I've been with my husband 25 yrs, married 22 this upcoming New Years Eve.
Honestly, we do not do the card/gift routine. Never have/Never will. I do not expect anything from him just as he expects nothing from me. We've taught our daughter not to "expect" gifts. Our gifts are from the heart.
Our tradition is to celebrate these holidays as a family. On Mother's Day and Father's Day, we always go to a special brunch at our country club. For birthdays, we always have a cake and recognize the birthday person and Christmas we have traditional family things we do together.
We do things for each other during the year.....Example.... if he sees something nice he thinks I would love, he buys it and gives it to me. I do the same for him. The name of Mother's Day, Father's Day, Birthday, Valentine's, Christmas, Anniversary are just days to us. We celebrate each day we have and sometimes have nice surprises for each other. Our gifts to each other are given when we least expect it as surprise "happys" for each other, not as an obligatory holiday.
I realize some people do not understand our way of doing things and that is ok. Everyone does what is right for their family. I know if I did not give my mom a gift on Mother's Day, Christmas and Birthday she would be crushed. She expects a gift of some sort. I never "got" that.
I enjoy being with my family as much as I can and having the daily laughter, chat, and deep conversations we have on a regular basis.....that is what I love. I love being with my husband and daughter more than a card or gift. Actions are so much more than words.
Best wishes to you...