!!! A baby needs her mother and I can't believe that he is even asking this when she is so young. I would consult legal advice, as this can turn ugly. Try to get full custody of her, so you don't wake up one morning to find her gone. He can send his family pictures and videos of her, but I don't feel he should be taking her out of the U.S.
We have some friends that let their children go visit family in Mexico all of the time. While I would never do this, they do. The point is that the children did not EVER go until they were old enough to tell their parents what they did or they were able to relay anything that may have happened to them.
I know you have already heard this but I just have to say it again.... No way, she is just a little baby and shouldn't be away from you at all. If you didn't trust him already now is NOT the time to start trying it out with your little baby. Nothing good could come of this. Send pictures. How would you feel if she didn't come back? Or she got injured? Please don't make the wrong decision and let him take her. You don't owe him the opportunity to take your baby out of the country and her possibly never coming back safely to you and he cannot guarantee her safe return. I just don't think you should let him even take her for a visit out of your sight. If he wants to take her out of the country I am not sure I would trust him alone with her. When she is a teen and has had a relationship with dad maybe then you could consider letting her go to Mexico with him but for me that would have to be years after he has proven to be a responsible father and truly interested in your daughter. Until then I would say no way. Please consider all the pleas from the moms that you sought opinions from. God Bless You!
Use common sense here, A.. Your first sentence says it. "I...DON'T TRUST HIM"
That should be all you need to make your decision. You don't need anyone else to confirm it. If he wants to see her, he can come to you.
FIRST OF ALL: YOU WILL NEVER SEE YOUR CHILD AGAIN IF HE TAKES HER......GOT IT???? NO WAY SHOULD YOU CONSIDER THIS. Give him a picture to take to his family!
SECOND: Seek legal advice.
ALSO....Take your daughter's birthdate and name off your profile. I would not divulge that information.
There are too many crazy people out there.
Protect yourself....especially for the sake of your child.
NO WAY! Especially since you do not trust him plus on top of that he is illegal and may not be able to get back with her safely. That's not a risk I would be willing to take. Plus she is still so young. If you want him to be involved with her life that's one thing, but him taking her to Mexico as an illegal is another. Go with your instincts. Tell him he can send pictures and videos as a way to show her off to his family.
A., You need leagal help. Her father may take her to Mexico and you may never see her again.
Good luck and Gods blessings,
D.
If you were not married to the father at the time of your daughter's birth then the law will presume that you have sole legal custody. He can only get legal rights by asking for them from the court. The court may well grant him rights if his name is on the birth certificate. However, if he is not in the country legally, he may not want to go to court. Particularly since you could possibly bring up his immigration status as a factor for denying rights in the interests of the child. Unless the court has granted him rights of some kind, you have every right to deny his request to take your daughter out of the country. Trying to get her back from Mexico if he takes her could be a huge legal battle, even if authorities cooperate. Your strongest footing is to keep her with you and allow visitation under controlled circumstances.
I WOULD NOT!!! REPEAT NOT!!! trust all that. NO WAY!!!! NO ONE NOT EVEN MY DAUGHTER'S BIO DAD WOULD TAKE HER TO ANOTHER COUNTRY WHERE HE COULD SELL HER OR LOSE HER EASILY!!! HELL NO!!!!! NO NO NO NO... find out if step dad would adopt... My husband is adopting my daughter... her "donor" only saw her 5 times before she turned one... he was more than happy to sign her over if that meant he could get out of child support... NO DON'T do it unless you are going with!
NO WAY IN HELL! WOULD I let my little 1.5 month old baby LEAVE to MEXICO without me.
Especially if you are not together anymore. Tell him sorry"NO, get lost"
He's illegal so I doubt he can be granted a lawyer to fight in our court system and win.
It is pretty obvious what the answer is and I think you know already. If he is in this country illegally then there is no way he will be able to get your daughter back over the border safe and home to you. Definitely do not let him take her to Mexico unless you are there and able to bring her back yourself. That said, I don't think you should try to keep her away from her biological father. Even though you say he has only seen her 4 times and may not seem to be interested (he does want to take her and show her to his family in Mexico so he must want to be involved somehow), there is nothing other than your fear of him taking her to Mexico that should keep her away from him. I would say to let you daughter see him if he is interested but make sure the visits are supervised and don't let him take her anywhere unless you are there.
You yourself said that you don't trust him and he hasn't been around to be a father. Give him a few pictures and only let him see her with you around. Trust your gut. He hasn't earned the right to take her anywhere - he isn't married to you and he isn't here legally.
Yikes, how did we jump to the conclusion that the father isn't interested in his daughter?! The baby is almost 7 weeks old and he's come to see her 4 times at the risk of being picked up! I'd say give him a little more credit! While I certainly wouldn't let him take her to Mexico alone simply because she probably wouldn't make it back home (not because of him, but because of the whole smuggling issue), why don't you take her? Lots of people go to Mexico for the day, it's not like it'd need to be a huge undertaking. And I agree, send lots of pictures with him too.
I would not let him see his daughter unsupervised. Never let him take her out of the country (too many legal unknowns once you let that happen) unless possibly you go too, maybe with allies of your own. Glad you have a good step-Dad for her!
No! Don't let him take her!
Mother of 2 little girls
you know what your gut is telling you- well screaming at you! NO way!!
TRUST YOUR INSTINCT. NO WAY should you allow that. Make a video, send it. Go outside the country, you have no help from US law. no, no, no, no. Not worth possibly having your child KEPT in mexico.
A.,
I agree with all the other responses - ABSOLUTELY NO WAY!!!Seek legal advice immediately. Visit www.azlawhelp.org to start. Many forms that can begin the process for sole custody etc can be downloaded from the family court's website and you can file with the clerk of the court yourself. However, getting legal advice is well worth it to protect your daughter. She is way to young to be without her mom.
Good luck and God Bless - stay strong and stay focused on what is best for your child.
L.
Hi A.. My advice would be NO, NO, NO!!! Girl, he is an illegal, he is not coming back anytime soon. Unless your going with him, and even then I would be scared. Do you guys get along really good?? or is he upset that your with someone else now?? He may use your daughter to get you back for not being with him. I honestly would not let her go. And she soooo little still. You always hear on the news of divored parents or separated couples who let one of the parents take their children to Mexico to visit and most of the time the other parent never sees them again. It's very hard to cross the border these days, so there is a chance he is leaving and not planning on coming back. I'm a first time mom too, and if it were me, I would not let my daughter go with her dad to mexico by herself ever, (my husband is from mexico too, but he is here legally). We get along fine, but I would still be paranoid that he would not bring her back for whatever reason. Really think about what you are going to do, but I wouldn't let him take her. He may be her real dad, but if he's not really interested in her for the right reasons, then she is better off with her step daddy. Hope something I said helps you, sorry I went on and on. I just feel that you shouldn't let her go just like that. Good luck to you and Congratulations on your baby girl!
A. i would definitely follow your instincts on this one. even the possibility that the dad might be kept from bringing isabella back would scare me to death. even if you want to keep things pleasant between you and the dad, it's not worth the risk in my opinion.
as above - do not let him take her to Mexico, but also as said above- you can go to Mexico (depending on where he lives) and show the relatives your daughter but do not leave her alone with anyone - always keep her with you just in case, or invite them to visit her here if they can get into the states for a visit (probably very difficult).
Enough said.
