Marriage - San Antonio,TX

I have tried many work-at-home opportunities and I have found out a few things: 1) the majority of people do not want to buy from a person - they trust products that they can purchase at a store, 2) the numbers are right around 5% of any company's members who make a livable wage, 3) home party plans require money up front for product, catalogs, receipt books, bags, hostess gifts, shipping, etc. so the money they say you will make usually goes back into the business - be sure to ask about all the costs (and ask them honestly to tell you how long it took until they were making whatever amount of money you need to make a month), 4) your family and friends really don't want to help you out and do a party (how many parties have you enjoyed hosting?) so you end up making many of them uncomfortable around you, 5) very few people are successful at getting more than 3 people to a home party that will purchase anything (people are too busy these days to go to a home party when they really don't have money to spend), 6) most work-at-home businesses that don't tell you up front what it is will be a multi-level marketing plan (and go back to #1 for the biggest problem there), 7) the people that are making ridiculous amounts of money by working at home are in the 1% of their company, 8) if it is a well-known company (e.g. Mary Kay) then the ones who make the big money have been doing it a long time, 9) if a person is with an MLM and making ridiculous amounts of money, they have a network of people from previous MLM's and know a lot of people who want to do an MLM (not the vast majority of people you and I know) - so it is perfectly legal and possible, but only if you know a lot of people who want to be in an MLM.

Be sure to ask the questions about time and money. Also ask about current trends. One couple I know who made it big with e-Bay says that the time has past for that kind of venture. I have a friend who is a medical transcriber. She got in at a good time but now it is very hard to get in (you have to have so many hours of medical experience, etc.)

Be sure that whatever it is that you do, it is something you are passionate about. I have kept my jewelry home sales business only because the minimum is very low and it is easy, but I am not a jewelry person. So I do not put in the time I could to make decent money. I only make about $20 - 30 a month because the only business I do are past customers emailing me or calling me to buy jewelry.

If you have questions about a particular company, you can contact me as I probably have looked into it or know someone who is in it.

Sorry this is so long...

west.com and convergys.com are legitimate work at home jobs just have to meet certain requirements, computer, dedicated phone line and pass tests if i can remember right.

Yes I know of work at home company that I have been working for for a long time now and I love it. It is not at all a scam and I make enough money to be very comfortable. Plus I am at home so my family doesn't have to do without me. I have a friend in San Antonio that I just got started with my company and she loves it. I have friends in Austin that I have helped to. I travel that way very frequently. I currently life in Dallas. I would be glad to help you out. My company specializes in helping moms stay at home with there children and still bring in the income that the family needs. Feel free to contact me at ____@____.com Take care and I hope to hear from you. I would love to help you be that work from home mom you want to be!

AFTER READING SOME OF THE RESPONDED TO THE ORIGINAL QUESTION I WANT GO ON RECORD.

SO FOR THE RECORD I DO NOT WORK FOR A MULTI-LEVEL MARKETING COMPANY SUCH AS MARK-KAY, PAMPERED CHEF, JEWELRY, SENCY CANDLES, AMWAY ETC ETC ETC... I HAVEN'T HAD TO INVEST IN $$ FOR MY JOB. I AM NOT A SALES REP, I AM NOT A DISTRIBUTOR FOR SOME COMPANY AT ALL. IT IS A LEGIT BUSINESS. MY COMPANY HAS MANY MANY ACCOLADES FROM THE BETTER BUSINESS BUREAU. OH, AND I DON'T HAVE SOME CRAZY WEBSITE EITHER. IF YOU WANT SOMETHING REAL THIS IS IT.

Yes, I just started working as a Direct Sales Representative with My Vintage Baby. Becoming a sales representative for My Vintage Baby Direct lets you earn the income you want with the flexible schedule you need. You can set your own goals and work your business from home part time or full time.
As a My Vintage Baby Direct Sales Representative, your primary role is to sell irresistible clothing! You’ll offer private trunk shows for our exclusive My Vintage Baby clothing line in a casual, no pressure setting. We’ve got the support you need to run your business. No special skills required. I have really enjoyed this and more so because I am a huge fan of the clothes. My children receive so many compliments when they are in the MVB clothes. Take a look at www.myvintagebaby.com/christyrivera and let me know if you would like any more information.

hi A.. i have been a work at home mom for over 7 years and i love it because i don't do a party plan thing or deliveries, etc. you can read my work at home story on my page www.GoodLifeToGreatLife.com and my toll-free number is 877-216-1940. i'd love to tell you about it.
J.

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i answered this on your other post:
hi A.. i have been a work at home mom for over 7 years and i love it because i don't do a party plan thing or deliveries, etc. you can read my work at home story on my page www.GoodLifeToGreatLife.com and my toll-free number is 877-216-1940. i'd love to tell you about it.
J.

I would love to share with you what I do ... It is my first experience with working from home... Of course I do go outside of the home 8 days out of the month... But my choices with six children.. It has been a blesssing for my family with TIME.. and FINANCIAL... It is work.. I GUESS... its fun... I make about 6500 a month I made that at four months in the business but the average to get there is a year... email me and i will mail you information.... GOOD LUCK... ____@____.com or call me ###-###-#### thanks

Hey there A.! Actually, I have an @ home job that is definitely for real..It's with Starwood Hotels & Resorts. They gave me their computer and headset to use..I just have to pay for internet. I got it thinkin I could watch my little one at the same time, but it definitely requires my full attention because I'm constantly taking calls to book reservations. It can be fun though, and the pay is decent, but you'd definitely need someone to watch your little ones :)

A.:

1. Call the Family Justice Center @ ###-###-#### (I assume you're here in SA?) You wouldn't believe the services they have for women in our situation...legal, emotional, housing, job training, childrens services, etc.

2. I had joint bank accounts at Bank of America with my husband. He withdrew ALL our money and closed down both accounts. I was in shock. I called the bank thinking surely he couldn't do this w/o my permission but he had every right.

3.Open a bank account ASAP in YOUR NAME. Capital One has free checking with a very minimal deposit (if any) & they've been great to work with.

4. My husband threatened me on the phone so I hung up, got in my car with my two little boys and I LEFT. I drove straight to my church & the support came pouring out. You are never, never alone. I know you don't have a car so call the Family Justice Center now so they can help you come up with a plan.

5. You can get emergency food stamps--call 800.252.9330.
And, dial 211 on your phone--tell them your situation and they'll give you info on local agencies that can also help.

6. I'm a devout Christian and don't believe in divorce; HOWEVER, God never intended for any of His children to be abused or enslaved (that's why He rescued the Israelites from Egypt).
We set the example for our children when we stay in abusive households--they think it's the 'normal' way to live.

I wanted to provide a 'family' environment for my boys so I stayed with my husband for a long time (I'm a SAHM). But then I began thinking, "I am sending a message to my children that this is the way a man should treat a woman." That did it for me.

I have been capable of doing WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more than I ever thought I could. Keep your eyes on your children and never look away. I've prayed for guidance and protection and God has held me up the entire time.

I am going to lift you up in prayer right now. It's obvious from the responses you've gotten here that you are not alone!

Take good, good care of yourself and your babies.

Right now I am currently enrolled in a 4 month certificate program for medical transcription. That is one job that I know of that I will be able to do at home and still be here with my children. How ever, you do have to pay for the class, it's not that expensive. The total cost of the program is 1250.00 and you can make small payments a month starting with only 5 dollars and only pay,at most, 70.00 a month. Look into it, it may be something with doing for you. You can check it out at different schools the one I am going to is U.S. Career Institute. Hope this helps.

Yes there is!!
Hello my name is C., I work with a wonderful company called Work At Home United We do No Selling,No Stocking, No Delivering of any products. You can Contact me via email or phone at ____@____.com / ###-###-####
Visit my website at http://www.workathomeunited.com/mami4vida?gmi

A., My wife and I have looked at many home based businesses and checked them all out. We found one that is legitimate and very family friendly. The company and the people in the field are truly awesome. Here is my website for you to take a look. http://www.homemadegourmet.com/djfarley
The products are high quality and great tasting so you get repeat business.
If you have any questions do not hesitate to contact me by email or phone.
Have a wonderful week!
Darrin and J. Farley
____@____.com
###-###-####

This sounds exactly like my ex-husband. Notice the "ex". You need to quit sitting back and waiting for him to decide what's going on with you and your children. Get a job, even a part time one, and homeschool the kids in your off time. It will be hard, but if you can get help from your mother you can do it.

If you think your husband is lusting after other women, chances are he is lusting at the very least. He's slowly alienating you, and making you more reliant on him. You need to cut him off at the pass.

And I agree with the poster who said get a lawyer, a good lawyer. He's about to cut you off completely. Next time he kicks you and the kids out, don't go back...and don't look back. Your kids need stability, and if he can kick you all out on a whim, then he doesn't care.

I have my own business with Cookie Lee jewelry, and it's the most wonderful thing! I can work when I want and I have complete control of what I make. The company is fabulous and stands behind their product and their consultants. And the jewelry sells itself. If you like to have some "you" time with other ladies...a little wine....and shopping, you'll love this business! You can work as little or as much as you want. I stay at home with two boys and can contribute to our family income at the same time. I really never thought that I'd get on board with a direct sales company, but I'm so glad that I did. It's truly the definition of freedom and flexibilty.

what kind of work at home job are you looking for?

A.,
I love God, too! And I know He wants you two to stay together. Have you suggested going to a christian counselor? No matter what the outcome, I know God will be honored if you make every effort to save your marriage. If things don't work out, you should ask your church if they have any job openings or know of any. Often they will supply free mother's day out or preschool to church employees.
Praying God will heal your marriage, -S.

first of all, take a deep breath and then go hug your children and know that you are a good mom! also know that EVERY marriage has problems.
from what little you wrote it sounds like your husband is depressed. i'm guessing that he is around your age (30's)? i've found that sometimes THIS is the age men go through their "midlife crisis". they look around and see their beautiful wife and kids and home, but something in them says, "is this all there is?". crazy, right? we as moms usually feel very satisfied in our home life because we feel safe and comfortable with our family--and we've worked hard to create that! some men are just different. they see all this as a prision.
my advice is to try and get him (and you) into counseling and YOU NEED TO TALK TO A LAWYER. this whole business with the money scares me. so many stay at home moms fall into this trap (and i am a stay at home mom) of thinking their husbands would NEVER leave them and their kids--and leave them with no money!! you need to know where all the money is at all times and BOTH your names need to be on ALL the accounts. i don't understand how he could have had you taken off the accounts without you signing anything--were these bank accounts?
don't leave your house to spend the night with your mom--tell him HE needs to go. you need to keep your children's routine going for them to feel safe and that means sleeping in their own beds and waking up to all their own stuff! i hate to tell you this, but if you feel there is another woman there very well might be. you need to protect yourself and your children! be strong!! don't let your hurt get in the way of what you NEED to do! PLEASE call a lawyer! my prayer for you and your children is that he "snaps out" of whatever funk he is in and realizes what he's got! by the way, i speak from experience with all this. if you can, let me know how things go....

There are many out there. I own Claytor Home Business Guide at http://claytoriv.webs.com and http://www.homebusinessshoppingclub.com as well as a candle site where I make and sell candles and I do vendor events around Central Texas. Look them over if it is what you have in mind and you have any questions just let me know. Most people that advertise they are looking for work at home job are really looking for a 9-5 that you do from home. The last page of the Guide may have something like you want.
Good Luck.

Well...sounds like he needs to have you leave to give him a chance to make up his mind...besides...why would you want to be with a man that does NOT want to be with you...Good luck and remember to be the strong woman God knows you can be.

Shaklee is a fabulous work at home business... especially if you're in to health, nutrition and living a 'green' lifestyle. The company has been around for decades and has a solid foundation of credibility. They are also the sponsor for the men and women's US Olympic ski and snowboard teams. Email me at ____@____.com for more info if you are interested. Best of luck to you in finding a home job that suits you!

If I were you, I would find a job, even a part time one. See if you can find a babysitter, or even your mom to help you with your homeschooling. You can either send the homeschool work along with the children, or do their schooling during your off hours. I was a working homeschooling mama for a few years. It wasn't easy, but we did it. Try to become more self sufficient so that if he leaves YOU, you and the children will be fine. Sure, you will hurt emotionally, but you will be able to survive, and he will have to pay child support. We have had a couple of situations in our family where the wife thought that she was secure with her husband and didn't need any job skills............then found herself with no husband and no job, but all of the children. Even if you have to take a job for minimum wage, it will get you in the door and in front of people so that you can move up to better things. Don't be afraid. If your husband is abusive, which is sounds from your post that he could be, then he has to leave. In the meantime, pray in your own way for exactly what you want the outcome to be in this situation. Also, remember that men are just like us. They make mistakes, and sometimes they will realize what they are doing and stop. We have two friends who are married, that have been through the very worst that you can imagine in their marriage, but still seem to get through it, and forgive each other. I'm sure that it's not easy, but they are still together and still making plans for the future, so all is not lost. On the other hand, if it's time to move on, you are sure to find bigger and better things down the road.

Good morning A.:
Email me at ____@____.com. I will share with you about a home buisness that you can with a very minimal investment and the company I market is and has always been listed with the Better Buisness Beureau. There is no selling or inventory involved and the income is residual. I look forward to sharing with you to see if what I do is what you are interested in. Shoot me an email ____@____.com with your info and I will call you and schedule a time that you and I can get together over the phone.

Sincerely, A. Case

I at a stay at home mom of 3 boys and I work with 2 awesome oppotunities. The first one is I am distributor with The Gourmet Cupboard. It is FREE to join, and you earn up to 40% of your sales. You can look at my website at www.thegourmetcupboard.com for more information or email me at ____@____.com other business I do is I have my own online flower and gift basket business with LaBella Baskets. It is only $1.97 to start. No parties, no inventory, no quotas, and incredible training. You can go to www.mylabellabaskets.com/tamii.html for more information and to look at the fabulous baskets. You can also email me at ____@____.com of these companies are fabulous to work with and are relatively new so there isn't a million reps already out there. Best of luck on your search and contact me anytime for more information!

Find a good lawyer. A REALLY good lawyer.

Good luck.

Hello A.,

Well, "I think" you should leave. You can find a lawyer who will take your case for free or cheap. if you purchased a car during the marriage the car is half yours (everything purchased during the marriage is half yours!!!). But I suggest for now, just go to your parents, that's what they're there for. And you also just need to explain all this to your kids.... TOGETHER!! And the truth! And there are programs to help you get a job and your kids can go to public since you'll start working soon, right?

GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS

I am sorry you are going thru this. Know that you are not alone. I have been there done that. I would take everything he tells me serious. Even though it may not be what I want to hear, take him seriously. When my husband was acting a fool, I took it like that was it, and started to do my own thing. What I mean by that is I started to find out who to call for child support, and/or government help. Then I started to think about where to work. I couldn't afford rent so I was thinking about working in an apartment complex as a leasing agent, so that way I would live there for free or a discount or something. I told my dad my situation and he wanted to help me too. My point is when I told my husband what I was doing and had an interview for a job, he got scared. He realized I was serious and moving forward without him. He reanalyzed his thinking and backed off right away. Turned around and started acting like a husband in a marriage should act. No more threats to leave, or put downs because he knew I could dish it right back but with my 2 feet on the ground. Try it and if he doesn't realize he might LOSE YOU, then he doesn't deserve you and you will be happier in the long run. I hope everything works out for you.

A.-
I have been there and let me tell, the situation you are in is one that has a double edged sword. If you leave what will you do? If you stay what example are you setting for your children? I started to put a little aside and set a dollar "goal" amount. When I had that amount I made my decision, go or stay. I can't sit here and tell you what to do, but let the Lord lead you, walk with him and realize that sometimes we are stronger than we think we could ever be. I am very happy now, it was hard but I know that I made the right decision.
GOOD LUCK-
M.

I know this is easier said than done, but I am telling you from experience- RUN. this behavior is dangerous and abusive. Also, call your bank- he should not have been able to just "take you off your accounts" as you are a part owner- he would have had to get you to agree, so my guess is he is lying about that. Get Out while you can. If you need help finding help, email me privately, I can get you together with your nearest shelter or church and they will help you get on your feet.

hi A.,
i don't want this to sound cold, but when there is a dramatic change is behavior by a spouse, it generally only indicates 1 thing. human behavior is a constant. If your husband was always nice to you, and is suddenly being cruel then he is either A. cheating on you and being mean to you to make you leave to make it "easier" for him.
You have equal say at the bank if it is a joint account.
I work at home for
http://www.westathome.com/
Is your bank far away? Could you get a family member to take you?
He's very erroneous if he thinks that he will cease to be financially responsible for you and your kids, should you continue to be the primary caregiver.
Perhaps you could reach out to members of your church to see if there is a lawyer who could help you.
I'm sorry for you and i hope you know that you and your kids DESERVE happiness and peace- with or without your husband.
Try taking preemptive action, to be prepared for your kids. Should things change, and you do have to go it on your own, at least you can be somewhat prepared. Don't let him dictate how your life will change, and the terms by which it will change.
Take care and do your best.

First question - are you willing to stay in an abusive situation? How is this impacting your children? I am a Christian woman who believes that we need to stay committed to our marriage commitment however, I don't believe that we need to stay in an abusive situation. You do have options.

Suggest marriage counseling. If he refuses,

Do you have any family members who can assist you? Pack your things and leave.

I realize that this will change the dynamics of your family but he's already begun to change them and I'm sure your children are suffering for this also.

I haven't found any legitamate work from home jobs, Have you thought about direct sales companies? I sell Scentsy (wickless flamless candles that smell awesome). If you think you may be interested check out my web page, http://denisejahns.scentsy.us. or shoot me an email ____@____.com really sell themselves.

All i can say is pray pray and pray! Calmly tell your husband how you feel, then leave it alone and pray constantly. Ask him if he would be interested in a marriage counselor. Love on him and tell him how much he means to you and your kids. Get involved with other women in your church for moral support and encouragement. I can't even imagine what you are going through. but i have a friend whos husband cheated on her several times and she just kept praying for him and now they have a great marriage. It is possible. God can work miracles and He will. Psalm says "delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart" So just make sure you are spending time in the Word and praying. Get your kids involved praying no matter how old they are. If this does not get better soon, and you are being mistreated, get you and your kids out of there. You are better than that! You should not be treated like that and you and your kids deserve a better environment than that. You do what you think is best for your family. I admire you for homeschooling your kids. that is hard work. Keep it up. Keep your eyes on HIM!
Good luck. i'd love to know how everything goes.

Sorry to hear about your family. My ex was acting strange after our daughter was born. He never cheated but he was verble abusive and emotional abusive to me and our daughter. He droped us off at the airport when my daughter was 6mo old and told me that her and I needed some time with my parents. a week later I had divorce papers served. Now he wants to be part of our daughters life and he is getting remarried.. the Girlfriend is just as dumb as he is.. If you get divorced and I am not saying you are but please dont make the mistake I did.. I gave him everything,,All money stocks bonds and so on. Keep the house and you can see if family will help you if you have to go back to work. Just always fight for what you believe in and God will help you.. You may not thinks so right now but he will..

It depends on what you consider work at home. I do direct sales with Vantel Pearls in an Oyster. It is a home party plan. I made $300 in about 6 hours. my email is ____@____.com

First off, if you signed the papers on the accounts, I am not sure he can legally take you off without your signing something. So go to the bank in person and find out about that. He may have just ordered new checks without your name on them and be bluffing you. I know our bank would not do this - I checked when I had some problems with a relative (not dh).

Secondly tell him if he wants to go, fine but he has no right to tell you to leave the house. I would not pack the kids up and go to moms. You have been there caring for that home and it is your privilege to live there!

Thirdly I would say try to get some counseling.

Fourthly I would say how do you get money for groceries, etc? You need to start building you a 'womans fund'. It sounds to me like he is setting up for something and you need to be prepared for it in anyway possible. Also keep a paper trail of anything you can. Make copies of bills, letters, etc. and stash them some place safe. If it does come to a head, you will need to be able to have evidence of what is going on now.

Fifthly see if he is just wanting to go to a different church or something.

I feel for ya. Hang in there!

I work out of the home doing real estate.

I wish I had some wonderful advice to give you, but I don't. But what I do have is the Lord God Almighty, and I will be praying for you and your husband. I'm sure what you are going through is tough, but know that no matter what God is on your side. God Bless you, S.

Check out www.arbonne.com their sizzle opportunity. It's a real job, that you decide what you want to earn by your dedication. If you have questions give me a buzz, ____@____.com Good luck!

Marriage Counseling, it is the only thing that kept our marriage together. With the financial problems and other stresses counseling will help.

I don't know what to tell you but I will definitely be praying for you.