"Jumpin" and Other Games Daddy Plays

This is a good time to start teaching that there is a time and place for everything...and that we don't always get what we want.

Contradictions are part of life. Sometimes it's okay to jump and sometimes it's not. Sometimes you get a cookie, and sometimes you don't.

It's okay to say no. And it's just okay to occasionally say yes.

Work with hubby. Would it be okay to tell DD that it's okay to jump only when you or daddy say so and are there to supervise? And maybe cookies or cake might be a treat on Sundays? Find a way to compromise...a little fun and a cookie won't undermine your parenting, momma.

ETA: IMHO, it's NEVER to early to start teaching your child that they don't always get to do/have what they want. If it's a habit for them to accept what you say from an early age, it's easier to explain it further if needed when they are bigger.

Your kid will eventually get it that mom and dad have different rules--probably around 3 or so. Unfortunately I am STILL yelling at my 5 year old son not to jump on the furniture (he was never allowed). You could try a mini trampoline if you have room or some other toy that is good for active indoor play. Toddlers do need a chance to move a lot which is hard in bad weather.

I think you should win on the couch and let him win on the dessert. There's no need for a kid to jump on the sofa, for many reasons, and dessert won't hurt her. Most people have dessert. Don't overcontrol the eating, not good.

With DD only being 20 months old, I wouldn't think that her judgment skills are honed yet so I wouldn't tell her it's okay to jump sometimes and under certain conditions and not others. I would simply tell DH that you need to teach her behavior that you would want her to display in public or someone else's home. How would he feel if he brought DD along to his friend's house and the minute she walked through the door, she ran for the couch and started jumping on it? How would the friend take it? I know if it were my couch, I would run right over, grab the child off the couch and very pointedly tell dad that he should probably take her home if she doesn't know how to behave. Then, you have made a bad "first impression" with the friends. If this is okay with him, then go for it. But you can't expect her to know it's okay in this instance, but not in the next.