JFF What Intially Attracted You to Your Husband?

Updated on February 17, 2012
M.. asks from Detroit, MI
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This is kinda silly because I was 16 when my husband and I started dating, but besides the fact that he is tall, dark and handsome, he is the strong silent type. He is very laid back and he has this great confidence about him that drove me crazy. He wasnt cocky at all, because he had no idea he was doing it. People just respect him. I wasnt wrong about him, he is a very strong man. He had a really crappy childhood and came out of it like nothing happened.
He is my rock and even if he does get panicked or stressed you wouldnt know it because he always has it together. I really do look up to him and I love that! Funny how you can just tell by looking and briefly talking to someone how awesome they would be. I picked a good one, how about you?

But, he really does drive me batshit sometimes. lol

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Kate, my husband is Native American too! I wanna see pics of yours! hehe!

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

The first night we were talking, okay I was talking, he said I said everything he thinks but can't find the words. In other words he understood me!

I would have married him that night! :)

He is not to bad on the eyes either but I had to get used to how much taller he is than me. :p

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A.B.

answers from Sarasota on

Honestly, he wasn't the type of guy I would have "noticed" on my own if I hadn't been introduced to him (because I was always attracted to losers! LOL). But as we got to know each other he had this magnetism that completely drew me in. He was SO nice and considerate of me at all times. He was so affectionate. He called me every single day from the day we met! He was so dependable and being around him made me feel so calm and happy. Now we have been married 5 years and I appreciate him and love him more and more as time goes on, he really is an extraordinarily wonderful person. I love him so much! :)

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L.S.

answers from Spokane on

My husband and I were also 16 when we started dating. I was initially attracted to his creativity, self-confidence, sense of humor and his forearms :o)

But the moment I knew I was going to marry him was before we even started dating. We were friends and babysitting my cousin's daughters. The oldest one (about 2 at the time) came out of her room a little upset, crawled into his lap and fell asleep like a little cat - and she HATED men! I knew in that instant that he would be an amazing father and husband....and he is!

He's a hottie and the best person I know. I'm a very lucky woman.

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D.T.

answers from Muncie on

Loooooong story.

I met my husband online. We were both members of a role-playing community that was based on the X-men comics/movies. We played as students at the high school. They became a couple over time and sometimes we needed to be online at the same time so we exchanged IM names so we could work together behind the scenes. I quickly learned that he was playing Nate as himself, I got to know him as he got to know me.

It was wonderful for me because I've been over weight much of my life and had little confidence in myself. Through the game and through IM I was able to put myself out there personality first. He was a shy geek boy, so for him, he was able to talk to a girl and not have his shyness and social inexperience get in the way.

He's also a absolute babe! So handsome with beautiful blue eyes and a wonderful smile. He had and still has no idea how handsome he is! He treats me like a goddess. I love him so much and we fit together so perfectly.

In May we'll have been married 6 years and we have a beautiful blue eyed brown haired 5 year old girl and maybe another blue eyed baby in October-ish.

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A.G.

answers from Provo on

The song, "She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy" pretty much sums it up :p. Good thing he had a tractor...heaven knows if it would have worked out otherwise...lol.

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✩.!.

answers from Denver on

His car.... or so I thought it was his car. We were 17 and he was driving a Mitsubishi 3000GT so when he aske me out I said "ok". When he picked me up for our date he was in a 1989 2 door grand am - Not cool at all. hahaha. (The 3000GT was his dad's car that he had borrowed that day)

I quickly fell in love with him tho b/c he is a very caring person.

ETA - Oh ya and now that we are older - him in Carheart bibs - oye.... so hot!! (he works in construction).

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☼.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

Tall, dark and handsome like yours ... suuuuuuper funny sense of humor .... very easy-going (exact opposite of my father) ..... very honest .... and a Christian. Exactly what I was looking for after meeting so many men that just wanted to hop in the sack on the first date!!

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K.I.

answers from Los Angeles on

Not gonna lie...the first thing that caught my eye was his butt! He was standing a few feet away from me and I just happened to look up and there he was, with his back to me wearing regular old Levi 501's and then he turned around and BAM! Dimples and a smile to make you swoon!

He is SO handsome sometimes I can't stand it! He gets hit on all the time. After 15+ years I have gotten used to it and am even OK with it b/c he IS so very good looking, who wouldn't want to try to make a play for that? In the beginning though it really tested my own insecurities.

The best way to describe my husband is to simply say he is "A MAN"! Tall dark and handsome + funny and *uber* intelligent but unassuming about his brains at the same time.

Thanks for bragging session. I love him so much! <3

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A.C.

answers from Savannah on

The intial attraction: how GREAT he looks in a suit (he really has the perfect body for suits: tall, lean, broad shoulders, narrow hips), his friendly confidence (meaning he carries himself well, he was totally confident, but not a jerk or conceited), and his awesome English / South African / Texan accent. (what a combination!)
My roommate and I were begging a doorman to let us have just a quick peek inside and we'd come right back, we swear. He was not having it. Jer was inside and saw us begging all pathetically, and smiled, strode over, opened the door (elbow in the doorman's belly), looked him in the eye and said "Aww, let the ladies have a look" and winked. We ran in, thought it was awesome, ran right back out. But he made an impression on me! We bumped into him a few hours later at a coffee house, I gave him my email address because I didn't know him well enough to just give him my number, and that's where it began. :) I picked the best one possible for ME.

(My "issue" with giving out my number was the month before, I'd phoned an exbf in CA and we had a nice talk. Then one day a couple weeks later, he unexpectedly knocked on my door, in TX! That really freaked me out. I didn't have a computer (nor did my friends back then), so the idea of taking a number off caller id, getting on this new thing called internet, and doing a reverse lookup for an address, and then getting directions??? Freaky! I wouldn't give anyone my number until 6 months later when I got my first cell phone. Dang, I'm old! )

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A.C.

answers from Cincinnati on

I met my husband in high school. He had already dated several of my friends, but not while I was in town. When I first saw him, I kind of chuckled to myself because he had a huge afro and glasses, he was the member of all of these geeky clubs, and my friends were fighting over him. I was like, "Really?" I didn't get it at all.

But then I attended a club that he was president of with some friends. He was charismatic and REALLY funny, he was so confident, and he made direct eye-contact with me and he had these beautiful green eyes, and I just felt like a jolt go through me.

14 years later, he's still confident and funny with beautiful green eyes, but I've learned that he is also really romantic, a deep thinker, an awesome feminist, an affectionate and tender father, a hard worker, an animal lover, and I feel very, very lucky that I attended that club meeting that day.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

I really don't know he was totally not my type. Grungey and awkward, but it was just love.

He's hot now though, and even though he was like that then he was still a chased man!

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B.W.

answers from Washington DC on

I see lots of responses but wanted to join in. I met my DH at work. Initially he was an intern and that was the extent of it at first. A few years later, I put in a transfer to a new office where he was. He had a girlfriend, I had a boyfriend and then one day we were both single. We (me more than him) started to share stories of our significant others and kind of commiserated (sp?) over it. He had been sharing with me some tattoo ideas and then one day he pulled me into his office, took his shirt off and showed me not only his new tattoo that is across his entire back but the muscles that had been hiding under that shirt!!!! Aye dios mio!!! Anyway, we ended up going out to happy hour as a work group one night and since he lived far away I offered to let him stay at our place...hey, I was concerned! heehee. needless to say, we took it to a 'non-work' level that night and have been together for nearly 8 years this summer! The funny thing, I was into the big, tall, blue collar type and my selection of these guys often included being a big jerk. He is about 2 inches shorter than me and about 25 lbs. less than me. I never knew I would melt over a guy who was, "not my type" I love it.

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K.B.

answers from Cincinnati on

Um...he's totally hot! Blonde hair, blue eyes and big muscles! Of course there were other things that I liked, but his looks were the first thing ;)

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A.P.

answers from Austin on

We met at 17 and he looked old enough to buy liquor - never got carded. That's what FIRST attracted me to him! That was 25 years ago and we've been married for 18 years and now I like him for much more than just being able to buy me alcohol.

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T.K.

answers from Dallas on

His smile initially got my attention. That got him the 1st date.

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B.F.

answers from Toledo on

His bright blue eyes

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K.L.

answers from Sacramento on

The first time I met my husband, at my cousins house, he had just gotten off work. He was greasy, dirty, sweaty, and oh so hot!! And he was exactly my type! Literally tall, dark, and handsome... 6'5", native American, and such a handsome face :) Ooh baby, he was so fine! And he still is ;)

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L.W.

answers from Dallas on

I'm still trying to figure that one out......LOL....

No, it was because he was/is (like yours) tall, dark, handsome, NOT SILENT though, he's a talker - lol. He's strong in so many ways, he's my confidant and best of all he was/is loving, caring and a all around good guy. Stubborn to a huge degree but luckily his good outweighs that!

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R.B.

answers from La Crosse on

What attracted me to mine was his eyes. Then when I tried to talk to him he was very shy and quiet, this made me go after him all the more lol.

After he sang to me on one of our first few dates I was head over heals with him.

Then when I seen him interact with my boys and the way my boys were around him I knew for a fact he was the one for us.

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★.O.

answers from Tampa on

I gravitated toward my now husband because he was an extremely slim/athletic build, beautiful/handsome masculine chiseled face, strong hands, works hard and was not as super sexually aggressive as most men I have known. His blue eyes and European citizenship were bonuses!

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H.G.

answers from Dallas on

I love the mess out of my husband but he can work my ever lovin last nerve! !! I met him when I was 19 and and the first thing I noticed was his freckles! He is from Mexico and I've never seen anyone with freckles like that that isn't as white as I am! After 14 yrs I still love those freckles :)

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✤.J.

answers from Dover on

IDK if you want answers from women on the verge of separating from their husbands, but I'll throw mine in there, too because the physical attraction between he & I has never (ever, ever) been the issue between us, lol.

For me, it was his absurdly wide shoulders & all over muscular frame. Plus, he had on camo pants & a black t-shirt tucked in (because he's actually IN the military, not because he just wanted to look like he was) when I met him at my job so that helped, too.

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D.M.

answers from Chicago on

Except for the Native American part, I would think we were married to the same man!!! We started dating when I was 17, been married for 12 years now. He was 5 years older, gorgeous, and had an awesome car. And he liked me!!! I couldn't believe it! He's also my rock. He's so easy going and laid back. He was so quiet that he didn't say a single word to me the first night we met. But at the same time, he exuded confidence without cockiness. I'm the complete opposite, a neurotic self doubting mess. I don't know what I would do without him. We always say we are truly two halves of a whole. He's a dreamer, I'm a realist. He's a optomist, I'm a pessimest. We complement each other perfectly. Even now, 17 years later I can't believe he chose me!
And yes, he also drives me batsh!t crazy at times ;)

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3.B.

answers from Huntington on

Friends of ours had tried setting us up years before we got together. I HATED being set up.
So on a chance meeting at a friends house, we just started talking. And he was so genuinely interested in what I had to say. He asked me great questions that just showed his sincerity. So it got me thinking......

So I had my friend give him my number. And that was it! He is so genuine, and kind and smart. And he's pretty damn good looking too lol That was just a bonus!

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M.L.

answers from Houston on

We were at church, I was visiting with a friend, so didn't know anyone. A question was asked by our teacher and he answered. He was way to the side of the room and I didn't see his face very well. But his thoughtful answer was so sincere and I really felt the spirit fro him, and just felt like, "what a neat person." My friend later introduced us (and he was a cutie!) and we got married 10 months later :)

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J.H.

answers from Appleton on

LOL his long blonde mullet! (Hey, it was the 80s!)

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