Is It Bad Taste?

I agree with all the others responses. Just sending both her and her husband a nice Thinking of you card and some flowers would be so sweet. It is different than a miscarriage, they actually got to see the baby and hold it. It would be nice just to let them know that you remember and that you care. The world needs more people like you. You sound like a great friend to her.

Like the others, I think it's a wonderful idea. Believe me, they remember their baby very well, and it will comfort them to know that someone else remembers as well. A simple 'Thinking of you' is perfect, no strings attached for her to feel indebted to you, just gives her the opportunity to be cared for, so to speak. And like the others said, make sure it's for the both of them, she isn't the only one that's hurting.

I for one would feel very comforted with the thought that someone else remembers the day my baby died, and that someone else is mourning with me. I think it would be a wonderful gesture for you to show your friend how much you care.

My sister lost a baby at two days old. He had a heart defect about which they knew before he was born, and they knew he wasn't going to live long. She wanted to talk about it but many people around her were very uncomfortable with it, so I would say go with your heart. She will most certainly be thinking about her baby on that day, so you will not be "opening up heartache" that is not already there, just letting her know that you share it.
Bless you for your loving heart.

NO it is NOT in bad taste!!! It is such a thoughtful and kind thing to do!!! The hardest part of losing a child might just be that no one wants to talk about it, that you do not feel like your child touches anyone anymore, that you are expected to keep it all to yourself.

I compeletly encourage you to send her a card and give her a call or whatever you want to do. It will fill her heart and let her know that she has a true friend who cares for her, even when it is difficult and uncomfortable.

She needs to be able to grieve and there are most people don't want to give her the space to do that. The baby was alive, it was hers, and it is still in her heart. There is no way that she isn't going to be thinking of it. There is no way that she's free from the fact of losing her baby. You are a wonderful friend to acknowledge something so difficult and to be there for her. Everyone should have a friend like you!

I think a thinking of you card would be greatly appreciated!

Be sure to send the "thinking of you" card to her and her husband. They will both appreciate that you remember their baby.
I will send them good thoughts.

You all will probably get more out of a phone call than a greeting card. It is more personal. Living out of state and your long history of friendship, you probably have some catching up to do as well.

maybe just a phone call would do

You sound like a wonderful friend. Do what is in your heart and let her know you are there for her.

My ex-fiance and childhood sweetheart died three years ago. I still have a familial connection to his family, as they've known me since before I was born. On the first anniversary of his death and on the first occurrence of his birthday (the day after his mother's), I sent "thinking of you" messages to her. I kept it that simple, so there was no pressure to dredge up anything, but she had a quiet reminder that someone else remembered, too.

After my father died, I continued to send my mother flowers on their anniversary.

I guess my point is that I think that it's a sweet gesture when it's subtle, like a certain look in your eye or a hug that requires no explanation. My heart goes out to your friend.