Is It Just Me - Inglewood,CA

I'm with Tuesday on this one. He is being a great big fat baby.

BUT I think it is important that you do what you can and he should know that. However, if you ever use that as a reason not to do something with him, he'll feel it right away and he'll resent you for it. Perhaps he's starting to think that.

Maybe you should sit down with him and calmly explain that while you will do what you can, he needs to lay off when you're not feeling well. It is selfish and immature for him to treat you this way when he doesn't get what he wants. His manipulation is unfair and childish and that attitude doesn't exactly put you in the mood.

I know how painful this is. It sounds to me like you need good couples therapy. In spite of your excellent communications it seems like your husband has chosen to not listen to you. Get some good help now. Best of luck.

Kim,
Your husband is being selfish. I complained about having an excellerated heart rate during sex to my OB and he said "no more sex" (I am 27 weeks) I was shocked, and we still have sex, but not as much. But my OB said lots of women don't have sex the whole time they are pergnant! And if you are in pain, pregnant or not, then its not enjoyable, so why do you have to do it? You need to talk to your husband about it, maybe when he's not "excited" and explain to him how you feel. Why is he so upset? He's causing you stress, and your baby is feeling all of that. He needs to be supportive. Besides you two are young, I am assuming he's close to your age. You have plenty of time to have sex in the future! Remind him of that! And if you can't work it out alone, get a therapist to help. It's worth it, if anything tell him its for you.

Well he is being just plain mean, and trying to make you feel bad about this, one thing don't argue about this , its not worth it on your end, if he is going to make a big deal about you don't have to. Let him be a baby, walk away from it. He will get over it, next time hand him a towel go start the shower, tell him there go entertain your self in there. Better yet take a cold shower. Sorry K. he is being a big fat baby, all you can do is say sorry this effects you , but I am your babies Momma and your wife, if that doesn't count for something..

Hang in there :)

I had the same problem both with the pain and the selfish husband. I continually asked him to be supportive until I could find out a way to have it not be so painful, many different dr. vistis, tons of internet research, etc. I was looking for a solution. In the meantime he had an affair. I'm not saying yours will too BUT I really wish we had gone to therapy together and maybe we could have saved our marriage. Turns out he had all sorts of self esteem issues that I did not know about and the lack of sex just played right into it. So his telling me how he just couldn't bear not to have sex was in essence telling me about himself and I just had no way to interpret it or see it. So now when I see a husband be this selfish I have to believe that maybe he too has some esteem (or other personality) issues and you should want to address them now to both save your marriage and your own sanity. Because a healthy husband would not argue about this, pout maybe, but not argue. So please go get some professional help, this is a very sensitive issue not to bet taken lightly.