Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire?

what my mom did to my half sister is when she lied my mom called her on her lies then my mom maid a donkey tail and pined to her clothes for every lie she did she got a very obvisous tail that she could not hide then my mom made her were a jacket that said on the back that I lie to my mother and these are my lie's talking about the tails. Well then My mom would have to go to walmart or the movies and my sister was so embaresed she quit lying. Just a suggestion. and since he is a boy I would make the tail real girly,

You could always fight fire with fire to prove a point that lieing hurts people. You could promise to take him to chucky cheese or go carts or anything else that he would realy enjoy doing. Then when he least expects it say sorry I lied we are not going. Then you could sit down and talk to him about how it made him feel to be lied to. Maybe when the lie directly effects him then he will stop. Or another Idea is if you celebrate Christmas. For every lie he tells he has to pick a present under the tree to either donate or give to a sibling. Maybe he won't think it is too cool to lie if he losses all of his christmas presents because he was lieing. I don't know if either one will work for your son,but sometimes kids need to see first hand cause and effect. Let us know how everything works out and Good luck..

Why not try taking away all of his toys and he earns them back when he tells the truth. Anytime he lies he loses another one.....

T.~~ I too have been having touble with my 9 year old lying. What I have done is grounded him and taken away his games (ie. game cube, nintendo ds, etc.) This really gets to him. I think kids just go though stages of lying.

C.

I, too, have a child with ADHD. He is almost 13 and lies about the stupidest stuff. I can usually tell but every once in a while he gets away with it. Although, I find out later. Anyway, he seems to be outgrowing it as well as the ADHD. Just try to read his face. Moms can usually tell after staring them down. They crack like eggs!

I am having this problem with my 11 year old daughter, going on 12! Yikes! I appreciate the advice offered to T. T and thank each member for their thoughts. I'm glad that was the first question that popped up on my page when I signed in! I needed some words of support, myself! lol
All kids (maybe?) go through such a stage in different degrees, ages, and for different reasons to test the waters and see how far the envelope can be pushed. Maybe they are looking for limits or need reassurance that boundaries are still there, and that as parents we are there to correct them so they don't have to be "perfect." All part of learning where and how they fit into their ever-expanding world.
But, hey, beats me! LOL

First talk to your doctor. Then talk to his teacher, sometimes teachers can give advice from experiance. My stepson is 16 and ADHD, and I can tell you it's easier at nine to try to redirect the energy it take to tell these lies then it is at 16.

My 5 yr old daughter lies all the time. She is learning not too. One way is that she is always punished more severely for a lie and if she is truthful with me and I can let the offense slide, I do. I tell her when she lies that if she'd been honest that the punishment would have been less or not at all if that's the case. I think she is slowly getting the hang of it.

Also, when I know she just automatically lied to me (because when they do it often I do believe it just becomes second nature) I give her one more opportunity to tell the truth. Your 9 yr old is older but I still think this can work.

The most important thing you are wanting to do is develop a relationship of openess and trust (and it's a 2 way thing). He's old enough for you to sit down and explain the reasoning behind him needing to be honest and not just the short term reprocussions but the long term ones. If you can't trust him now at nine then how are going to trust him when he's older and wanting to go with his friends, drive, etc.

I would punish him. For every lie that he tells I would ground him for a day...pretty soon he will lie when he wants to go do something. Don't let him go. Let him know that there are repercussions to his not being truthful, and one of them is not getting to do what he wants to do because you won't know if its actually what he is doing. Every child is going to lie about something along the way, and my mom always said "Choose your battle's." If these are big things that he is lieing about, then definatly reprimand him and let him know that you will not tolerate it. I hope that this helps a little.